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2nd Trimester
Momma to Ms. C age 16 months and Mr. C age 3 months!
I'm sure I will get flamed- I don't like being pregnant
First off I am very blessed that I am able to get pregnant and carry a baby- I get that, I really do.
With that being said I am not one of those people that LOVES being pregnant. I don't. I wish my husband could do this instead of me. I never dreamed of being married (but found the only person in the world I would marry and I am very lucky and blessed for that), and I never wanted to be pregnant. We want a family and I love and adore my husband and he wants at least one child that is ours and then we are going to adopt.
All of my friends just goo and gah and carry on about how much they miss being pregnant and how wonderful it was- and my thought is that they must have all swallowed strange pills to forget what real pregnancy is like. I also realize I have been sick since I got pregnant and that doesn't help, but I remember every one of them complaining their entire pregnancies and I wonder now what drugs they are on that makes them say "I just love being pregnant".
Yes I am blessed and I already love this baby so much and adore it and would die for it... but I don't want to go through this again. I feel really alone in this as everyone seems to just love it and I feel like an alien trying to figure out what people love exactly.
Momma to Ms. C age 16 months and Mr. C age 3 months!This discussion has been closed.
Re: I'm sure I will get flamed- I don't like being pregnant
You don't have to love being pregnant, and anyone that says you should sucks. It's not the same for everyone - and some women really hate it. That is ok. It doesn't mean that you don't love your baby - you just don't like having your body taken over.... and that is ok.
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I kind of know what you mean, I do love being pregnant but I hate the attention that comes along with it. I wish this was something I could do more privately but the baby bump doesn't really allow that. It's not that I don't love talking about my future DD, but especially when I'm at work, I wish I could just take my bump off and put it back on when I get home. This probably has a lot to do with the fact that I'm in sales and do not work in a very family friendly environment.
I know you've been pretty sick (cold/flu right?) during your pregnancy. Are you feeling any better?? Hope so!
Its ok to say that! Its not like you are saying you hate babies...just the pregnancy part
You are totally fine! Sorry its been rough for you but just think about the end result. Its a lot to go through on everyone to have the baby but its definitely worth it. I sometimes think people underestimate the strain on your body/life etc during the actual pregnancy!
This is my 3rd and ive really had a struggle with the body changes and everyone keeps telling me i wont go back to the way i was pre prego and its starting to scare me. You are not alone!
The only time I really love being pregnant is when I can look at my tummy and see my little man moving around, and hearing his heartbeat is pretty awsome too. Other than that I could gladly just skip over the whole 9 months of carring him thing and just have him be here
My sister hated every moment of being pregnant as well, she did it twice because of how much she loved being a mom and having a baby... She wants another baby but she can't decide if she can put herself through pregnancy again (she was sick and miserable the whole way through with both of her pregnancies and she is tiny and her poor body was stretched to the max)....
I understand how you feel because I watched my sister go through this as well.
The only time I enjoy being pregnant is when my husband volunteers to do things for me because I'm pregnant.
I miss running and training for races, eating sushi, and having pain-free days.
Hopefully by May, the tiny baby I get out of this deal will make this all worthwhile!
There are good days and bad.... but ya having your body become something you have NO control over and the constant worrying is not the best!
I am staying positive and enjoying the little kicks in the belly until I can get the real prize in the end!
I love the idea of being pregnant - knowing that DH and I will have a baby soon. But so far I don't like BEING pregnant - I mean who in their right mind love throwing up every day, food aversions, gas, exhaustion and all the other delights???
I think I might change my mind once the baby starts kicking and once I start enjoying food more again. But so far, I would love it if DH could somehow carry the next one
I don't like it either. Sure, I love my son & it's all worth it, but that doesn't mean I have to like it. I'm actually ecstatic that I'll never be pregnant again (this is it for us).
I don't get what people love about it either. I have easy pregnancies, and don't even gain much weight, but I'm already uncomfortable, can't breathe, heartburn, etc etc etc. I do love the movements, but that's not enough to make me love pregnancy!Twin boys born too early at 17w4d and 18w2d in February 2010
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I love it and hate it. I love the kicks when they aren't to the bladder, scar tissue or some other discomforting place. I love the round belly (but heck i was fat to start and have lost weight so this is the best diet for me).
Yes being sick all the time and thinking him do I want to spend 6 dollars on dessert when in 20 minutes it will revist me? Not loving that.
The swallon legs and feet suck and the getting up to pee every 2 hours and never getting a full night of sleep sucks too. I know everyone says it gets you ready for a baby but by 10 weeks my DD was sleeping for 6 hours at a time. So yep i rahter have a healthy baby here then being pregnant.
I don't hate it but won't be one of those women who says how they hate being pregnat (oh other then being able to fit into clothes for some reason I look better in pregnant clothes.
My sentiments exactly. I'm sure being so sick does have a lot to do with it. I had migraines and was very sick really up until last week. I'm feeling much better and I can tell you my attitude has also improved drastically. From what I hear 'baby brain' is a dual sided phenomenon. On one side, you walk in a room and forget why you're there, on the other side you forget the worst parts of being pregnant once your baby is born.
Don't feel bad about that at all. There is a lot about being pregnant that is just annoying....like the first thing everyone asks you, ALL THE TIME is "are you okay" or "are you feeling good"....I just want to yell, I'm not dying people, I'm having a baby.
I went into one of the maternity stores recently and just got depressed about the whole thing....I left....and just said, I'm going to work with the clothes I have because these outfits are just depressing. There was a group of girls in there trying on clothes and making up funny baby names, which was cute for them, but I just could never picture myself being like that.
Luckily I don't feel much different then before I was pregnant....I just get real fed up with people being all up in my business all of a sudden and asking stupid, inappropriate questions. My uterus was of no concern to you before so let's keep it that way! ; )
What you're feeling is totally legit! I've had a pretty easy pregnancy so far (knock on wood) and I like being pg, but I can't say that I LOVE it. I hate giving up my high octane coffee, occasional glass of wine, and I don't like worrying all the time that I'm going to fall, or something will go wrong with the baby. It really is a means to an end...the baby is what I care about.
You are right, some women probably do forget a lot of what being pg is really like after the fact. Don't worry- you aren't alone in how you feel. As long as you don't say you hate the baby, resent it, etc, you aren't going to get any flames here. I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes more smoothly for you, but it does end at some point! Good luck- and I hope you have a beautiful, healthy baby!!
i think more people should talk about not liking being pregnant. I suspect at some point during their pregnancy most women don't like it.
Not loving being pregnant is not the same as not loving your baby or resenting your baby. It's a weird experience and different for everyone. People shouldn't judge you for being open about how you feel. I hated it from weeks 5-16 then I loved it from 17 till 22, now I am not so sure...
Yay! ya'll made me feel better and like I am normal!
And I was sick from week 8-15 with bronchitis and a sinus infection and it turned out I had undiagnosed asthma (I could be one of the lucky 1/3 of women that have asthma that gets worse during pregnancy). I've been on medication since week 15 and I am finally feeling good!! I can breathe which is great! Meanwhile I do feel the baby move- it's weird cause I feel like I am still early to feel it- but it is definitely movement and the occasionally KICK to let me know "hey' I'm here!"
I love the ends just not the means. Thankfully my DH is awesome and compassionate and tells me that he is sorry I have to go through it cause he says there is nothing NATURAL about pregnancy and childbirth.
Am I the only one who loves it?
I have had terrible morning sickness, restricted activity and pelvic rest due to IC, pubic syhmphysis disorder, you name it and I still freaking love every damn minute.
Good for you for admitting it! I am not a happy pregnant girl either. Fortunaltey I have had the easiest pregnancy with no m/s or fatigue or anything. My only bad side effect has been the weight gain. But the further I get along the more annoying it is to restrict my activities and diet. I'm gonna be honest, the Super Bowl is this Sunday and I'd rather be endulging in a few beers than attending our Childbirthd Class!
Good luck! You're getting through it! The good thing is it does go by pretty fast.
No flames here. I had a relatively easy pregnancy with DD (a lot of m/s first tri, then PUPPs toward the end which really sucked, but nothing major), and it was still never more than a means to an end. I'm happy about the ends, but the means? Not so much.
This time it's worse because we had a scare and are now higher risk, so there's worry and discomfort combined. No fun.