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How do I politely tell her to stfu?

Grk_NatashaGrk_Natasha member
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My MIL is insisting that A) I breastfeed and B) we get rid of our maltese when the baby comes. How do I (non-violently) shut her up?!? Baby isn't even here yet and she is driving me insane!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Re: How do I politely tell her to stfu?

  • justinlovesmejustinlovesme

    Tell her simply you and DH will be making the decisions regarding raising the baby. 

    You don't have to be rude, but you may have to be blunt to get through. 

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  • micaelasmakeupmicaelasmakeup member
    Just say I'll think about it.  My mom is totally against CDing and won't STFU about it so I just keep saying good point I'll think about it.  It has worked like a charm.  I'm still going to CD and she thinks I'm taking her advice:)





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  • smorzandojsmorzandoj member
    "Thanks for your thoughts but DH and I are going to make the decisions we feel is best for us and our baby."
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  • MrsHollyMeteshMrsHollyMetesh member
    imagejustinlovesme:

    Tell her simply you and DH will be making the decisions regarding raising the baby. 

    You don't have to be rude, but you may have to be blunt to get through. 

    Bingo! :-) Her role as a mother is over. You're the mommy now!!

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  • BarbieNCSUBarbieNCSU

    lol these types of posts make me happy to know I'm not the only one with an overly pushy MIL.

    That being said here are some humorous things I have heard other people state about them not wanting to breasfeed - you could tell her it would take an act of congress for you to breast feed or that you have an 18 or older rule.

    The approach I always take with mine is to simply tell her that I will be looking into lots of different things, asking my doctors their opinions, and then the DH and I will decide what is best for our child. Even though most days I just want to yell - which she would probably just blame on hormones and really not be affected by it at all.  

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  • mexicolombianamexicolombiana member

    "Please stfu?"

    ha ha jk.  I don't know, why don't you tell your DH to do it since he's the son and he won't have to be as polite as you!





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    imageMrsHollyMetesh:
    imagejustinlovesme:

    Tell her simply you and DH will be making the decisions regarding raising the baby. 

    You don't have to be rude, but you may have to be blunt to get through. 

    Bingo! :-) Her role as a mother is over. You're the mommy now!!

    Ditto.

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  • mrsreillymrsreilly

    Well she can insist on all manner of things all she wants, but in the end you're going to do whatever you want.

    Just tell her that's an interesting idea, or I'll talk about that with DH and leave it at that.  She can't FORCE you to do anything she's talking about so don't sweat it.

    You should also certainly be very clear on your own position on these things, but ignore or "that's interesting" all future conversations about it.

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  • justinlovesmejustinlovesme
    imageBarbieNCSU:

    lol these types of posts make me happy to know I'm not the only one with an overly pushy MIL.

    Most definitely not.  My MIL actually calls the baby by our boy name because she "knows" it is a boy, because she had two boys.  I was also reminded that babies are to be put to sleep on their backs now.  Confused I have more...many, many more. 

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  • Mrs. RecklingMrs. Reckling member
    I havent had a problem with MIL but FIL insists that I get rid of my cats.  I wasnt very polite and told him that my cats are not going anywhere and if they do so is Hs dog.
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  • kg_08kg_08 member
    Tell her that those are personal decisions that you and DH will discuss. Plain and simple.
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  • KittahMamaKittahMama
    Say something like "I appreciate your advice!! I am sure you and your husband followed all the advice your mother in law gave you as well!!"
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  • amiseripamiserip member
    Just tell her you'll consider it, and move on!
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  • Just_JennJust_Jenn

    When she brings it up, act interested in what she has to say, and ask her "So how did you decide you were going to breastfeed when you had [DH's name]?" (I'm sure she will LOVE sharing her experience with you!!)

    Then listen politely to her answer, which I guarantee will NOT be "because my MIL told me to"!!! LOL Then you can respond with "Oh, so you just learned about your options/listened to your dr/did what you thought was best? [however she answered]  That's a good idea, I think that's how we'll make our decision too. Thanks!"

    :)

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  • jdmiller28jdmiller28

    If you're uncomfortable with telling her how you feel - then talk to DH and tell him. She'll probably be ticked with you, because she will know where it came from but that is his family - and I always feel it's better to have DH deliver the bad than have it coming from me.

    Or if you're comfortable, tell her that you're still trying to figure out what you want to do and it'll be a decision that you and DH make together. 

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