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am I being overly paranoid?

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We're going OOT to visit DH's entire family, most of which are heavy smokers.  I told him I wanted everyone to wash their hands before touching G.  Smokers and non-smokers.  She's on the 6th week of being sick and already has a weakened immune system.  I don't want people spreading their germs or getting their smoky hands on her.  He totally blew me off and thinks I'm being unreasonable, because he grew up with smokers and he turned out just fine.  Totally a lame argument in my book.  But still, I need to convince him that he needs to tell his family to wash their hands or use hand sanitizer before touching G.  I don't want to be the bad guy, but I just might have to be at this point.

Any advice on how to handle this one?

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Re: am I being overly paranoid?

  • JLS0320JLS0320 member
    I don;t think you are being unreasonable at all, but I also don't know how you can mandate this policy. If you find a way please let us know because all of our friends smoke and I never want DS around them.
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  • ljlkmljlkm
    I'm afraid that if you feel that strongly about it, you're going to have to be the heavy.  GL!
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  • LaurenNBillLaurenNBill

    Send him this link. 

    https://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/35318118/ns/health-addictions/from/ET

    I just sent it to DH and am hopeful this wakes him up!  

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  • Heather & NaytHeather & Nayt member
    Stick to your guns. I am OCD about smokers touching DS. Try to be kind but firm.
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  • mistresscoxmistresscox member
    not overly paranoid IMO.  take a thing of hand sanitizer with you and keep it handy.  when someone reaches for her just squirt some in their hands.  it might be a little annoying at first, but eventually they'll get the hang of it.  good luck!
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  • JewelzNBeanJewelzNBean member

    Okay. I might get flamed for this, and that is okay.

    Let me preface - I am VERY anti smoking. To the point where I usually do my best to give super dirty looks to anyone I see smoking anywhere near a child.

    Anyway... as much as I hate it AND even after reading the article on third hand smoke that was posted her earlier... if it is just going to be for the weekend, I really don't think it is the end of the world. I think hand washing before baby touching is always a good idea, but I don't think that it will do serious harm to G if it doesn't happen.

    If they were always around, or going to DH's family's place was routine, it would be different. I think G will be okay though.

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  • JLS0320JLS0320 member
    Also, remember that even if they wash their hands, the smoke remnants are still in their clothing and hair...so hand washing may be the least of your concerns
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  • 1SwtWld1SwtWld member

    imageJLS0320:
    Also, remember that even if they wash their hands, the smoke remnants are still in their clothing and hair...so hand washing may be the least of your concerns

     

    Ugh true.  I just dread going over this one relative's house.  The baby shower gifts they gave us reeked of smoke--that's pretty bad.  I do not want to go over there.  

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  • mrsmcdonaldmrsmcdonald member

    You will probably have to be the heavy. While I agree about the smoking thing, I think you should focus on the immune system issue, not the smoking. Hopefully people will be less defensive about it, if you make it all about the baby's health.

    I always quote the pedi...even if I haven't talked with him ;)

    If people ask to hold her, just say "I might be a little paranoid, but she is just getting over ::insert illness here:: Her pediatrician recommends we sanitize regularly...Do you mind?" Bring your own little bottle of hand sanitizer and squirt it in their hands as they reach out for DD. It worked every time for me. And I made a show of sanitizing myself, just for effect.

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    imagemrsmcdonald:

    You will probably have to be the heavy. While I agree about the smoking thing, I think you should focus on the immune system issue, not the smoking. Hopefully people will be less defensive about it, if you make it all about the baby's health.

    I always quote the pedi...even if I haven't talked with him ;)

    If people ask to hold her, just say "I might be a little paranoid, but she is just getting over ::insert illness here:: Her pediatrician recommends we sanitize regularly...Do you mind?" Bring your own little bottle of hand sanitizer and squirt it in their hands as they reach out for DD. It worked every time for me. And I made a show of sanitizing myself, just for effect.

     

    Good idea.  I think I'll do that.

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  • JLS0320JLS0320 member
    imageJen&Carl:

    imageJLS0320:
    Also, remember that even if they wash their hands, the smoke remnants are still in their clothing and hair...so hand washing may be the least of your concerns

     

    Ugh true.  I just dread going over this one relative's house.  The baby shower gifts they gave us reeked of smoke--that's pretty bad.  I do not want to go over there.  

    Yuck, we got xmas presents from friends that also reeked of smoke, stunk the house up. I smoked for almost 10 yrs but quit 3 yrs ago, I am so grossed out by it now 

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