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Who will be with you during labor?
At first I was only thinking of having DH there...now that my mom will be living here in our town come dd time - I am starting to think that having her there might not be a bad idea...but I'm really confused about everything I feel with that. I just don't want to be embarrassed or feel like I have to pay more attention to DH or mom. I know that sounds kind of silly but I know that if I am only going to have DH there I probably should let my mom know soon so it's not a big deal when it happens and no ones feelings are hurt.
So my question is - who are you having there with you during labor and why did you choose this? Thanks for sharing ladies:) This has been really bugging me!
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Re: Who will be with you during labor?
My SO, Mother, and lil sister.
My SO is the obvious one.
Mother is very relaxing for me
And my sister is 13 and it may help her practice safe sex, BAHAHHA...
DH, myself and necessary medical professionals. Everyone else - get out! :-) I met a lady that offered to be my doula for free (she needs a couple more births to get her actual license). But it seems like a stranger in the room with me.
Just my two cents.
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it'll just be me and DH - if it's a long labour, then I might ask to see my bff just for some strength and positivity and reassurance, but come delivery time - just me and DH.
I'd throat punch both my Mom and MIL - they're both overbearing and whatnot.
DH (because he wouldn't miss it for the world!:), my older sister (she's been an ER nurse and wouldn't be squeamish, AND she can't have children and "wanted to experience labor") and my mom (who is also in the nursing field, and wants to be creepy and watch the whole thing!)
Just DH I would never feel comfortable with anyone else there.
I've read that if you are uncomfortable with someone being in the room it can slow down your labor.
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My husband and mom. My husband is a wonderful, completely supportive man but I think I need my mom there to keep me in line. My husband does everything pretty slowly (he's very meticulous) and I can see myself getting mad at him when he takes forever to get me a glass of water, etc. My mom and my husband love each other, and the dynamic between the three of us is great. I originally wanted only my husband with me but I realized this might also be pretty overwhelming for him since its the first baby for both of us.
DH and mom.
Not really sure why, just seems like I'd feel comfortable having them both there.
I'm thinking only DH as of now...but if labor gets crazy unbearable - I'm going to need my mama.
During labor or during delivery?
When I was in labor with DD, it was pretty much a party in my room. DH, my dad, step-mom, and MIL were there the whole time. My SILs were in and out.
Once it came time to push, everyone but DH left.
Depending on when I deliver this time, either the same people will be there, or MIL will not be there b/c she'll be taking care of DD.
ETA: My mom passed away in 2001, which is why she wasn't there.
Only 2 people (outside of medical staff) will be allowed in the room while I'm in labor: DH & my mom.
DH - obvious!!! I want/need his support, I want him to be part of this (my mom still talks about how her dad wasn't there for her or her 2 siblings during birth & she sounds like she still has a small grudge about it), & he REALLY wants to see everything & be part of it regardless ^_^
Mom - We had a rocky time when I lived with here, did not get a long in the least. But, after about 2 yrs of me living on my own & her loosening up (Dad retired & they travel f/t so she's happy now), we've gotten pretty close. I actually look forward to seeing her & if I don't see her on Sundays, I usually call during the week. This is her first grandkid & I think she'll love to be part of this whole experience. Plus, she's been through this 3x so I think I can rely on her understanding of what I'll be going through ^_^
The only thing I'm currently debating is my dad. I don't want him to be all by himself in the waiting room. I might have him hang out until I go into active labor or they want me to get ready to push. I REALLY don't want my dad in there to see all of that!!
Far too many people. When I am in labour, I am pretty sure my family will all want to be in that waiting room. We're all super close. Think parents, friends, aunts, cousins, and all of those lovely people.
However, when I am pushing, only Nate will be there.
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #1: January 2008
Surprise BFP: November 2009
CP: September 2016
Anyone but my MIL... (J/K although she will be nowhere near my room)
My DH and my Mom (in place of a doula)
I hear ya!!! I'd be too afraid when we name the baby that my mom would change it! Or open her mouth up. Although, during that time it might give me the strength to tell her to shut the f up!
DH only for sure! I think it is a very special experience for parents to share between themselves.
My "special experience" with DS was 36 hours & med-free. I never once wanted anyone else near me.
i'm not sure this time, but last time it was DH and my dad. i am very close to my dad, and my mom is BSC. she actually was escorted by hospital security away because she was trying to run in to get to see me
but anyway, DH obviously. having my dad there was great because jack's birth was scary and my dad has always been my rock - he helped me stay strong and was a very good advocate for my comfort and health while in labor so unexpectedly. DH was shaken and he was good for moral support, but not entirely clearheaded enough to know what was going on all the time. my dad cried a few times during my labor, which was strange for me, and at one point had to leave the room because he was having such a hard time watching his baby girl be in such pain but it was AWESOME having him there and if he wants to be there again, i would be totally on board.
This. With DS, DH was there the whole (38 HOURS). My mom stopped by after work, which was right about when my water broke and the contractions were hard and fast. I asked her to leave after about 45 minutes b/c I could tell it was making her upset seeing me in so much pain. ILs wanted to be there to whole time, but I said HELL NO. Ended up with an emergency c-section at 1 a.m., so it was DH and medical staff.