anyone else not thrilled about the name? long

chazlewo · January 2010

DH told me early on that if LO was a boy, he'd like to pick out the name, and if a girl, I would pick out the name (obviously we both have veto power if we really hated something). I said fine, since it was the first thing he really got excited about in terms of baby...

WELL, he's had his heart set on Simon Theodore since then- yes, we know the chipmunk reference, and baby would go by Theo... I've vetoed Simon- not really because of the chipmunks, but because I'd like to tribute a family member, and the Simon in my family (step-grandfather) and I really aren't close. So now he's settled into Russell Theodore (Russ is his older brother). I don't hate it, but I don't love it. I like Theodore Russell better, but DH is being stubborn, and insists he go by his middle name like he does. I'm really trying to get over it and fall in love with "Theo", but it just hasn't happened yet... anyone else in this boat?

Court0026 · January 2010

I tried really hard to like the name DH wanted for DS and I just couldn't. I was the same way you are. Excited that he was excited about it. We settled on it for a middle name. If you don't LOVE it, DON'T DO IT!!!!

jasrun80 · January 2010

i dont know if he only brings this up when he is drinking but my husband says "conan" for a boy.

ew

remember -- you are the one in bed filling the paperwork out the next day -- if it isnt right, dont do it. I have heard when you see his face, you will know

jasrun80 · January 2010

p.s. you have an awesome picture & are pretty & cool !

Qmommy · January 2010

If you don't love it... look for other names that you like and present them to your DH. Maybe you'll find another name that he likes better. Just make sure that you present it to him in a way that makes him believe that he came up with the name.

Raffes484 · January 2010

I agree with pp, if you don't LOVE it do NOT do it! My sister agreed to naming her first DS Armand, with the agreement that she got to name all subsuquent children. They had one more DS, Alexander, before they got divorced.

I'm not big on the name Armand and I don't think one good boy name (Alex) is nearly enough to make up for it!

Lauryn216 · January 2010

I'd just say, "Sweetie, it sounded like a good idea at the time, but I really think now that we should name the baby together. Don't you want us to both love his name?" I mean really, it's a pretty big decision, I would need input. Maybe pacify by saying that you don't mind if he goes by his middle name, but that you need to choose a first and middle name that you both really love.

amy0105 · January 2010

Lauryn216:
I'd just say, "Sweetie, it sounded like a good idea at the time, but I really think now that we should name the baby together. Don't you want us to both love his name?" I mean really, it's a pretty big decision, I would need input. Maybe pacify by saying that you don't mind if he goes by his middle name, but that you need to choose a first and middle name that you both really love.

Oooh, THIS!!

I was going to say that you want to go back to Simon Theodore...but, you wanted him to have 2 middle names - Alvin Simon Theodore LASTNAME and if he doesn't agree, then you need to start from scratch...but, I think Lauryn has a MUCH MUCH better idea

auslyn804 · January 2010

I had my boy name set since I was little. I was always going to name my son Austin...my maiden name. DH was never on board. I spent the whole pregnancy just acting like Austin was going to be his name, thinking dh would come around at some point. He never did and I ended up changing my mind at 36wks. I don't know if he "talked me out of it" or what happened, but I changed my mind, and Austin is his middle name. I would just keep looking at names. Tell him what part of the name you do like, see what you can come up with that you "love" to go with it. Maybe over the coming weeks you can help him change his mind.

kcoffey88 · January 2010

My DH is the Third... so if it is a boy there is a lot of pressure for there to be a fourth. Personally I don't really like the name, and I don't like the fact that the baby won't have it's own name.

DH has agreed to consider other names, because it is our baby not just mine or his. But his side of the family is not thrilled at all (not that it matters to me, I don't really like them anyways)

Don't settle for something you do not like. It should be a mutual decision. And you both should love the name, and if anyone tries, don't let them pressure you into something you don't like.

BuckeyeBride200 · January 2010

We're not in the same boat, but I love the name Theodore/Theo!!! If you're not loving it, maybe you can change the deal and say that you get to pick the next child's name, regardless of the sex!

CheerChicki · January 2010

kcoffey88:

My DH is the Third... so if it is a boy there is a lot of pressure for there to be a fourth. Personally I don't really like the name, and I don't like the fact that the baby won't have it's own name.

DH has agreed to consider other names, because it is our baby not just mine or his. But his side of the family is not thrilled at all (not that it matters to me, I don't really like them anyways)

Don't settle for something you do not like. It should be a mutual decision. And you both should love the name, and if anyone tries, don't let them pressure you into something you don't like.

I'm almost in this exact situation! My husband' fam is greek, and they have names going back more than 13 generations! the boys are Nicholas Paul, and his son is Paul Nicholas, then his son would be Nicholas Paul....that way they dont have jr. and sr. I personally do not like the name Paul, and don't want to name my son that. My dad's name, Jackson, has been in his family for generations as well, and I would love to name my son Nicholas Jackson. DH has said he is ok with this, as long as we call him Nick or Nicholas....his dad is Nick, dh is Nick, and I am already confused with the two Nick's. We hate the nn's nicky or nicholi/nikoli! DH's sister's and mom call him nicholas as a superiority thing to get under his skin, and it would be just as confusing to call our son Nicholas! However, I am afraid of upsetting the (extended) family by changing the middle name out. Opinions Please!!!

ETA: DH has already vetoed calling him Jackson... which I love! (my dad goes by Jack)

erbear · January 2010

My nephew is Theo (that's his first name) and I think it's really cute! However, you have to call your baby by his name his whole life, so you both need to agree.

jorden&kristin · January 2010

my husband wants to use my middle name for our little girl, i hate my middle name and do not want to at ALL. to him it means a lot and he really wants to but i'm not sold. i think i'm going to put my foot down on it because i never liked my middle name and i dont like how it sounds with her name either!

hola720 · January 2010

I would tell him that you want think it might be a good idea to come up with 1 or 2 back up names that are completely new, just in case he doesn't look like a "Theo". Who knows, maybe he will find one he likes even better. Good Luck!

cristiana · January 2010

You both need to agree.

MWoodside · January 2010

There is NO way either of us would push a name we didn't both love. You are both going to be saying the child's name so many times daily for the whole rest of your life. I'd just tell him sorry, I don't like that name if that's how you feel. There are a million names to chose from so I'm sure you guys can find one you both love. Plus what if you never have a girl? Then DH gets to name all the kids?! Bogus.

teelaman · January 2010

MWoodside:
There is NO way either of us would push a name we didn't both love. You are both going to be saying the child's name so many times daily for the whole rest of your life. I'd just tell him sorry, I don't like that name if that's how you feel. There are a million names to chose from so I'm sure you guys can find one you both love. Plus what if you never have a girl? Then DH gets to name all the kids?! Bogus.

This and this.

Both of you should agree, regardless. My DH had his heart set on a girl's name that in the end I really couldn't see myself calling my daughter for the rest of her life. We sat down and went through a TON of names - and guess what, we finally found one.

And as far as the whole, naming people after family members - I think families need to consider two things: 1) The OTHER side of the family might have traditions they're trying to get you to do as well, and 2) In the end, it's YOU and DH's child. When you two came together to create the baby - all bets were off that the extended family had some say in what you name your kid.

mommyrenee · January 2010

I honestly would never agree to a name that I didnt love & wouldnt expect DH to either. We will BOTH choose the name, we are both the parents. I never really understood the "you choose if its a boy, Ill choose if its a girl". One parent shouldnt have to just deal with a name they hate.

FemmeNat01 · January 2010

You both need to agree on a name. You both need to love it.

I wouldnt choose a name that I didnt adore. Talk to your DH and see what happens.

nraposa7285 · January 2010

we had same problem he realy wanted shelly for our lil girl its his mothers and i realy hate the name but she passed when he was a kid so i want to give him that at least so we settled for it as a middle name, but picking names was hard we decided on paige i came home one night from work and he had a list of about 6-7 names so maybe your DH can make a list of possible alternatives

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