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Thanks girls -- for all the support and kind words!!
belle, cooker --- just saw your posts this morning. Thank you!!! 
I keep thinking about what sumner said about treating me like I would treat my best friend --- it makes me cry to think about it. But I think I need to remind myself of that...like every minute of every day! I would NEVER treat my BFF (or any of my friends) the way I treat myself.
Grace -- I just want to hug you. And wish you lived closer b/c I think you have some great insight in to what I'm living with.
All in all, I am bad to myself but really, when it comes down to it, I don't hold myself to ANY standards. I let myself just loaf along and don't do anything to fix it. If it were my BFF, I would be MUCH more kind --- but I would expect that she would make some changes. Sounds so ....backwards....or something.
And I've realized this whole cycle thing --- yea, it's because I'm SOOOO close to the edge every day of my freaking life that ONE thing (can be big or small), pushes me over the edge. I don't have the mental stability to deal with anything more than the "norm" on a daily basis so if I throw myself a curve ball by analyzing...............forget it! I'm a mess.
Cam had donuts for breakfast -- a school thing. Donuts with dad today. Joey had carrots with ranch dressing (his pick). BUT they both had 8oz of milk upon waking up. I feel like a failure already for that but I'm going to listen to emilykristene and just chalk it up to a learning experience and try to do things different through the rest of the day.
How do I stop my mind from going to tomorrow -- and the next day and the next day? Because right now, I want to say "Well, I already screwed up. And I KNOW there is no way I can maintain this for any length of time. So might as well give up now!"
ARGH! Sorry to bore you guys with all this, once again, Jodi drama.
THANK YOU again for the support and for not flaming me!
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Re: Thanks girls -- for all the support and kind words!!
This is my problem with my own weightloss issue. You just can not allow yourself to think like that. Make the mistake, but make a better choice next time. No sense in beating yourself up about it. Doesn't sound like they've eaten badly today. Mine always start with a cup of milk in the am, and we are known to do dounut runs on the weekends - even sometimes as a snack in the afternoon. You can do this and you HAVE to do it! Don't fall back into your old habits. We're here for you.
so f*cking what if they had 8oz of milk or a donut. You can't make a change like that all at once. You have to take baby steps and a few times a day, try to replace a crappy snack with a healthy one. I think its all genetics.
B eats a decent breakfast everyday containing a bagel, or pancakes, or waffles, almost always bacon on the weekends. For lunch, she has a plate of homemade food, practically adult size and she snacks like all damn day. BUT, she's still only 29 lbs, thats just how she was built.
Yes, I do think you can and should make changes to the diet not just for them, but for your entire family. But like I said, one step at a time.
Baby steps. (And I know you're not used to those!!)
We all have stuff we have to work on. ALL of us, no matter what people say. Don't believe everything you hear on the Interwebz.
And if you are going to make some changes with the kids-- try talking to the school about the donuts. Say that you are trying to make healthier choices for your kids, and donuts sabotage those efforts. They may not change it now, but if you say something, and another parent says something... see where I am going with this? It's not something that you have to do in your house, but it could be your baby step for today.
You just need to see that tiny things will add up.
DS - December 2006
DD - December 2008
It's not easy to make huge changes like this. I know. I have been trying really hard at home myself. My ss is overweight. His mom is not the type of person to cook a meal. She makes things out of a box. Since he has been living with us, we have been cooking meals every night that are balanced. We try to keep good snacks in the house. Of course there is still junk too, but it's getting better. And he has been here for over 2 months...it takes time and effort. Hopefully we can help him loose some weight and have some stability and self esteem that he has always lacked. It helps that I now have a diagnoses of Celieac. That keeps a lot of stuff out of the pantry because I can't have it!
As for the other issues, have you ever had a full physical? I was a mess a year ago. Since I have had a physical and found that I have Hashimoto's and Celiec things have improved 100%. I am now eating right and taking the correct medications to regulate my hormones. And the thyroid issue would have never been found with a regular blood test. If I didn't mention that my neck felt swollen and had the dr run a special test i would still be undiagnosed. Of course the Cymbalta helps too!
Jodi, with the small amount I know about you, I know you CAN do it. It is just a huge change, and it seems like you are just overwhelmed with the task at hand. Just take little steps and take the small victories when they come and soon they will be giant victories. It just takes time. you can't worry about the small mistakes or bad decisions just realize them and start again. You are a strong person and when it is right for you, you will make those changes.
I'll be your cheerleader, and will help you with anything you need.
what, you think they are going to go from eating hot dogs to turkey dogs with no complaints? go from drinking 24+oz of milk a day to under 16oz without a complaint?
Go from eating processed foods to non-processed easily. NO! (And hell, *I* don't even know what to make for them --- THAT is the most overwhelming part.) I will second guess everyfuckingthing that goes in their mouth. Like those mini raviolis -- are those good or not?!
Add in all that to the fact that I clearly don't even know what is good and what isn't............and the fact that, for me, it's not about feeding my kids ONE thing and me another. Leading by example is just as important in this --- and last, I have a REALLY hard time doing "baby steps!"
But yea, it should be really easy to make the change for them! HA!
Take a trip to Borders and find a good, healthy cookbook. It's a good place to start. Like I said, I know from recent experience it isn't easy. But it can be done.
And as far as grocery shopping, you stay on the "outsides" of the store. Learned that at weight watchers years ago. Stick to produce, seafood, meat, bakery (for breads, not cake:)) and dairy. Most of the center aisles are full of junk.
Depends on which mini raviolis you are talking about.
The frozen cheese ones in the bags are pretty good.
https://caloriecount.about.com/calories-rosina-mini-round-cheese-ravioli-i107158
Chef Boyardee canned ones? Not so great. High fat (inc. saturated), high sodium, and just not "the full serving of veggies" that they advertise.
https://www.nutritiondata.com/facts/meals-entrees-and-sidedishes/5990/2
DS - December 2006
DD - December 2008
Have you ever tried writing down your worries/feelings?
I used to use post it notes and now I use a journal.
If I write it down, then I can forget about it instead of letting it fester.
So you write down, "kids' breakfast = not so great, feeling badly about that but am going to try for healthier lunch or snack."
And the kids might complain about the new choices. J sure did. She cried about goldfish crackers. But I just shrugged and said, "sorry kiddo, that's just the way it is, how about some raisins."
I can't tell the difference between turkey hotdogs and regular. My DH is a fanatic when it comes to healthy foods. I have to make two different meals all the time. I'll make mine (and the kids) in butter but use olive oil for DH. Will your kids drink 1% or skim milk? I think the best way is to just start substituting. You could (for instance) by the frozen mini-ravioloi that has to be cooked. You could cook them and then refreeze them in sauce if you want. You can do this with homemade mac and cheese. I didn't see your other posts regarding the reason for the change...but limiting the processed foods will defintely eliminate a lot of sodium. If you kids will eat broccoli you can make your own cheese sauce (and even make enough to keep it in the fridge). Snacks can be carrot sticks, frozen peas, frozen corn, almonds, Cheerios, etc. I'm overweight myself and "know" all the rules and what is healthy and what is not...heck I live with a freaking healthfood nut...my DH....but I don't follow them for myself. I think because I am overweight I was always very concious abotu what my kids ate. We always have a protein (meat, beans, fish, cheese), two veggies or one veggie and one salad at every meal. Hardly ever have bread...unless it is used in a sandwich. We rarely had/have dessert. We also are not big snackers. My kids get milk 3 times a day (at meal time only). We also kept the kids in sports (oldest DS in baseball, soccer, football and basketball) and (oldest DD in softball, basketball, volleyball, and karate) to keep them moving. We live in the country and when the older kids were growing up the video games weren't as big as they are now. At least not in our house. Neither my DH or I are into video games at all.
I think you just have to do what the others suggest and take it one day at a time. On week-ends try to make some things up in advance and put them in containers or baggies in the fridge (so they are all ready to heat up or to eat for snacks). That way you can't go back to old habits. You can do it.
You've already started hon! The fact that you want to change and are aware of your wrongdoings is a good place to start. That's how change happens!
Check out some books at the library. Also sounds like you need to sit down and have a family meeting. That's what I'd do. Sit down and tell the kids about the changes that are coming. Set an example. If they see you doing it, it'll be easier. Try not to look at it in such a large scale. Do ONE meal at a time. Once you get more comfortable, sit down with no distractions and plan a few meals, or a weeks worth of meals. Take that meal plan and head to the grocery store. I sometimes order my groceries online and have them delivered. That prevents me from wanting to buy crap too. I don't know if you have that in your area, but it has saved me cash and calories!
Good luck today! YOU CAN DO IT!
veggie dogs, jodi- they'll never know the difference!
and irish oatmeal with blueberries for breakfast!
and whole grain bread with peanut butter and reduced sugar jelly!
and stir fry, brown rice, snap peas
brown rice and beans with peas and carrots- its yummy AND easy, and almost a perfect food- you can even add a little soy sauce- I prefer vinegar.
you can do this. I don't see anything wrong with them having a glass of milk this am. just don't give them 4 more!
soy milk and hemp milk are great.
( I know I keep giving vegetarian examples- but I don't knwo anything about meat- or how to make it healthy.)
Are you more afraid of not being able to change the diets and really not knowing how to, or of having to deal with the kids getting upset and having to deal with them being angry and having to stick with the healthier eating?
Because I know its much easier when they are having a fit over food, its easier to give in than stand your ground.
A lot of things can be substituted without them even knowing. My DD loves chocolate milk so instead of the full sugar syrup, I give her the less sugar one as a treat. She can't even tell.
I second the Eat this not that books too.
But you have to be willing to stand your ground if they put up a fight