Grandma shower?

Shandie_725 · January 2010

My mom asked me to host her a grandma shower last night. I have no clue what it actually is, but I'm going to assume you shower "Grandma" with gifts for her grandkid. I think this is just dumb and everyone who would attend her shower is invited to my shower.

Has anyone heard of this? And just as an FYI, her having a "Grandma" shower is in response to my SIL offering to host the shower instead of MIL and my mom hosting it.

Celtic Ember · January 2010

Never heard of it. it sounds like your mom is trying to make sure everyone knows that this is her baby, too... I'd put your foot down and just invite her to your shower.

AllieJean · January 2010

I think that is weird. I mean you are the one having the baby so I can totally see having a shower to celebrate that with your mother being invited. But her having her own shower just seems like an excuse to get gifts and I think thats kinda weird

CinnamonBun · January 2010

Ummm no. Sounds like your mom is trying to AW. Tell her to knock it off, there is no such thing.

opheliacantswim · January 2010

The only place I've ever heard about this is on the interwebs.

IDK, it seems weird to me, but what do I know?

beckygandy · January 2010

Ha.. lol. The things our mommas try to pull. I always wonder if I'll end up that way : ) I've never heard of it, but I'm sure your mom totally believes it's legit. Maybe you could have a few of her closest friends over to celebrate.. no gifts. I dunno, good luck!

Smootchy · January 2010

grandma's throw shower's they don't get them

melissainabq · January 2010

I'd be embarrassed to host a party encouraging people to bring my mother gifts because she has a daughter having a baby.

kg_08 · January 2010

Never heard of it, but it sounds like a bad bad idea.

Temp200154562509288 · January 2010

Honestly, I would say no, I don't feel like it's really a time to shower the grandparents and I feel it's a little selfish for her to ask you to throw her one. I think they are growing in popularity it just really isn't my style.

Shandie_725 · January 2010

I told her it was a fake thing. She offered to host a shower but then my SIL came in and offered and I told my mom about her offer. Mom freaked out saying my disabled sister wants a part of planning, which she won't get if SIL hosts (mom and SIL don't get along at all). I don't really care who hosts but my only request is that I have one shower that is not a surprise.

I just need to tell my mom that I google'd it and Grandma showers are fake.

bedebum13 · January 2010

Never heard of it and it doesn't make sense to me. I would tell her she is more than welcome at your shower as the grandma to be but you don't see a need for a separate shower.

amy0105 · January 2010

It sounds like she's feeling left out - I would say offer to take her and some friends out for lunch or something in her honor, but honestly, I know you're trying to save your money - so, just saying that's a fake idea or that you don't have time for it...

Shayna0182 · January 2010

I would be really annoyed if my mom or mil tried to have such a thing. I'd tell both of them, that since when is our children going to be spending so much time at your house that you'll need a shower of stuff. My mil tried to put up her 30 year old crib, and besides obvious safety reasons, dh and I just told her that we'll bring the pnp if he spends the night.

A few toys are fine, a shower is not.

mgranadino · January 2010

Why don't you have two showers? Mom and sister can host one, SIL and MIL can host another. That's what I'm having

teelaman · January 2010

I heard about this wretched Grandma Shower on these forums and googled it - and after I did so I told DH if his mom even considered this, I'd freak - and then when I saw my mother I told her what they were, and she said "Are you serious? Why would someone have one?"

If you google it - some crazy mother, or MIL, got this idea that they needed a shower too - (probably going through a midlife crisis and jealous of the attention their daughters were getting) - and these showers are actually to give grandma everything you'd give a mom - "for when the baby comes to grandmas". I'm talking, diapers, bottles, formula, pack and plays, THE WORKS. I was appalled - IMO, all that stuff gets dropped off when mom drops the baby off at grandmas. Grandma can buy and keep toys at her house - but she certainly doesn't need a shower to get all the stuff that the mom actually needs.

sweetadventure · January 2010

teelaman:
I heard about this wretched Grandma Shower on these forums and googled it - and after I did so I told DH if his mom even considered this, I'd freak - and then when I saw my mother I told her what they were, and she said "Are you serious? Why would someone have one?"
If you google it - some crazy mother, or MIL, got this idea that they needed a shower too - (probably going through a midlife crisis and jealous of the attention their daughters were getting) - and these showers are actually to give grandma everything you'd give a mom - "for when the baby comes to grandmas". I'm talking, diapers, bottles, formula, pack and plays, THE WORKS. I was appalled - IMO, all that stuff gets dropped off when mom drops the baby off at grandmas. Grandma can buy and keep toys at her house - but she certainly doesn't need a shower to get all the stuff that the mom actually needs.

Also, it is one thing for a few of her friends to have a little get together for her and get her some little things to have around the house for the baby than for you (the mama to be) to host a shower for her. I think it would be awkward for the mom to be at the grandmother's shower, as well.

pinkycat1015 · January 2010

Never heard of a Grandma shower. I know at my friends shower 2 years ago, some of her MILs friends and family members brought a shower gift for mom/baby and also a little something for MIL, like books to read to the baby.

Maplebear · January 2010

melissainabq:
I'd be embarrassed to host a party encouraging people to bring my mother gifts because she has a daughter having a baby.

This. Especially when it is you having the baby. It would seem like you were asking for gifts, just through your mom.

I've heard of it, but have never actually seen it. Seems like she is wishing she had the attention, not you.

KRISTA555 · January 2010

If I were you, I would throw her a real grandma shower and have the guests bring gag gifts like canes, walkers, denture cleaner, adult diapers, etc etc.

BuckeyeBride200 · January 2010

Yikes! No way! How are you going to tell your mom?

IrishBrideND · January 2010

Tacky and VERY tacky of her to ask you to do it.

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