Devastated. (Loss related, not mine)

ParadisePrincess · January 2010

My really good friend got pregnant about 12 weeks before I did. We had always talked about how cool it would be to get pregnant together and have two little girls. That's exactly what was happening. She was determined to have as natural of a birth as possible, so when she crossed the 40 week mark she stayed strong and made it to 42 weeks.

I got a text last night that read:

"We lost Baby Jesse. I'll call you in a few days".

I'm heart broken for her. I don't know any of the details but I couldn't sleep all night. I can't stop thinking about it. I know not to bother her until she calls and I won't but I just want to hug her Sad I just hate that it's a reality and it happens and to be honest, it scares the ever-living you know what out of me. I just wanted some T&P from you guys.

Thanks.

Brandy&Keith · January 2010

Sending t&p to your friend during this difficult time.

mrsmegs06 · January 2010

I'm so sorry! T&P to your friend & her family.

melody921 · January 2010

OMG, that's horrible. I can't even imagine carrying a baby past full-term only to lose him. Thoughts and prayers for your friend.

Mrslisvenn · January 2010

this is truly sad... im sure this is so difficult on you... thinking of your friend and you during this difficult time.. HUGS

jennmichael · January 2010

that is very sad, it recently happened to a girl on my local board. seems like 42 weeks was too long for the baby.... so sad. hugs to you and your friend

bridetobe101505 · January 2010

That is awful! I will keep you and your friend in my thoughts. ?I know of more than one girl who has had a loss after their due date--which is why I feel so strongly about not going overdue. ?

juliejb · January 2010

I don't know how to respond to this post, although I can honestly say that I would do anything to erase it from my mind-- I wish I hadn't opened this. ?I'm not sure WHY you posted this... there is no lesson learned and no point made with this thread.?

Good job on making a very uncomfortable overdue woman (NOT by choice) freak out and hysterical. ??

AmandaToo · January 2010

Oh, no! I'm sorry!

pandagirl15 · January 2010

My very good friend lost her baby 2 weeks after delivery in Oct. due to genetic complications, so I know how you feel right now. It's very hard because you want to be there for her, but at the same time, you're going to be a constant reminder of what she doesn't have. Give her time to contact you. I did start with texting my friend about once a week & she was good with that. Didn't want to talk, but was open to typing! Then e-mails, phone calls when she was ready. Now I think she's in a better place and is ready to go to dinner, etc. with me again. It will be hard for her again, though when I deliver. Just be there for your friend in whatever capacity she will let you. Don't take it to heart if she seems snippy or upset with you. Give her the time & space she needs, but let her know you are there for her if she needs/wants you.

laurel_howeth · January 2010

yankeebaby24:
juliejb:

I don't know how to respond to this post, although I can honestly say that I would do anything to erase it from my mind-- I wish I hadn't opened this. I'm not sure WHY you posted this... there is no lesson learned and no point made with this thread.

Good job on making a very uncomfortable overdue woman (NOT by choice) freak out and hysterical.

If your mental state is that fragile, then you shouldn't have opened the post. She wrote loss related in the title.

I agree Yes

cutie420311 · January 2010

juliejb:
I don't know how to respond to this post, although I can honestly say that I would do anything to erase it from my mind-- I wish I hadn't opened this. I'm not sure WHY you posted this... there is no lesson learned and no point made with this thread.
Good job on making a very uncomfortable overdue woman (NOT by choice) freak out and hysterical.

Then you shouldn't have opened the thread, not everything revolves around you.

OP, I'm so sorry for your friend, T&P's to them, I can't imagine what they are going through.

madameprimm · January 2010

juliejb:
I don't know how to respond to this post, although I can honestly say that I would do anything to erase it from my mind-- I wish I hadn't opened this. I'm not sure WHY you posted this... there is no lesson learned and no point made with this thread.
Good job on making a very uncomfortable overdue woman (NOT by choice) freak out and hysterical.

She posted asking for T&P for her friend. Good job trying to make this about you. As pp said, if you can't handle "bad" posts then don't read them.

OP: I'll be praying for your friend and her family. A close friend of mine lost her baby at 12 days old after a very hard pregnancy. I can't even imagine that kind of heartbreak.

starryeyeddreamer · January 2010

T & P! So sorry!

kls621 · January 2010

T & P to you and your friend! I am so sorry. Hang in there.

FlashMeyer · January 2010

juliejb:

I don't know how to respond to this post, although I can honestly say that I would do anything to erase it from my mind-- I wish I hadn't opened this. I'm not sure WHY you posted this... there is no lesson learned and no point made with this thread.

Good job on making a very uncomfortable overdue woman (NOT by choice) freak out and hysterical.

you're LAME-O