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looking for some creative comebacks
So despite my polite replies or attempts to shrug it off, every time I see my MIL she continuously forces me her hand me down clothes from her closet or things she has picked up at salvation army...they are way too big (never mind not my style) and when I say that they _might_ fit me when I am at 6 months she says, "I don't know...you are getting big fast. They will fit you in no time". I know she just means well, but we live in the same town and during a two hour dinner she will say it half a dozen times and send me home with a bag each time. It is really grating on my nerves. My husband has even politely but forcefully told her to lay off, to no avail.
Anyway, the point of this isnt too complain, because I know alot of gals are going to say that I should be glad to be receiving free things from her and that she means well. But rather, because I am a naturally sarcastic person (and ok, a little snarky, too), I would like to have a witty come back - not anythin that will offend her mind you, but something that will get the point across. I am thinking of something equivalent to patting someone's belly right after they have patted yours without permission.
So, lay it on me gals. Give me your best!
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Re: looking for some creative comebacks
Gosh, it's too bad you don't want to offend her, or you could tell her that you've noticed she has put on a few pounds and she may need the clothes herself
Sorry, I know that's not helpful. Good luck!
DS born 8/2010 - preliminary stages of SN int'l adoption - fur mama to 2 shelter dogs; cloth diapering, babywearing, EBFing mama
I am totally honest with her about it every time and am not shy at all - I have even said that we would prefer to go shopping with her when the time comes for me to buy maternity clothes. And she knows my personality well enough to know I mean what I say. But she just keeps on doing it anyway. That is what is so frustrating...and has led me to being snarky! LOL!
Agreed!
Just tell her when she tells you how huge your getting
" mom in law dearest that's not a very appropriate or polite thing to tell a pregnant woman and I'd aprreciate it if you'd stop"
She'd be an idiot to continue.
As for the clothes next time she bring you a bag just say" no thank you, you've already given me so much my closets full and i don't need anything else. Donate them to the salvation army and help someone who really needs it".
You could say "OH Thank You!.. you know, since you've been so nice going to good will getting me all these things, I'm going to make a trip down there tomorrow and find you some cute stuff to return the favor." Of course she'll say no, but do it anyway and make sure to get at least 2 hideous things that are too big for her. If she says they are too big, just tell her she'll grow into them. lol.
Now for me, I wouldn't do this to my MIL, but hopefully this is what you were looking for!
This problem reminds me of a pregnancy t-shirt that I bought last time I was pg. It says, "You're big too, but I wasn't going to mention it."
I totally understand what you're going through. My MIL actually offered me her old lingerie from the 70's! Uh, yeah, my husband would have loved me coming to bed in his mom's teddy. Yuck! And when I was pregnant, she offered to make me maternity clothes. I am sorry but we don't even like each other, ahve completley different tastes, and this is not Little House on the Prarie. I can buy my own clothes, thanks.
If she says something about your size, I would tell her that if she has any more comments or predictions about how big you are or will be, that she needs to keep them to herself because they are hurtful, even if that is not her intention. And I would walk the clothes back out to her car as she's leaving your house. Then maybe I'd try the trash can idea.