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Getting P!ssed at DH (vent - obviously)

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A little background first:  I'm on strict bed rest for high blood pressure.  I just got out of the hospital on Saturday after a two night stay because of it.  I was sent from my NST appointment straight to L&D and had to drive myself to the hospital (right across the street from my OB office).  I wasn't allowed to drive myself home on Saturday and DH hasn't gone to get it, so my car is still in the hospital parking lot.

 

Fast forward to today:  I have been trying to call and text DH for 45 minutes now.  Granted, it's not over anything important.  I just wanted to see if he was going out for lunch and, if so, I wanted to see if he would bring me something since his office is literally two blocks from our house and would be on his way back to the office.  He hasn't answered 3 calls or two texts.  Now, given the fact that I've been in and out of the hospital with something everyone says is so serious, and given that my OB is "surprised" I'm still pregnant and she hasn't had to deliver the baby yet, plus the fact I have no car at home right now, is it not reasonable to expect my DH to answer my effin' calls?  What if this WAS an emergency???  Uggghhhhh!

 

ETA:  He finally called back - an hour and a half after I started trying to get in touch with him.  He went to lunch and left his phone at his office.  I told him that probably wasn't smart and he should probably make sure he had his phone with him from now on.  He felt bad for leaving his phone so he's bringing me lunch even though he's already gotten his lunch.

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  • goinggreengirlgoinggreengirl
    Yeah, my DH would be in trouble when he finally got back to me if he did that. Maybe you need to talk to him tonight and let him know that he needs to make sure and answer immediately.
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  • stillbluestillblue

    I would be pissed also. I would 1 of 2 things,

    #1 - When he does call back I would be pissy and just let him know BUT maybe he is in a meeting????

    #2 - (hormones talking here) I would NOT answer his calls 4 a bit and let him worry, maybe he will show up at the house and see I am fine, I can then explain why answering my call is important.

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  • erinkate23erinkate23

    I would be upset too.  That must be frustrating/scary.  He needs to put himself in your shoes - you are totally reliant on him and it's a very stressful time for you.

    A question (which may be totally off base - please forgive me if it is) - do you often text him/call him 5 times in 45 minutes while he's at work?  You might run into a little bit of the "cry wolf" syndrome if it's a regular thing for you to do.  Be careful how much you blow up his phone for non-emergencies; you don't want to de-sensitize him to the real emergency.

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  • LittleL17LittleL17 member
    Oh I'm sorry. I can understand why you'd be upset. Maybe he's busy and realizes it's just for lunch? My DH did this to me last week during our "ice storm". I tried to calmly explain to him (once he finally answered) that no matter what he was doing, if I called back to back, please answer b/c it could be important. Maybe you could set that same thing up with your DH. But, be careful that you only do it for important things or he won't take it seriously! Smile
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  • blissfully_caffeinatedblissfully_caffeinated
    Your Dh sounds like my SO. Is it possible that he's busy at work? When my SO gets busy he'll glance at my texts to make sure it's not anything important. If it isn't, he'll go back to work and get back to me when he has a chance. If it is, he'll excuse himself from whatever he's doing at work and call me right then. kwim? But if that's not the case I would be seriously peeved.
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  • bump54321bump54321 member
    imageerinkate23:

    I would be upset too.  That must be frustrating/scary.  He needs to put himself in your shoes - you are totally reliant on him and it's a very stressful time for you.

    A question (which may be totally off base - please forgive me if it is) - do you often text him/call him 5 times in 45 minutes while he's at work?  You might run into a little bit of the "cry wolf" syndrome if it's a regular thing for you to do.  Be careful how much you blow up his phone for non-emergencies; you don't want to de-sensitize him to the real emergency.

     

    No, I don't text or call him that often while he's at work.  If I do text him or call him, I usually wait for him to respond and he's generally pretty good about responding quickly.  My car is usually here at the house.  So normally I wouldn't panic or get upset if he didn't answer, because I know if I really needed to I could get myself where I need to go even if I'm not "supposed" too. 

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  • cathylynn1213cathylynn1213
    I HATE it when my DH forgets his phone. I remind him that he has a pregnant wife at home, and it might be important-- and I'm not on bedrest or anything like that. Guys don't think sometimes... sorry he was stressing you out.
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