for those who have already had your shower

wifey type · February 2010

my shower is in a week. and my friend who's planning it has only had a couple people call to confirm they are coming. my mom and myself have spoken to multiple people who mentioned they are coming to the shower but who have not called the hostess. is it possible that they think by telling us that they are coming that they don't have to call the hostess? and also for those who have had showers previously is it unusual for some people to not even RSVP but to show up on the day of the shower?

nlvaden · February 2010

yup. I had 10 people rsvp and 42 showed up.

blissfully_caffeinated · February 2010

A lot of people don't seem to understand the concept of RSVPing. Yes, it's likely that people who have not RSVP'd will show up. It's also likely that whomever told you they were planning on coming thought that was their RSVP.

grapeape73 · February 2010

Yep! It is just rude in my opinion.

Brytany09 · February 2010

We had about 12 RSVP and 35 or so showed up.

Kiki-licioius · February 2010

I would relay to the host the RSVPs that you've gotten. Lots of people will not RSVP but attebd anyway.

asupergirl09 · February 2010

nobody officially RSVP'd to my shower tonight... but there was 12 people there.....nice - huh

wifey type · February 2010

thanks ladies! my shower is on the small side so when she told me only two people had called, it made me think that no one would show up. and i wasn't sure how to handle the random people just telling us that they would be there since they were supposed to call her and not me. and i guess i will just be hoping more will show up that haven't actually RSVP'd.

krausen · February 2010

We only had like 3 people rsvp & had 30+ show up. So I don't think ppl even pay attention to that part of the invite. But those ppl that just told you they were going to be there prob think you will just pass it on to the hostess.

sarahmae8 · February 2010

I had some people RSVP who did not show up. And we had some people who would call me to RSVP instead of the hostess, which, IMO, is rude. Tell your guests to confirm with the hostess so she can be sure of how many people to prepare for.

ABColeslaw · February 2010

Seriously, Hardly anyone responded to our rsvp, but we had like 50 ppl at our shower!

AlisonLynn · February 2010

Yeah. People are horrible at RSVPing. I had people tell me they were coming but not call the host. I had to ask some. I think its rude but it happens.

FemmeNat01 · February 2010

Everyone had to RSVP to my shower because it was at a hall and we had to give them a number for food. We did have other people show up but most people did RSVP.

melody921 · February 2010

THis is one of my biggest pet peeves of shower planning. After hosting numerous bridal and baby showers, I can tell you anything goes. People should be responding only to the host -- maybe for anyone who tells you or your mom, you can encourage them to call the host too. Otherwise, how do they know how much food to make, places to set in the restaurant, etc? No one unexpectedly showed up at mine. We were missing two people though who had said they'd be there.

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