Cut off age for getting pg?

hispenguin · January 2010

Someone posted on my local about how they had a cut off age for when they wanted to be done having babies, and how if they tried to have another she would be over that age, and was unsure if she wanted to get pg then.

This got me thinking about how I always said that I would be done having children by 35. This made me wonder what I would do if I reached 35 and didn't have a baby, would I just stop trying just b/c I reached that number?

God willing I will have a baby in four years, but it got my over active imagination working (I'll blame it on my DH working late tonight). Any thoughts? Do you have a cut off age?

gymnst1013 · January 2010

I always wanted to have kids by the time I was 35. That failed miserably and now I'm 36 and not pregnant. I still want my kids.

rebelina1 · January 2010

We had originally said 35 but that has been thrown out the window. I am now 36 and just started seeing the RE. Our new date is 38....maybe.

Caymandreams · January 2010

I would like to be done by the time I'm 30. We only want two so as long as we don't have any difficulties this shouldn't be an issue. However, we're not going to quit trying if we do have difficulties.

Temp356619000002780 · January 2010

I wanted to have my last baby by 25 since I had DS when I was 17. The age difference between my kids would be big, but DS turns 10 in July and I am 27 now... I still want to try for another baby.

maxmika · January 2010

I have it at 30 (I'm young so... ) DH would be 35. I just don't want to be my moms age and still have teenagers in the house (she was 28 when she had me)

Star1819 · January 2010

Ideally 35....That is still a little over 6 years away, so hopefully I will be lucky enough to have a baby or 2 by then....if not i guess I'll have to re-evaluate when I get there...

AutumnBride102007 · January 2010

For me, its not so much about my age as much as it is about DH's age.

I'm going to be 28 next week and he'll be 33 this year.

I would like to be done by the time he is 37, but if its one thing i've learned..i dont get to plan how this show works.lol.

Marielle0430 · January 2010

I never thought about it but we will probably want 2 kids so I'll stick with that instead of an age - as long as DH and I are healthy and able to care for children. I'm hoping to have 2 by 35. I'm turning 30 in April so we'll see.

Temp356619000002780 · January 2010

AutumnBride102007:
For me, its not so much about my age as much as it is about DH's age.
I'm going to be 28 next week and he'll be 33 this year.
I would like to be done by the time he is 37, but if its one thing i've learned..i dont get to plan how this show works.lol.

LOL Try our ages. I am 27, but DH turns 40 this year!

TexasLadyBug · January 2010

DH wants four kids and I want one kid at a time, lol. So far DS is a great baby so we are going for number two.

Joking aside I would like to be done by age 30 ( I am 25 right now), but that may not work my second age would be 32 and final would be 35.

The risk just gets higher as we age, plus I enjoy having a young mom (she is 45) and she is now a young Nana. I want to be young when I have great kids, well as young as I can be.

HelloAnnie! · January 2010

There was a time when I would have said 30, but most people I know have kids pretty young.

Now I'm 27 and my number has moved up to 35 since I want at least 2.

I learned long ago that life complicates all my plans so I try not to make my goals too rigid.

AutumnBride102007 · January 2010

mari2003:
AutumnBride102007:

For me, its not so much about my age as much as it is about DH's age.

I'm going to be 28 next week and he'll be 33 this year.

I would like to be done by the time he is 37, but if its one thing i've learned..i dont get to plan how this show works.lol.

LOL Try our ages. I am 27, but DH turns 40 this year!

bow-chica-wow wow!!

gossler54 · January 2010

I am 35 now and I always say whatever I have by 40 I have. We have one daughter and I would love to have one more (maybe even 2 if my geriatric eggs can keep going)

SuperThat1006 · January 2010

I am only 27, but my husband is 36. We turn 28 and 37 in May and March, respectively.

As far as he is concerned, there is no cutoff age for him. We will just keep going until, God willing, we get some little ones.

Temp356619000002780 · January 2010

AutumnBride102007:
mari2003:
AutumnBride102007:

For me, its not so much about my age as much as it is about DH's age.
I'm going to be 28 next week and he'll be 33 this year.
I would like to be done by the time he is 37, but if its one thing i've learned..i dont get to plan how this show works.lol.
LOL Try our ages. I am 27, but DH turns 40 this year!
bow-chica-wow wow!!

What can I say? LOL DH got the goods!!

EaglesGirl65 · January 2010

We have no real time limit - although DH hit 36 this year. Its had quite the effect on him being on the closer half to 40. Now he's all baby fever too! Big Smile

VIQTPie · January 2010

Marielle0430:
I never thought about it but we will probably want 2 kids so I'll stick with that instead of an age - as long as DH and I are healthy and able to care for children. I'm hoping to have 2 by 35. I'm turning 30 in April so we'll see.

This is me exactly, even to turning 30 in April. None yet, but hopefully two by 35.

SuperThat1006 · January 2010

AutumnBride102007:
mari2003:
AutumnBride102007:

For me, its not so much about my age as much as it is about DH's age.

I'm going to be 28 next week and he'll be 33 this year.

I would like to be done by the time he is 37, but if its one thing i've learned..i dont get to plan how this show works.lol.

LOL Try our ages. I am 27, but DH turns 40 this year!

bow-chica-wow wow!!

Mari, I'm almost with you. I have 9 years, you have 13! How far apart are your birthdays? My husband and I are a decade apart for two months; his birthday is March 30 and mine is May 21.

cutebride73 · January 2010

Since I had DD when I was 17 I always thought I would be married and have more kids in my early to mid 20's.

Since I didn't get married until a month before I turned 36 - that plan obviously didn't work out.

I will be 37 this spring and DH will be 40 - I guess at this point I would hope to be done before I am 40 - we would like to have 2 kids though, so we'll just have to see how that works out.

MrsTechie · January 2010

I'm hoping to have 2 before Mr Techie hits 40 (he's 34 now). If we have trouble, I don't think we would stop trying just because he ages.

j_luvs_r · January 2010

I used to say 35, but I am going to be 33 in less than 2 weeks and not pregnant. I now think 40 would probably be my cut off. And that's only for biological children. I don't think I'd be opposed to adopting after 40.

L-Train · January 2010

I always said I didn't want to be married before I was 30 but met DH in college and married him at 26. I realized timelines rarely work. Now, I am almost 30 (DH is 33) trying for our 1st. Depending on how things work out, I will probaly stop at 40, but who knows?

I work in various fertility clinics in NYC and see women *starting* to try in their late 40s. I often wonder at what age is it selfish- more about the parent than the child.

Temp356619000002780 · January 2010

ChrissieW3:
AutumnBride102007:
mari2003:
AutumnBride102007:

For me, its not so much about my age as much as it is about DH's age.
I'm going to be 28 next week and he'll be 33 this year.
I would like to be done by the time he is 37, but if its one thing i've learned..i dont get to plan how this show works.lol.
LOL Try our ages. I am 27, but DH turns 40 this year!
bow-chica-wow wow!!
Mari, I'm almost with you. I have 9 years, you have 13! How far apartare your birthdays? My husband and I are a decade apart for two months;his birthday is March 30 and mine is May 21.

That's awesome we are actually 12.5 years apart...

SuperThat1006 · January 2010

mari2003:
ChrissieW3:
AutumnBride102007:
mari2003:
AutumnBride102007:

For me, its not so much about my age as much as it is about DH's age.
I'm going to be 28 next week and he'll be 33 this year.
I would like to be done by the time he is 37, but if its one thing i've learned..i dont get to plan how this show works.lol.
LOL Try our ages. I am 27, but DH turns 40 this year!
bow-chica-wow wow!!
Mari, I'm almost with you. I have 9 years, you have 13! How far apartare your birthdays? My husband and I are a decade apart for two months;his birthday is March 30 and mine is May 21.
That's awesome we are actually 12.5 years apart...

How did you meet?

zookbride · January 2010

I'm glad this subject was brought up. I didn't realize we had so many late 20 into the 30's ladies around here.

Both DH and I turn 28 this year. I was really wanting my first child by 25...of course God had different plans as I wasn't even married until I was 25 and turned 26 one month later.

I would love to get a BFP by my 28th birthday this year. If not...we'll probably try until at least 35.

Rhonie82 · January 2010

I think my cut off is 35/36. I'm 27 now and DH is 28. I wanted 4 kids by the time I was 30 but my body missed the memo.

cndmexbaby · January 2010

I'm 31 and DH is almost 30. I'd like to have 2 kids by the time I am 35. However, I highly doubt we'd stop while still in our 30s.

We are on cycle 7.

brideon082104 · January 2010

Hey sweets! Don't think I've ever 'bumped into you' on this board before ;-) My cut off age....hrm...well we've already got one DD but if for some reason #2 just never happened I guess maybe my late 30's? Since I'm 2 weeks away from turning 34 I don't think 35 is my 'scary' age LOL More like 38!

Crispity · January 2010

VIQTPie:

Marielle0430:
I never thought about it but we will probably want 2 kids so I'll stick with that instead of an age - as long as DH and I are healthy and able to care for children. I'm hoping to have 2 by 35. I'm turning 30 in April so we'll see.

This is me exactly, even to turning 30 in April. None yet, but hopefully two by 35.

Me too! Except I'm turning 30 in March :-)

Lilleybug · January 2010

Ideally 35, but we both come from big families and also want a big family. I will be 30 this year so unless I have twins I am not going to have all 4 withing the next 5 years

staycee · January 2010

back in my 20's I would have said 35.

however, I didn't get married until 3 months before my 36th birthday (and DH was 40)

we had our first after a long TTC journey at ages 38 and 42.

we'll try for one more before I'm 40

KateySue · January 2010

Honestly, I haven't given much thought to this. I'm only 23 so I have some time to decide. I mostly consume my thoughts with, "How many miscarriages am I willing to put myself through before I stop trying?"

But age...good question. I will give that some thought.

LMS05 · January 2010

32

I want 3...maybe 4. I'm 26 now and have 1. I would love to have my second when I'm 28, third when I'm 30 and 4th when I'm 32. Wouldn't it be nice if life worked out that way?

KaliChick · January 2010

Well hubs just turned 40 yesterday and I'm 33 the end of next month sooooo .... I thought I'd have one by 30 and be done by 35. Now I'm just hoping to have 1 by 35. I'd like 2 but we'll see ... right now I'm just hoping and praying for 1.

I won't go past 40 for me though.

flypink · January 2010

I'm hoping to have a baby before 30, I'm 27 now and DH is 34. He's starting to get worried about his age but so many people are having kids in their thirties now, I think that when we are in our 50's and 60's it will be the norm to have children in college.

blondiealwayfun · January 2010

my cut off age would be like 28, if it doesn't happen by then it isn't in the cards for me..

ecleptic · January 2010

I've said 35 for the last 5 or so years. No kids after 35 ever, end of story.

Of course I'm turning 30 in 5 months, we've been TTC for a year with no results, and we want 3 kids. I'm okay with them being very close together (we were aiming for 2 years)- but with the first one taking us over a year the chances of us being done with 3 by 35 are getting smaller and smaller.

I'm not sure whether we'll be done at 35 or done at 3. Hopefully both.

karenannmark · January 2010

Well unfortunetly im 38.........so hopefuly i will have kids before 40........my friend is 38 also and has 4, her last one is 1yrs....say a prayer for me ladies, you are all spring chickens yet Big Smile

GL to all of us!!

JennyAnne022776 · January 2010

This is the most depressing post I have read in a very long time.

mchupie · January 2010

JennyAnne022776:
This is the most depressing post I have read in a very long time.

Yes

I'm not going to set an age, because I know if I wasn't pregnant by whatever hypothetical age I chose, I would just push it out a few years. I want kids so bad, reaching a certain age is not going to make me all of a sudden stop wanting them or stop trying.

Don't get me wrong, I won't be trying to get pregnant at 50, but I just don't feel comfortable choosing a cut-off.

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