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Does the man in your life need to grow up?

anmorgan32anmorgan32 member
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I've been so frustrated for the last couple of weeks. My DH has been going out with his friends like 1-2 nights a week. I'm talking staying out to bar close and maybe even going to get "breakfast" after bar close. I absolutely hate waking up at 2:30am or later and he's still not home. I have told him this many, many times but, it doesn't seem to help. He just looks at me all sad that I'm sad and like he feels bad, but he doesn't understand and he just goes out anyways. How do I get it across to him that he is 29 with a baby on the way and doesn't need to be going out drinking with his buddies every week (sometimes multiple nights a week)?? Am I the only one that has this issue?
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Re: Does the man in your life need to grow up?

  • NateBeccaNateBecca member
    My DH doesn't go out like yours, but just does somethings sometimes that makes me wonder if he will grow up and handle this coming baby.  I have faith that it will change as we get closer, but in the mean time it's hard to deal with.  I wish you luck in your situation.
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  • JoBieger05JoBieger05
    Yup...like your DH mine does that too. Coming home not quite as late as yours, but I'll wake up at 12:00 and he's not there. And we just got home from the beach today and I was thinking that he would stay home with me, but nope he went out to his uncle's house and took our PS3 to play golf. Like he couldn't sit at home and do the same exact thing? I mean really. I wish you luck with your DH. Mine is hard-headed and stubborn.
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  • vegandyvegandy
    I wouldn't tolerate that & DH knows it.  We both have our seperate lives but staying out that late especially if it bothers you is disrespectful.  I also think 29 is a bit old to still be bar hopping until 3am, so I really feel for you girl!  I hope things get better.
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  • allyandpat2010allyandpat2010
    Mine does it about once a week. Usually he is home by midnite or so. Sometimes I get mad about it just because with our schedules we don't get that much time together and he wants to spend it out with the boys. I'm not a big fan of his friends either- DH is 33 and we have our 4th baby on th way- his friends are all early 20's and single and no repsonsibilities. Its not fun being the pregnant one stuck and home with the kids all the time too.... I will be putting my foot down about this when Mikayla is born as I am going to need a break by the time 9pm rolls around.
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  • anmorgan32anmorgan32 member
    His excuse is that he has to get it out of his system before the baby gets here. I agree, it should be out of his system at this point. Ugh...if it happens again, I think we are going to have to have a very serious conversation and I'm going to have to put my foot down.
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  • AllieJeanAllieJean
    My DH doesnt go out all the time but I cant tear him away from his Playstation 3. His parents were going to give us a $100 gift card for his bday so that we could get baby stuff with it and he talked them into getting him a best buy one instead. Oh well its his bday, but i do wish he woud stop acting like a teenager
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  • Liz710Liz710
    Sorry, I can definitely relate.  Hopefully you'll be able to talk to your H and actually have him listen and understand.  Mine always makes me feel like I'm selfish for asking him to stay home once in a while on Friday nights (I work every other weekend).  Or I get a comment about how I'm always invited to sit and watch a bunch of guys play poker and drink beer, or better yet come and hang out with the other men's kids. 
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  • allyandpat2010allyandpat2010

    I get told "its not my fault you don't go out with your friends"

    Riiiiiiight cause a 5 month pg woman wants to go hang out at a bar with her skinny, single friends!

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  • cassianddavidcassianddavid

    You know how kids regress to their former habits of diapers and bottles once they find out they are no longer the baby? I think some DH's do the same thing.

    My DH was never big into being social or anything and always left the plans up to me. Well, since BFP he has been much more interested in playing video games and going out with friends on the weekends. I think he realizes that this is the end of being a kid because pretty soon (by surprise) he will have one.

     Hopefully these guys get it together by the time the LOs arrive!

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    Mine draws cartoons.
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