Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: s/o How much does your 3 year old weigh?
I think even a few lbs is a lot - 3 lbs is 10% of body weight.
Mitch won't be 3 until June and he's about 33 lbs.
Audrey is 4 1/2 and she weighs 31 lbs.
The kids eat the exact same things.....Audrey picks apart all foods, inspects, examines, and eats with her fingers. Mitch shovels with whatever is in front of him.
J is 3 in april- she's 32-ish, and tall. I don't know what she is on the chart...
I guess I didn't think of it like that.
Eric was 29 lb. at his 3 yr check-up. That was 15% percentile.
Kyle was 33 lb. at his 3 yr check-up. 50th percentile.
I think the difference in percentile between Cam and Brew's kiddos is that boys and girls have different charts so if a boy and girl weigh the same, the girl will be at a higher percentile.
Ryan 5/2010, Kyle 1/2007, Eric 3/2005
Jackson varies from 35-37lbs, but at his 3 year appointment he was 36, which was the 88th percentile, I believe.
His height percentile was somewhere in the 90s.
Jackson has always been in the upper percentiles for both height and weight and our pediatrician(s) have never been concerned.
Ok, that also makes sense.
pfffffffffffft. Emilia weighs between 42lbs and 44lbs. She will be 3 in March. Miles was also super tall at 3.
She is super tall and proportioned. She is just an ogre.
Christmas 2011
DD was 32 pounds at 3, but she was also 42 inches I think that makes a HUGE difference.
Also boy and girl charts are different.
At 3 DD was around 28 lbs I think. She was 34-36" tall.
dd was 26lb (5th percentile, which was an improvement to her being <3rd for so long) and 36" ... this year at her 4 yr she bumped up in percentiles... she's almost 32lb (25th percentile) and 39" (37thpercentile... she had been avging around 10th prior)
Matthew is 34.8 lbs at last weighin. He was around the 75th %ile, I think.
But he was also 40.5 inches, which is 95%+
His BMI is something like 14.5. That's 5%, and barely normal. If he lost a bit, he'd be considered underweight.
DS - December 2006
DD - December 2008
Annalise was 36 1/2 lbs and 41 1/2" at her 3 year appointment.
She was 38 lbs around Christmas time (so pretty close to 3 1/2 yrs) and is probably 43" now.
Charlotte Ella 07.16.10
Emmeline Grace 03.27.13
Kelly Monaghan's 5K - 5/15/11 - 3rd Place in AG
Walk the Talk 5K - 5/18/11 - 31:12 PR
Ridley Run 3.1 - 4/14/12 - 1st race of the year, 32:45
We're right about here with DD1. She hasn't been officially weighed since last March.
I didn't realize she was such a giant compared to other kids here. She's very proportioned--and probably a bit on the tall side. She settled into a percentile around the time she was 2 and has stayed on that curve so I figure she's okay.
Christian Alexander - 11/13/06
Amelia Rose & Owen Thomas - 3/29/11
Hey, my DD is big. She weighs 39 pounds, and she won't be three until the end of April. She is 40 inches tall.
I am very big too though...six feet tall, and not fat at all...so I think in her case it's ok, but I will be asking her pedi at her 3 yr. We never feed her juice, she drinks skim milk etc...we limit junk.