Community› The Bump Message Boards› Two Under 2
Two Under 2
New Discussion

Mother of Two or more ?

Temp299646250008046Temp299646250008046
in Two Under 2

What would you tell a mother of one child be prepared for when having a second?

I'm not where close to this but just trying to wrap my head around it.

Report Reply to Post

Re: Mother of Two or more ?

  • JARbabyJARbaby member
    Be patient. It is not hard when #2 is a NB because they need very little so I attended to everything C needed first. I fed NB before she was starving so there was never screaming for food. I gave #2 something to do, watch, snack when nursing (usually hands free in my Mobi) or we played on the floor. Just patience. I have also learned to tune out crying, lol.
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • howleyshellhowleyshell member

    While you believe it's impossible to love another as much as your first you really do.

    Having a newborn and a toddler can be challenging but it gets easier.

    The first time you hear them tell each other they love each other spontaneously or see them hug without prompting you will believe 100% that it was all worth it and then some.

    One of my favorite things that I've heard on these boards was this bit of advice:

    "You will never regret one that you have but you may well regret one that you don't."

     

    And last but not least - if I can do this...... ANYONE can. 

    Our IF journey: 1 m/c, 1 IVF with only 3 eggs retrieved yielding Dylan and a lost twin, 1 shocker unmedicated BFP resulting in Jace, 3 more unmedicated pregnancies ending in more losses.
    Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
    Report Reply
  • madhatter2003madhatter2003
    The hard days will be hard, but the great days will be out of this world.
    My two PCOS miracles! Lilypie Kids Birthday tickersLilypie Kids Birthday tickers
    Report Reply
  • jlw2505jlw2505 member
    I think some of the advice really depends on the age diffrence between the two.  Mine are 21 months apart and I think if they older child is a lot older, some of this would be different.  Patiance is huge.  It gets easier when the baby gets to be around 12-18 months.  If both are crying and its not a safety thing - go to the older one first as they will remember more.  Keep the older child involved with the baby but also makje sure the older one gets some good one on one attention.  When the baby comes home, keep as much as possible of the older ones routine in place.  If older one is in daycare, keep them there as routine will help with the transistion and a new baby is a lot of change.  If people offer help, take it.  make your marriage a prioroty - plan date nights and time alone - even if you spend 10-15 mins a night just talking after the kids are in bed, it helps.
    Jenni Mom to DD#1 - 6-16-06 DD#2 - 3-13-08 
    Report Reply
  • ashmariebay02ashmariebay02

    I think its only as hard as you make it. It doesn't matter if you have an easy baby or a high maintence baby (same goes for older child) your attitude can make all the difference in the world.

     Patience is important, but so is forgiveness. So what you had an off day, there's always tomorrow, plus your kids will never remember if they had to cry an extra min or two for you to get your ducks in a row.

     And it's impossible to control any situation completely, so be flexible!

    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"