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Do you "discipline" other kids when they are at your house?

janinekrausejaninekrause member
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when other kids are at your house, do you "discipline" them? my sister is a little lax on discipline (nephew is 2) and it has always annoyed me. i started a little of it today and she seemed fine with it, and my nephew listened well to me i.e. he pushed DD pretty hard to take something from her so I said no, we don't do that and was firm and asked for him to apologize. it felt weird but i am glad my sister seemed fine with it. My theory is my house, my rules, and if it involves DD and her getting upset (for good reason), then even more so.  Agreed? Obviously not my place to do time outs or anything like that unless i was watching him alone and she gave me go ahead.
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  • Mando91Mando91
    I'm really interested to see the responses to this. Addie was getting pushed around last night and it was awkward for us. We just moved Addie to a different toy if the mom didn't see it happen. I don't know what is PC.
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  • CaitlinJ22CaitlinJ22 member

    with my sisters kids I say--uh oh, I dont know if mommy will like what you did...and then my sister jumps in. Thats only if my sis doesnt see what happened. She usually does. I dont feel its my place to discipline them unless I was in charge of them and she was out. With other babies Finn's age that I know, I may say--gentle, or nice if someone is hitting...but thats it. again its not my place.

    edit- of course I will move my child out of the situation if the mom doesnt jump in, i wont just sit there and let someone hit mine...though DS fights back LOL. I jump on that asap too. =) 

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  • rara855rara855 member
    People may flame this but, yes. After a certain point if at MY HOUSE I will voice my rules. I have a gf who has no rules  (so honestly we avoid playing over here) but, on occasion when we have everyone over and her LO's are here. I will say things like "No, no we do not throw the picture frame at Ra's house. We have different rules here." I usually only have to do this once or twice before she catches on. 
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  • Gin*In*TNGin*In*TN
    Yes. And it doesn't stop at my house, either. Anytime my DD is involved, I have no problem saying something to someone else's kid. Other people's houses, play areas, malls, etc. 
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  • J+OJ+O
    Yes.  Even out in public.  There was a child at the indoor place area that kept hitting DS on the head, since his parents were nowhere to be found, I took his hand as soon as he did it again and told him, "No.  We don't hit."  And then picked DS up and went somewhere else.  I'd do the same if the child was in my home.  I've also put my nieces in time out before when I was babysitting.  

    Now, my SIL... thinks it's okay to spank & slap other people's kids, she's a nut job and I'll never let her babysit Jack, ever.  I don't trust her. 
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  • lizzie53084lizzie53084

    100% agree, except I do also feel I have the right to do timeouts if they are in my care. I do these all the time with some neighbor kids. I watch them once or twice a week and they NEED some discipline! Lax is not even the word... Their mom is fine with it though even though she never said 'oh and you can do timeouts if you need to'. It probably wouldn't have occured to her to tell me that since they don't have any discipline at home, kwim? She does know that I give them timeouts though.

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  • julia0402julia0402
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    Now, my SIL... thinks it's okay to spank & slap other people's kids, she's a nut job and I'll never let her babysit Jack, ever.  I don't trust her. 

    My SIL does this.  Slaps in the face.  She will never EVER! watch my child.

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  • JulyFiveBrideJulyFiveBride member
    I usually try to call the parents' attention to it first by saying something like "Uh oh, I don't think that's a safe toy for you!" But if they don't jump up, I will take things away and/or redirect. My SIL and her BF spank their 13 mo old so some times I redirect him before they notice so he doesn't get spanked. Embarrassed
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  • Brookie-CookieBrookie-Cookie
    I would't spank another kid or anything like that (or my own) but I would say "it's not nice to hit, we don't do that" or something like that if the parent didn't say something.  If I was in charge of the kid I might step that up a bit with something age appropriate (time out or quiet time or whatever) depending on what the issue was.
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  • LilMissLadybugLilMissLadybug member
    imagejulia0402:
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    Now, my SIL... thinks it's okay to spank & slap other people's kids, she's a nut job and I'll never let her babysit Jack, ever.  I don't trust her. 

    My SIL does this.  Slaps in the face.  She will never EVER! watch my child.

    my brother spanked DD and has never babysat since. 

    My house, my rules but I will not hit (spank whatever) any one elses child.

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  • emiliemadisonemiliemadison member
    I will enforce my house rules and ensure that everyone is safe. If someone interprets that as "discipline" then yes, I do.
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  • janinekrausejaninekrause member

    good to hear all the responses.  my nephew is a good kid but just doesn't get the appropriate discipline IMO. and they had a problem when he started school in that he wont share and freaks out. she did indirectly ask for my help so i definitely stepped it up today when he stole things from DD, knocked her over, etc. it felt weird though with her in the room. 

    Unless someone was hurting my child, i don't think i would feel comfortable reprimanding a child I didn't know.  Trust me- I wanted to say something to the 2 1/2 year old today who when my DD tried to play with a doll in the room, she said- No! that's mine! and grabbed it. The mother (who i don't know-just met today) didn't say a thing. Don't people want to teach their child to share, especially with a kid half their size? 

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  • emiliemadisonemiliemadison member
    imagejulia0402:
    imageJ+O:

    Now, my SIL... thinks it's okay to spank & slap other people's kids, she's a nut job and I'll never let her babysit Jack, ever.  I don't trust her. 

    My SIL does this.  Slaps in the face.  She will never EVER! watch my child.

    If someone ever hit my child, I would press charges. Nosh!t. WhoTF thinks its ok to slap a child- especially SOMEONE ELSE'S child??

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