FFFC - Spill those beans.

nashamber

I'm sorry - I just couldn't wait for it. Share your Flame Free Friday Confessions! I'm crossing my fingers that my confession for the week isn't the worst one out there. Yikes!

nashamber

nashamber

I will likely get flamed, but here goes:

My friend and I were enjoying a nice lunch at a local restaurant. Seated near us was a woman, her child, her friend and her friend's child. The restaurant was nothing fancy, so I didn't really mind being near two extremely loud children. After being seated for 15 minutes, one of the children walked away from his table, walked to our table and purposefully grabbed our bread basket and threw it on the ground before I had the chance to snatch it out of his naughty little hands. I was shocked and almost had to pinch myself to make sure that what was happening was "real life" and not a nightmare.

The "wonderful" mother saw what her child did and called him over, "Ben. Beeen. Bennnnn. Come over here now!" And without apologizing or scolding her child she continued "girl talk" with her BFF. I was livid. I picked up the bread rolls and handed them to our waiter. Two minutes later the same child walked over to my table and threw his bread roll at us. The only three words I could think of was "What the FCK?" I loudly said "Ben, that is not nice. Throwing your food at anyone will put you on the naughty boy list!" Again the "super awesome" mother said "Ben, Ben, come over here now. Your lunch is getting cold." At this point, I had really bad thoughts of tackling his mom entered into my head.

I picked up the bread roll and put it on the side of my plate - not sure why? Perhaps I'd use it for ammunition the next time little Ben fires at my friend and I. I tried my best to enjoy my lunch but my insides were boiling. Out of the corner of my eye I saw little Ben grab another bread roll and walk to our table. Again he threw his roll at us, laughed and ran to his mom. His mom's friend laughed when she saw what happened and she explained the events to his mom. I could see both of them chuckling and they continued on with their conversation.

I was P-I-S-S-E-D. I ran through the events with my GF to make sure that I wasn't envisioning anything, and to make sure that she agreed that the "awesome" mom was fully aware of what her child was doing to us. I'm definitely not proud of the next series of events that happened - but I promise that it was a lot friendlier than option #2. You do NOT mess pregnancy hormones! I picked up the second bread roll from the ground, grabbed the first one that I held near my plate, walked up the mom and smashed both dirty bread rolls into her meal. With a smile I said, you allowed your son to ruin my meal, and now I'm ruining yours! While I understand that you weren't the one who purposefully knocked my bread rolls off my table, beamed me with a bread roll and then tried again but missed with a second bread roll, it is my understanding that you were fully aware of what your dear Ben was doing. I am not a "mom" and I've tried not to judge you, but seeing that you found your child's actions funny, I'm very worried for little Ben's future in society. It took every ounce of my being not to spank his little hands and yours. Enjoy ladies!"

And that my friends is my FFFC. (Gulp).

nashamber

In hindsight I probably should have brought it up with the manager, but that didn't even cross my mind during the rage.

The mom said "you think we are even but I didn't even like my entree anyway! You lose!" and then she stuck out her tongue. Not joking. I thought I was on candid camera because her actions were pretty much from a movie. When she went to the bathroom, her friend came over and apologized and told us that this isn't the first time it's happened.

Kuddos to her friend. I would be too mortified to eat in public with that mother and Ben.

nebrtwin

nashamber said:

In hindsight I probably should have brought it up with the manager, but that didn't even cross my mind during the rage. The mom said "you think we are even but I didn't even like my entree anyway! You lose!" and then she stuck out her tongue. Not joking. I thought I was on candid camera because her actions were pretty much from a movie. When she went to the bathroom, her friend came over and apologized and told us that this isn't the first time it's happened. Kuddos to her friend. I would be too mortified to eat in public with that mother and Ben.

I honestly wouldn't be friends with a mom like that, but I have a hard time biting my tongue when a kid is being naughty and the parents blatantly ignore the child's poor behavior. 

My FFFC - Tonight we are having a small gender (yes I know it's sex, but saying sex in this situation is just plain weird) reveal with friends and then FaceTiming family in from back in the States. I'm really hoping that SIL's connection is horrible and won't be able to see the reveal. Every time we announce something good that's going on in our lives she turns it around and makes it about her or puts it down. When we said that it was confirmed that we were only having one instead of two this time, we got back a ":(" response and that was it. 

hoping4aUNICORN

My SIL does the same, I am not a girlie girl and I feel she plays games! I'm not good at caddy girlie games!

My FFFC:
I've been feeling the wonderful frisky part of pregnancy lately, but I also feel so gross DH has not been involved if you know what I mean

CandEChicago

Having a restless night of sleep where i have been tossing and turning for over an hour. I am really wishing for a glass of wine,

ZAP12

Yesterday was my first shower in 5 days and the first time I changed clothes in 3. Thank god it's summer and I don't have to leave the house. And a big eff you to morning sickness sticking around.

MaineMama

I sent my real estate agent a list of houses we want to go see. On that list are two houses that we have no intention of buying (need too much work) but I just want to see them, so we are going. Flame away

AnonnAni

@nashamber you are way better than me, cuz Ben would have been sitting at our table on a time out after the first bread incident. I get that children are children but as an adult its your role in their lives to show them how they should be acting and she obviously has no clue she has to correct the behavior or at least try!!! If she tried and failed I would be saying your actions were over kill but to not even bother, what in the world are you teaching your child!

@MaineMama I (irrationally) cried at your post, just at the fact that you sent your realtor anything lol (i said it was irrational) . lol I am having the worst time with my realtor. I send her the listings she sends me nothing, shows me nothing, WTH earn your darn commission!!!

My FFFC is that it's already mid-summer and is finally warm enough here to do somethng with the kids outside and I am planning on doing NOTHING this weekend and keeping the kids in the house so I can lay around and be lazy (and hopfully convince them to take many naps so I can nap too- I so tired) (

AlwaysForgetful

It's nice outside, the drywallers don't care if we leave, and I am still sitting in my pjs in my living room and no one is dressed.

I am so tired... Having our bed in the living room sucks! All the kids join us and I don't get sleep.

Mikesfan

nashamber no flaming here! I would be livid too but the mom's actions (tongue out?!?!) prove that her kid had no chance of being a polite functioning member of society. 

My confession is that the baby is going to make me feel very sick on July 26th. That may or may not be the day of DH company picnic.  I would much rather him (and the twins) go to that hot, poorly catered boring outdoor pissing match and me sit home and watch Lifetime TV. 

norweigan

chayshay1408 said:

I haven't shaved....anything (except arm pits) in over 2 weeks....

welcome to the jungle. 

Hah that was also going to be mine, except only a little over a week. To make matters worse, I only wear dresses or skirts to work (I find them way more comfortable), and have stopped wearing nylons since my stomach started getting bigger, so I generally rely on the fact that I'm a natural blond and you usually can't see my leg hair. I looked down today when I was walking into work, and it's definitely visible. Looks like I'll be spending a lot of time sitting at my desk today. 

lionyloo32

I'm in the haven't been to the dentist in years camp over here. Ooops. I plan on making an appointment soon.

My FFFC: A couple weeks ago I chimed in on a post regarding drinking while pregnant. I was all "I will NOT be drinking and it's NOT worth the risk" etc. etc. Well, I had a nice cold glass of prosecco this week and it was SO good. I may have some next week too.

Edited to add: @nashamber I would've thrown the bread roll at the mom.  

kimba1976

Mine is pretty lame.

I belong to a parenting book club that meets monthly at an indoor playground to discuss a parenting book while our kids play. Tomorrow is the June meeting and I haven't even opened the book yet. I will spend an hour or two this evening reading the first few sections of each chapter and hope I can wing it. I've done this during the last two meetings as well. I only go because DD loves it and it gives me a chance to have some intelligent conversation.  

Saintelizabeth

@nashamber you're my new hero

MaggieN2028

@nashamber‌ I wish I had the balls to do that..I would have been so livid. If MH is with me, he's usually the one to make comments to people but I'm so not confrontational...I'm working on it...it would come in handy some days.


I'm boring and NEVER have a good FFFC but I'll try.
I was talking to a friend of mine who has a daughter who is 16 months old and she wants to have another baby. She said yesterday via text to me that she hopes it happens really soon because she wants another so badly. It took us 10 months to conceive and she had made a comment months ago about how she'd feel 'so bad if we got pregnant again before you guys'...,don't get me wrong I appreciate the sentiment...but I'm really hoping it takes them awhile so she understands that sometimes it takes time.

kimba1976

IamInigoMontoya said:

gradschoolmom1234 said:

@kimbra1976 - I do that all the time for grad classes... Even better than reading the first few sections of each chapter - read the first paragraph or two, then read the conclusion of each chapter. Conclusions usually sum up everything that the chapter said, where in the intro authors usually like to leave a little mystery! 

I pretty much survived grad school by only reading the introduction and conclusion of all of the articles assigned. Ain't nobody got time for the whole methods and results section when this all is summarized in the intro and conclusion anyway. 

And @kimba1976, I'm sure you could find a good summary online as well. 

Shit, you women are brilliant. I just did a search for "The Conscious Parent" and not only are there some great summaries of the book online, but the author did a freakin TED talk on the subject and it's on Youtube!!  I will have to try not to be too smug tomorrow when it's apparent that I'm the smartest one in the room (and never opened the book).

emeraldanchor

danisgossipgirl said:

Confession: I think that story is at least 50% bs. I have a hard time believing internet strangers.

I agree with you. It also made me feel squicky reading it. Just because we are pregnant doesn't give us the right to behave like that. It it is true, everyone acted ridiculous and I would be embarassed. The right thing to do is ask to be moved and say something to the manager.

MaggieN2028

Hufflepuff42 said:

Now that I have more energy, DH I need to catch up on the cleaning neglected b/c I was too tired to during the first Tri (DH couldn't do it all himself, nor did I expect him to). I really don't feel like doing it, though, but we know we must...

Also: This line of questioning disgusts me as a working-mom-to-be. https://time.com/2927598/matt-lauer-mary-barra-today-show/

That interview pisses me off.

nashamber

emeraldanchor said:

danisgossipgirl said:

Confession: I think that story is at least 50% bs. I have a hard time believing internet strangers.

I agree with you. It also made me feel squicky reading it. Just because we are pregnant doesn't give us the right to behave like that. It it is true, everyone acted ridiculous and I would be embarassed. The right thing to do is ask to be moved and say something to the manager.

Ha ha ha. I sincerely wish it was 50% BS for the mother's sake and mine. I tip my hat off to you for having a better plan of dealing with the issue than I did.

Mikesfan

ScrappyLika said:

I saw someone talking about the fruit we use to compare our baby to and it's weird if you eat it after.

FFFC: After every weekly picture I take, I eat to the fruit. The navel orange was the best so far.

You will have to let me know how the Durian and Jackfruit are...I have never even seen either of these

sarasarat

@nashamber - ROCK=YOU. My husband and I were eating breakfast at a diner, sitting at the counter, next to a woman and her ~4 year old son. I asked if I could use the salt, she hands it to her son and says "give this to the lady". The kid wouldn't give me the freaking salt. He started hugging it and saying "no! it's mine!" and other nonsense. I said "are you effing serious!?" and I snatched the salt out of the little brat's hand. The mom was ambivalent to the ordeal. Unbelievable.

My FFFC: yesterday I used "pregnancy brain" to "forget" to go to the store for milk for my husband because I was tired and didn't feel like stopping. And today I feel guilty for lying, and silly for not just admitting I was too tired. 

Cryssteen

FFFC: I clicked the link. I closed it before I scrolled.

goatlady12

A coworker told me because she's a scorpio and really intuitive she knows I'm having a boy.  She also said she's never wrong.  I've never wanted a girl so bad. 

momtoE25

IamInigoMontoya said:

My confession is that as long as my appointment today goes well, I plan on booking an elective ultrasound for early next week to hopefully find out the sex of my baby. I haven't even booked my A/S yet and I really want to know. I know I could just wait a few weeks and save the $99 it's going to cost me but I am not a particularly patient person. Plus my family will be here next week and then we're all going on vacation and I think it will be fun to tell them in person. 

I had my appt today that went great and scheduled my elective u/s for Monday. I'm extremely impatient and just couldn't wait a few more weeks. Plus, we are moving in about a week so I wanted to be able to share the news with our close friends at our little shindig we are having this week before we leave.

nashamber

PugLife5869 said:

nashamber said:

Confession: I think that story is at least 50% bs. I have a hard time believing internet strangers.

I agree with you. It also made me feel squicky reading it. Just because we are pregnant doesn't give us the right to behave like that. It it is true, everyone acted ridiculous and I would be embarassed. The right thing to do is ask to be moved and say something to the manager.

Ha ha ha. I sincerely wish it was 50% BS for the mother's sake and mine. I tip my hat off to you for having a better plan of dealing with the issue than I did.

It looks like I'm in the minority on this one but if you really did that then shame on both of you.  Yes, I think she was being inconsiderate and rude but that doesn't give you the right to publicly shame her and rub the bread in her food.  That makes you just as inconsiderate and rude in my opinion.  Maybe even more so because she is, apparently, oblivious to her crime but you knew exactly what you were doing. 

To be honest, this seems like a scenario I would play out in my head.  Kind of like when I picture kicking a certain coworker in the nuts and telling him exactly how I feel about his actions but I don't do it. That's why I don't believe it 100%.

Next time just tell the manager, ask to be moved, and enjoy the free meal that you get out of it.

I completely agree with you - totally a scenario you'd play out in your head. Unfortunately, I took it one too many steps further and went full throttle with it, and for that I am definitely not proud of my actions. Sadly, neither party in this scenario gained anything good from the events that day. Thank goodness for second chances in life, right? There will likely be a next time where something happens in a restaurant setting that completely pisses me off, and hopefully I rise above the issue.

goatlady12

katehgee said:

A coworker told me because she's a scorpio and really intuitive she knows I'm having a boy.  She also said she's never wrong.  I've never wanted a girl so bad. 

Every time my MIL sees me she says that she knows I'm having a boy. A few times I've said "well I think it's a girl. Guess we'll just have to wait and see."

The worst part about it is if they happen to guess right they are going to make a big deal out of it.  It's like, "You had a 50/50 shot, you're lucky go to the casino."

RosieB0514

chayshay1408 said:

I haven't shaved....anything (except arm pits) in over 2 weeks....

welcome to the jungle. 

My legs are pretty bad but I decided to bust out the shorts today anyway. We are just having a garage sale so I welcome the garage sale crowd to judge my furry stems! It's too hot to care.

norweigan

Going off my earlier shaving confession, we are going out of town this weekend and I totally plan on just using my husband's razor/shaving cream to shave. I swear men's razors are so much better. 

bombe4

I couldn't control myself and bought a deli meat sandwich from Ralph's while at the store the other day,

HorseFeathers3

@nashamber‌ you are my hero!

desertsun

I confess I'm surprised to see so many people giving the bread-smashing lady kudos.

Mvvs82

I am a middle school teacher and my DH's family asked me what were my plans for the summer. I said, " I plan to do absolutely NOTHING this summer! I just want to be lazy and relax before the baby arrives!"  

bibliophiletory

AJIrishMama said:

FFFC: I'm plus size and carry my weight in my midsection so I have a belly already. Sometimes if I don't feel good or I'm just impatient I won't suck in (it's habit after years of doing it now) and let people think I'm farther along than I am.

I did this just today, when I was waiting for cars to stop for me at the crosswalk in front of my work. I will take full advantage of starting out with chub pre-baby. Now if only there was some advantage to starting out with thunder thighs and a massive ass....

perfectlove09

Can I have a few FFFC?

twolittledogs said:

Uh, parenting shows up in 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.

I don't understand the quoted text above. I lurked a lot before joining this board, and I've seen that comment before since my introduction but I still don't get it. Is "parenting" the parenting board? A member's screen name? A group? I don't get it. Does she/they monitor this board for something? I'm just confused.

#2 I should be working at the office or driving home to work from home right now...instead I'm in my car in a parking lot eating lunch and reading the bump and a few blogs. I'm hiding and only feel slightly guilty for the break.

#3 it drives me crazy when someone posts a new discussion and then "loves it" to EVERY. SINGLE. REASPONSE. I don't know why it bugs me so much.

MaggieN2028

ashtonkitty1 said:

Here's my FFFC. To speak to the "teachers don't get paid enough discussion." I know teachers work hard and I know they work after school and on weekends. Guess what? So do lots of other professionals who don't get as much time off in the summer and a winter and spring break. You know who else gets paid shitty? Mental health and child protection workers. And the mental health workers have master's degrees.

I'm not saying teachers shouldn't get paid more, I'm just saying they aren't the only ones who are in that boat. I'm sure that there are plenty of other professionals who feel this way too.

I'm a teacher (kind of, work for a non profit program with HS kids at their high school) and I agree and understand your point. The big thing is what you point out later...there are a lot of professions where the employee isn't being paid for all of the work they do.

Many teachers where I work are getting or have their masters but because of budget cuts and freezes never move up in pay scale, so that's an issue too.

I get your point though. My job is year round so I do wish I was paid more but my summer working from home is a lot easier than so many other jobs.

....however if I had to deal with HS kids throughout the summer I think I'd go insane. So summer break is also a way to regenerate everything that's broken down throughout the year.

ZAP12

ashtonkitty1 said:

Yep you're right about the supplies. It's ridiculous that they have to do that in some districts. That's the other sad part is how lopsided it is between districts. The wealthier districts want for nothing around here while the lower income areas barely have glue. The child protection workers often end up buying kids food, that might be the only thing that really compares to the supplies.

Where I work, the low income schools get more stuff. My school has over 90% free and reduced lunch. We are title one and get books bought for our rooms, most rooms have laptops for each kid to use. The richer schools have no budget for that. It's supposed to even the playing field since most high income kids would have computers and books at home and my students don't. We also get grants easier because of our status. People want to help low SES kids. We are getting smart boards this year and no other school will have them. It's actually kind of interesting. I'm sure it's not like this everywhere, but it was something I didn't realize for my district until I worked here.

However my district has gotten rid of master's pay. I am getting mine for self satisfaction. I don't take issue with teacher pay as much as the people who say teachers are just babysitters and don't know what they're doing. We are trying our best in schools that dictate exactly what we do at every moment.

feeshah

I'm 15 weeks pregnant. I know I'm growing a tiny human and my body has change/is changing. I also know it's normal and natural but I still compare myself to other women. I lost a good amount of weight about a year ago. I felt good and healthy but still felt chubby. Then I let myself go. And then we decided to have a baby. Now I feel FN huge. I have neve weighed as much as I do now. Not ever. And I still have plenty to go. I have my pre preggo clothes and I can't believe I was that tiny. It just sucks. DH is awesome and tells me I'm beautiful. He reminds me I'm growing our baby so it's ok. He wants to bone me all the time so I know I'm kinda desirable. I just feel blah. I am looking forward to having our mini me but I am also looking forward to getting my body back.