What's wrong w/ me? 1st day back and didn't cry...

Ciceroa · January 2010

First day back after ML and I thought I was going to be a wreck, but I haven't even teared up. DD was asleep when I left for work (DH takes her to d.c.). I nursed her during lunch and even though it was hard leaving her, I know I will see her again at 5. Maybe I didn't cry b/c I did two "practice" days at d.c. with her last week and I feel comfortable with her teachers. Also, DH will be home with her tomorrow and I will be home with her Thur.

I am one of those moms who would like to be a SAHM, but DH is in grad school, so I have to work. For the most part, I don't mind my job, though.

Anyone else thought they would cry and didn't? I'm worried/suprised by my lack of tears...

EastCoastBride · January 2010

Oh, don't worry! I didn't cry either. It's not that I'm not a cryer, but I can also be VERY "reality based" and I know I have to work, I know DS will be fine w/o me, and I know I'll see him at the end of the day.

I'm also not one who cries when he gets shots, or what have you.

I don't see it as a sign that I'm a bad mom or don't love my son!

BizEB · January 2010

I didn't cry on my first day and have never cried. I wasn't worried at all- not crying is always a good thing in my book.

For me, I want to work so there was really nothing to cry about.

KittyCatBio · January 2010

I didn't get upset at all either. It helped that i got to go nurse over lunch, so the absence was broken up, i guess.

Pesky · January 2010

I didn't cry either. With either kid. Truthfully, I was almost happy. I knew they would have a blast watching the other kids, playing with new toys, etc., and I would get to have a hot meal and pee in peace. Seemed like a win-win.

Ciceroa · January 2010

Thank you--you have made me feel much better! I agree with you about being "reality based" and I didn't cry during shots, either. Thanks.

mysticporter · January 2010

Don't worry! I felt the same my first day to work...I didn't want to leave DD, but once I got to work and was in my routine, I focused on other things/doing what needed to be done. Some folks do have a very hard time their first day back, but if you don't, be happy at how you weren't a wreck.

carimeli · January 2010

I go back tomorrow and hope I can say at the end of the day that I didn't cry. I know I'll want to, but if I remember that she is ok and I do get her back at the end of the day - everything will be fine!

duchess0727 · January 2010

I didn't cry either first day back. I think once you have acceptance of your situation, you just deal with it.

momofolivia · January 2010

i didn't cry either. The only time I have ever started to tear up was about 2 weeks ago when DD really didn't want me to leave her. I didn't realize, but she was starting to get sick and just had an overall bad day. I felt awful leaving her that morning.

Feb3 · January 2010

We women are so hard on ourselves! If we don't feel bad we'll make ourselves feel bad for not feeling bad.

Personally I never cried. I have felt bad on occasion if I have to work extra long hours or if DD is sniffly and not feeling well, but no tears. DH on the other hand has cried after a bad drop off.

shouldbworkin · January 2010

I didn't cry. I don't cry over things like that. I cry over really stupid things and not things like that. Go figure!

ENev · January 2010

I shed some tears on the first morning, but I was fine being back at work and have been fine ever since. (it's my fourth week back)

I was surprised at how ok I am with the whole being-back-at-work thing - but I don't feel guilty about it, I just feel like I'm someone who can look on the bright side of things and see how lucky I am to have my life, even if it is hectic and even if I do miss my boy during the day!

DDearinger · January 2010

I didn't cry the first day either... or the first week for that matter. It was the second week back... that Monday, I came into work and all of a sudden really missed DD. I never cried but definitely had a tougher time that day. Now its great, we have a nice routine set up... I get to see her most days on my lunch break and nurse her. Good luck with being back to work

!

Iblamethebeer · January 2010

Pesky:
I didn't cry either. With either kid. Truthfully, I was almost happy. I knew they would have a blast watching the other kids, playing with new toys, etc., and I would get to have a hot meal and pee in peace. Seemed like a win-win.

this!! I work because I want to, but even still I was prepared for a very teary morning. Nothing. It was almost like first day of school excitement, really.

tosababy · January 2010

EastCoastBride:
Oh, don't worry! I didn't cry either. It's not that I'm not a cryer, but I can also be VERY "reality based" and I know I have to work, I know DS will be fine w/o me, and I know I'll see him at the end of the day.

I'm also not one who cries when he gets shots, or what have you.

I don't see it as a sign that I'm a bad mom or don't love my son!

All of this. Exactly.

AlisaS · January 2010

I never cried - I tend to be pretty pragmatic about these things.

katesmom73 · January 2010

I didn't cry and *gasp* actually looked forward to my first day back. It was short lived as I hated my job but I like having time to myself and work gives me that. I love my dd so much and even now at 5 years old, I would love to stay home with her but like I said, I crave my "me-time" as well. You're not alone.

flyer23 · January 2010

I definitely didn't cry on my first day "back." DD was in a nanny share that was at our house that day, and I was working from home, so I just kissed her goodbye and went upstairs to start working Smile

I've had a few teary-eyed moments at drop-off since then, but it's been more along the lines of "Wow, look at my little baby, getting so big" (like her first day of preschool, when she happily climbed out of the car, grabbed her teacher's hand, and walked into school without me) than "I'm so sad to be leaving my little baby."

The_Jen626 · January 2010

I'm a very emotional person, and I didn't cry either. It's ok! My DD is very happy in daycare, and I'm happy at work.

erbear · January 2010

I didn't either. ANd I'm a crier. I love my job and was excited to get back.

abpdjs · January 2010

tosababy:
EastCoastBride:

Oh, don't worry! I didn't cry either. It's not that I'm not a cryer, but I can also be VERY "reality based" and I know I have to work, I know DS will be fine w/o me, and I know I'll see him at the end of the day.

I'm also not one who cries when he gets shots, or what have you.

I don't see it as a sign that I'm a bad mom or don't love my son!

All of this. Exactly.

ditto this exactly!

BoxTer · January 2010

I didn't cry either. DD is going to a great school and being cared for by people I trust. I like working and am very happy to have a job I enjoy. It's a win-win.

beckys96 · January 2010

Ciceroa:
Thank you--you have made me feel much better! I agree with you about being "reality based" and I didn't cry during shots, either. Thanks.

With my 1st one I teared up but I didn't get over upset. With #2 - I didn't shed a tear. It probably helped that she was at home with DH when I left. But I do like to have a little time where I'm not just mom and get something accomplished. I love going to pick them up - its the best part of the day.

Didn't cry for shots either

jlw2505 · January 2010

I cried some with my older DD on her 1st day - I was really nervous as she was on meds for seizures and we were right at the point of starting to wear her so it was all overwhelming. When DD started, I didn't shed a tear. DH didn't even come with me like he did with DD#1.

angie05161 · January 2010

I didn't really cry until day 3. That's when I realized how little time I was really getting with DS. It didn't help that he was over tired and crabby each of the first two nights. He was just so over stimulated by daycare. All I wanted was a smile when I picked him up and he cried instead. It's been slowly getting better though. We're on week 2 now.

wheelenl · January 2010

BizEB:
I didn't cry on my first day and have never cried. I wasn't worried at all- not crying is always a good thing in my book.

For me, I want to work so there was really nothing to cry about.

This. I can't wait for next Monday to come, when I'm going back!

rxqueen918 · January 2010

I didn't cry either, I was actually kind of excited to get back to work. I figured the daycare had my home, work, cell, and pager number, so if there was anything to worry about or cry over, they'd certainly get in touch with me. I didn't even feel bad about it until all of my co-workers made comments about how much I must be missing DD and how it must be killing me not to be calling the daycare every hour!! I really wasn't like that at all. I do miss DD to some extent, and sometimes I feel bad that I can't spend more time during the weekdays with her, but never enough to cry about it. The only times I've felt like crying are the times when she seems she'd rather stay at school with the teachers than come home with me!!

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