S/O talking to your mom, how often does your dh talk to his mom?

newlywed26 · January 2010

My dh talks to his at least once a day. I really don't care. It doesn't bother me at all.

LynnJones · January 2010

Why would it bother you? My dh probably talks to his mom every few days.

Kris&Amy · January 2010

Maybe once a week, if that. He gets just as annoyed with her as I do.

htomeo · January 2010

He only talks to her at family functions, or if I make him call her for advice.

newlywed26 · January 2010

LynnJones:
Why would it bother you? My dh probably talks to his mom every few days.

It wouldn't bother me at all. I know someone who complained to me the other day that her mil calls for her dh a lot. I should have asked her what bothered her about it, but we're not close like that. In my mind though I was like "really? are you serious"? She talks to her mom a few times a day.

reticent · January 2010

The last time my husband spoke to his mom was on Christmas Eve. The next time he'll talk to her, I imagine, will be on Easter or in June, when she decides my idea for a birthday party isn't good enough and plans her own version of a birthday party for DS.

boo-bitz · January 2010

Too often!!! LOL

She calls at least 3 -10 times a day. I would be okay with once a day. But she calls for random things like to ask if he thinks her car should have a low washer fluid light because she called the dealership and they said her model doesn;t have one, but she wants his opinion and when DH didn't answer on the first call because we were uh "busy" she called back 4 times in a row until he picked up... Not the first time for that either all though last time DH asked if she wanted anymore grand children and if he doesn't answer the phone that maybe there is a reason (hint hint nudge nudge wink wink)

Le sigh

LynnJones · January 2010

newlywed26:
LynnJones:
Why would it bother you? My dh probably talks to his mom every few days.
It wouldn't bother me at all. I know someone who complained to me the other day that her mil calls for her dh a lot. I should have asked her what bothered her about it, but we're not close like that. In my mind though I was like "really? are you serious"? She talks to her mom a few times a day.

Oh ok, that makes sense now. I just wasn't sure why you said it didn't bother you, like you were trying to convince yourself that it didn't, lol.

Lucky_Dragonfly · January 2010

His mom calls like every other day beause she has nothing better to do and she does this with all her kids. The question woudl be how many times does he answer the phone when she calls. He does talke to her a few times a week just to keep the phone calls at bay. Now MIL calls SIL like 20times a day and it drives her nuts.

oceanlover · January 2010

Usually not as often as I do (I email her every day), lately though much more. H and MIL have been organizing a benefit for his brother who is battling cancer. Also, she does all the preschool drop-offs and pick-ups, so one of us calls her every day to make sure it went alright.

destea1 · January 2010

Eh... I dunno, maybe once a month? He talks to his dad every other week, sometimes more, but he and his mom aren't as close as he and his dad.

newlywed26 · January 2010

LynnJones:

newlywed26:
LynnJones:
Why would it bother you? My dh probably talks to his mom every few days.
It wouldn't bother me at all. I know someone who complained to me the other day that her mil calls for her dh a lot. I should have asked her what bothered her about it, but we're not close like that. In my mind though I was like "really? are you serious"? She talks to her mom a few times a day.

Oh ok, that makes sense now. I just wasn't sure why you said it didn't bother you, like you were trying to convince yourself that it didn't, lol.

Oh no not at all. In fact, they talk a few times a day, and I would think it would be weird if they hadn't spoken in a few days. They've been talking various times a day since we started dating which was about a decade ago, and it's never ever bothered me. I guess I'm asking, because I don't get why some women get annoyed with this. I would rather have a close mil than a distant one even if she does get on my nerves. Also, I'm very close to my parents and talk to them frequently, so it's the norm for me.

lpennie16 · January 2010

as little as he can get away with

ShufflerChick · January 2010

His mom calls him 5-10 times a day (no exaggeration), to check whether he's up in the morning, whether he got to work, how his lunch was, when he's going home, how he got home, whether he had dinner, if the baby is in bed, how I am doing, when he is going to bed, etc etc. His response is usually "yes", "no", "fine" and the like.

And if he doesn't pick up, she'll leave a voicemail, a numeric text, and if enough time passes without a return call, she'll start calling everyone else (me, my parents, our nanny, his brother) to try to get a hold of him to "make sure he is ok".

It's annoying, but it's really more his problem than it is mine.

I talk to my mom once a day or every other day. I usually call her myself.

jennyann · January 2010

DH talks to his parents every Sunday. Usually they call to see how things are going, sometimes he will initiate the call.

secuccaro · January 2010

DH talks to both of his parents once a week, on Sundays, unless he needs to talk to them about something pressing. They rarely call here, which is fine by me.

AJBMD915 · January 2010

Usually a couple times a week.

megontoast · January 2010

Hardly ever. She's a dead-beat, left him and his brothers when he was 3 years old, and doesn't make any sort of an effort to be involved in his life (or the life of her first and only granddaughter). DH doesn't care enough to make any effort either.

AmyDrinkie · January 2010

Daily? I wouldn't mind except she always calls during dinner which I think is rude.

shakespearenluv · January 2010

Hmmm, well, not very often at all. Unless she calls him. Sometimes if it has been awhile I will ask him "when's the last time you called her?" And he'll say, "Awhile." They do not have a close relationship. DH's choice.

SwissPrincessBride · January 2010

DH talks to his mom every few months if she feels like it. She is back in Switzerland still and does not make too much of an effort to keep in contact with him. DH goes out of his way to be available to his mom though.

jnksmom · January 2010

DH "talks" to his mom a couple times a week but he texts her every day. It doesn't bother me that they talk except when she calls when we are in the middle of something and he talks to her forever....not MIL's fault but DH's. Just wish he would say "Mom can I call you back in a few minutes we are busy" or whatever.

mrsdiamonds · January 2010

Once a week, used to be 2-4 times a day before we were married. I don't care how often they talk, I just wish that she would understand, if she calls and he doesn't call back, HE'LL CALL YOU BACK LATER! Instead she calls again and again, then calls my phone, texts, tweets, calls again. Geez.

Gin*In*TN · January 2010

A few times a month. He talks to his Dad more often and usually only talks to his Mom when they come down to see DD or if we go up there to see them. He doesn't really go out of his way to talk to her.

lizzie53084 · January 2010

never, she abandoned her kids when they were babies (4, 2 and 13 months).

BBCfamily · January 2010

Once a week? He talks to his dad almost every day. They live down the street too.

Andrewsgal · January 2010

DH is not a fan of his mom so maybe once a week. I wish they had a better relationship, but it is none of my bussiness.

lite-bright · January 2010

Usually once a week. He tends to call home once during the weekend.

McKee3 · January 2010

They talk everyday. MIL knows way too much about my life and honestly it does iritate me, but it's just they way they are and I have to live with it. My DH is still in the family nest, so to speak, and she loves it that way. I'm glad to see that other DH's do this too.

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