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Kitten80
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s/o re-do what DH did...
Kitten80
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For those of you that have boys, and I have thought this before, does knowing how many people's DHs can't do basic household tasks worry you that someday it will be your DS that some poor woman is hopelessly trying to "train"?!
I say I am going to teach him how to do all this, but I know that my brother does not do many of the things that my mom taught us because I just had to clean his place when he moved, and man, he was not following through with what we were taught. uh. is there hope? lol.
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Re: s/o re-do what DH did...
I am not worried at all. My husband lived on his own since he was 18 and is perfectly capable of doing dishes, laundry, vacuuming, cleaning, etc.
He just happens to not do it in our home because if he can't do it exactly the way I want it done, I don't let him do it at all. The kitchen is his domain so he keeps that up, and he does the mopping but that's it!
I am working on not being so particular though otherwise my kids are never going to do chores!
I really, really, really hope that what I teach DS sticks, lol. When I first moved in with DH..omg. It was bad. DH used to say that if you spilled something on the table it was no big deal. A shirt would soak it up or the plate on the floor would catch it
His mom cried the first time she came over after I moved in. I had cleaned and you could see the carpet again, lol. Thankfully he is much cleaner now!
I'm happy if the dishes are in the kitchen, the coats are hung by the door (and NOT over the couch) and the clothes are in the hamper. I can do lived-in but sloppy? Um, no.
DD#1~8/17/96------DS~10/24/05
Well, DH is fairly adept, so I'm not too worried. He does his own laundry (actually refuses to let me do it) and would be happy to load/unload the dishwasher except I'm uber-anal about how things are put in and put away. He's the cleaner too. He vacuums; if he didn't, it'd never get done.
I plan to homeschool, and once DS is old enough, he will be taking "home economics" and learning how to wash clothes, bake, cook, wash dishes, etc. I don't plan to pick up after him until he's 18, and I'm not going to start teaching him after he's become an ornery teenager.
Mes Petit Choux
I can't go back to yesterday - because I was a different person then. ~ Alice
We have a son and I'm not too worried. My husband is very tidy, actually more than I am. I am the clean one, he is the neat one, if you know what I mean. It works out great. I think we will provide a pretty positive example in this regard and we'll just do our best to help our son with picking up after himself and respecting cleanliness.
My mom is super clean and tidy and frankly I did not pick up all the same traits as her. I am terrible at cleaning up after myself and have to work at it. I guess my point is that we can teach, teach, teach and try to show by example, but there is only so much we can do because every child is different.
Haha, yes I have thought of this. DH is very good about doing what he is asked to do, but I mostly had to teach him things. His mom was the type that did everything for her kids, and still does everything for her husband. DH still doesn't know how to properly clean a bathroom (as in, he doesn't realize the toilet needs to be scubbed on the inside), and he can't cook at all.
ALL of my children (boys and girls) will be taught household chores, cooking, yard maintenance, finances, etc. You know, the things you need to know as independent adults! If they don't chose to apply the knowledge, that's their decision.