Why is it odd for someone to host the shower at your house?

MrsEmm · February 2010

Im honestly wondering why? Bad?etiquette??

TinyTeacher · February 2010

I just think it's odd because I've never heard of it or seen it done.

Maybe it's completely normal elsewhere, I have no idea.

katie277s · February 2010

I have no idea...

jess60 · February 2010

I don't see a problem with it.

KSEDmini · February 2010

I vote that it's not odd.

Edit: maybe it's not odd for the guest but it's strange for the shower recipient because there is cleanup after and a lot of setup to do. I don't know...TBH I think it's more convenient.

flippy1234 · February 2010

I was kinda wondering the same thing. MIL has already offered to host my shower this summer, and she hasn't asked, but I am assuming it will be at my house. We have the most space and all "events" always end up here. Plus, not having to lug all the gifts home is a bonus.

hydies33 · February 2010

I don't think it is. One of my showers will be at my house. My friends wanted to do it here so people could see the nursery, and I thought it was nice that I could let it be here so they didn't have to pay to rent a place.

Their names will be on the invites, not mine, so I don't see a problem at all.

Brougham7-15-06 · February 2010

I personally see no issue with it if all parties agree....but I am not the etiquette police!

The one baby shower I hosted my friend had suggested having it at her house...like 2 minutes away, but I declined because then she would have had to clean her house (which she hates), and then I would be fumbling in her kitchen to make food, reorganizing things, decorating etc. It was just easier this way.

ckred27 · February 2010

I like the idea, then you dont have to transport all that baby stuff

alexiskiriluk · February 2010

I think its fine. And then all the gifts are at your house and you dont need to deal with getting the to you house.

2010mommy! · February 2010

glad to see these responses. yeah, it didn't even occur to me that it was odd until someone posted that it was. but i'm glad to know that others don't think it's weird!

Mom_E224 · February 2010

I've never had a problem with it. I think it just makes things easier on moms. That way we don;t have to move things from location A to location B.

MrsEmm · February 2010

flippy1234:
I was kinda wondering the same thing. MIL has already offered to host my shower this summer, and she hasn't asked, but I am assuming it will be at my house. We have the most space and all "events" always end up here. Plus, not having to lug all the gifts home is a bonus.

Mine was hosted at my house because my SIL & mother both worked together to throw one shower for all the family. My house was midway between where my family and my IL's live.?

BFab11 · February 2010

I think it's fine, and then you don't have to lug presents home! Maybe since you're the guest of honor you shouldn't be worried about cleaning and getting the house ready? Idk, I don't see a problem with it.

MrsEmm · February 2010

TinyTeacher:
I just think it's odd because I've never heard of it or seen it done.
?Maybe it's completely normal elsewhere, I have no idea.

says the mom who isnt getting infant seats .... ? ;-)

harper14 · February 2010

I don't think it's odd at all. I know plenty of people that have their showers at their homes. If I could I think it would be great, less for me to hall around and I'm having three none at my home.

karatechrissy · February 2010

It's not odd, unless you are the one hosting your own shower. Now that, is odd. Easier so the mom to be doesn't have to transport everything back to her house! If the house is big enough and she doesn't mind, I say do it at the mom to be's house!

mrsjenni · February 2010

It's not odd in the least...

mysticporter · February 2010

I've never been invited to one at someone's own house. I guess I figured part of the 'gift' of throwing the shower for the person was dealing with the set-up/clean-up. From the strictest etiquette standpoint I suppose it might drift into worrying if it might give the appearance of hosting it yourself, but I more would find it strange because I haven't seen it done by anyone I know personally.

kg_08 · February 2010

I don't think it's odd if someone else is hosting and just planning to have it at your house, especially if your house makes sense with size or is centrally located.

derdiggity · February 2010

I don't think it's odd at all, as long as it's clear to the guests that there are is a host or hostesses other than the mom-to-be. If I had a shower at my house, it wouldn't bug me at all, and I my hosts are comfortable with me and my home enough that I wouldn't feel like I have to do anything but be the guest of honor

kategw · February 2010

I think its fine too. I think some people might find it odd because "proper etiquette" demands that you not host your own shower. But if its being hosted by someone else and your house is just the venue. BFD!

LovePink2850 · February 2010

I don't think it's odd. My location is more ideal than anyone elses so far.

missdanib · February 2010

I suggested my house. My bridal shower was a slight PIA for me to get everything home, plus, I just like my house!

Bride2bMO · February 2010

I don't give it a second thought for others, and am attending a shower like this on Sunday, but I could never do it. Perhaps because it too closely resembles throwing your own shower? Even if that's not the case. I'd be paranoid that guests were clucking their tongues about it.

carolrohrsetzer · February 2010

My shower will be at my house and it is being host by a couple of my friends, they suggested it to be at my house so I don't have to move the gifts anywhere. We moved into our house in november and some of the friends haven't seem it yet and we have space for everyone !!! I am happy because I will be 34 weeks and I will be comfortable at my house.

teelaman · February 2010

Personally, I think it's kind of neat to go to a shower at the recipient's house (as long as they're on board, of course). First, like everyone's saying, all the stuff is there, and they don't have to worry about hauling it all home. On top of that - as a person who has gone to showers, I admit I kind of like to snoop and see what they've done with the nursery. The whole point is the baby, and I think it's neat to see what the mom's have done as far as the nursery goes. It adds to the excitement.

Laura0575 · February 2010

My MIL and SIL are throwing mine at my house. It's just easier. And cheaper.

epona3 · February 2010

I don't think it's odd either. We had one at my friend's house b/c she was on bedrest. We cleaned her house for her beforehand (since she obviously couldn't) and cleaned up afterwards. It was also nice that she didn't have to move the presents afterwards. I think it'd be a really good way to do it!

marykaybride · February 2010

I don't think it's odd. I went to a shower last month that was at the mom-to-be's house. The hostesses came over the night before and cleaned her house and did all the set up and clean up. As a guest, it was really cool to come over and see the nursery all set up during the shower. The gifts were all taken directly to the nursery and there was no need for her to have help hauling stuff from one location to another - they just took stuff down the hall.

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