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sustained love life?

kelsbarrettkelsbarrett member
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Even though all of these pregancy books states that the libido returns during the second trimester, I haven't wanted to have sex with my husband since becoming pregnant.  I just don't want anything to do with sex right now.  My husband believes that there is something wrong with me or I am lying, which is really stressing me out and makes it worse.  I'm annoyed because all of these books say that I should want to...  Is anyone else having this problem? 
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  • allyandpat2010allyandpat2010
    SHoot I still wanna do it and DH has been seriously backing off over the last few weeks. I finally got a bit butt hurt and brought it up the other night thinking he doesn't find me sexy anymore. He said he's afraid of hurting me or the baby. Even after i explained he wasn't it didn't help....
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  • MrsDannyOutlawMrsDannyOutlaw member
    I'm pretty certain you're just fine...but pregnant. There is no one right way to feel when it comes to something like that. I only felt up to doing the deed for the first time at well, 15w exactly. Even then I wasn't as into it as I wanted to be. Its just something else to deal with. With time.

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  • vanreymersdalvanreymersdal

    LOL My husband and I had sex once after I got pregnant with my DS 3 1/2 years ago. After I gave birth, it was almost 8 months before I let him touch me again.

    Now that we're pregnant again, same thing. No interest and we've only done it once since BFP.

    You're totally normal. Most of my girlfriends and my sister as well all were the same way. No interest whatsoever. 

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  • mrsfireflymrsfirefly
    Read the sex chapter in Jenny McCarthy's pregnancy book.  It will make you feel very normal. My sex drive is pretty non-existent, too.
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  • vegandyvegandy

    Maybe give it time, it just picked back up for dh & I.  Up until we went to Santa Fe last week I could count on my hand the times we had done the deed since conception haha.

    Your husband should be a bit more understanding though.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, other than that you are growing a baby and have every right to not get down for sexy time right now.   

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  • SafaribabySafaribaby

    Have only had sex a hand ful of times since BFP and again wasn't really into it and have no desire - DH being very patient.

     

     

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  • Bri-N-BriBri-N-Bri member
    I don't always feel like having sex but I try to rally once a week or so for my DH.  I know that he does things for me that he doesn't always want to do and we respect each others wants.  That being said he would never be an a$$ about me not wanting to have sex, or tell me that there is something wrong with me.  There is nothing okay about him making you feel that way. 
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  • amandamharrelsonamandamharrelson
    I feel the exact same way! No desire about 98% of the time, and on the rare occurrences that I've feel up to it, it was painful! Well that sure doesn't help with wanting to do it anymore!
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