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household chores.

allietalliet
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So as I have posted before it is hard to get DH to help with the household chores, and we talked about putting specific duties on the calendar that need to be done on a weekly basis in addition to the dishes and laundry that has to be done every day. Then if the other person wants to veg out on the couch it isn't a big deal because the particular chore for the day has been done. He and I both agreed but I can't but feel like this is very juvenile and will backfire at some point. Do you do this sort of thing?
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  • Gina418Gina418 member
    What's juvenile about it? A lot of people keep lists/mark their calendars as reminders - no big deal. If it works for you, stick with it!
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  • LynnJonesLynnJones

    Well I usually do things like dishes and majority of the cleaning and my dh will do some laundry and he handles any home improvement projects so it evens itself out. 

     But I usually spend Saturday as my major cleaning day and so if lets say I clean the bathroom and he doesn't hang up his towel after he showers or clean his hair stubble from the sink I usually hide all the towels and his shaver. 

    You can see if your plan works for you guys and go from there. 

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  • betsnupbetsnup member
    I think it would be hard as adults to have a chore "calendar."  Can you just set aside some time each day and on the weekends to get everything done?  Our house isn't perfect by any means, but DH and I always take the time each night to do some light cleaning - while he is putting D down for bed, I'll pick up the toys and by the time he comes down, we both go into the kitchen to finish up the dishes from dinner.  Every Saturday morning we take an hour or so to do some bigger cleaning - and we do it together, so that way one of us isn't lounging on the couch.  It goes so much easier and so much faster when we work together - can you do something like that?
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  • allietalliet
    I guess what I think it is juvenile about it is the notion of 'you can watch tv if you get your chores done for the day' not that we said it that way but it was implied you know?
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  • stephm0188stephm0188

    Does he get a gold star for being a good boy?

    It is juvenile, and it probably will backfire. I know I'd be kind of pissy if someone did that to me.

    We work together as a team. "I'll take care of the dishes if you'll wipe down the table and counters."

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  • thomas&lynnthomas&lynn member
    If you both agree to try it, and especially if it works, then it is just what works for you guys!
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  • violetvirgovioletvirgo

    we don't have a list or anything posted in our house concerning chores, but my H doesn't think he married a maid/cook either - he's my partner in crime and since day one of knowing me he's known that i expect him to act like a grown up and not a child i have to pick up after.

    that said i wouldn't be above creating a big ol' sticker chart of chores if he didn't do a dang thing except make a permanent assprint on the couch.  complete with gold stars and everything.

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  • Parks2BeParks2Be

    We work as a team on house chores. But, during the warmer months he doesn't really help as much but that's because he is working outside a lot and I don't help him with that stuff so it evens out.

    I typically give him options.  "H, do you want bathrooms or kitchen today?" so it's not like I am TELLING him what to do.  He knows he has option A or B so it's not hard.

    I do think your calendar will backfire though. Try working as a team and making it fun.  We crank up the stereo and get the cleaning knocked out together so we can both veg on the couch.

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  • allietalliet
    The only reason that we came up with the calendar deal was the fact that he said that it would be easiest for him to get things done if he had it mapped out and he suggested it this way. So I though ok we will do this but I can see him getting upset about it later on. We have tried it the teamwork way and we have tried it just me doing it so this is what we came up with together.
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