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What do you say to the negative comments??
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Only family and a handful of close friends know, but already I've heard:
GMIL: Are you sure you're ok with this?
MIL: What were you thinking?
And lots of "already?!?!?!"
How do you respond to the negativity?
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Re: What do you say to the negative comments??
"I have four children. Two are adopted. I forget which two. -Bob Constantine
"All for Love,' a Saviour prayed 'Abba Father have Your way. Though they know not what they do...Let the Cross draw men to You...."
I tell them to STFU.
Ok, not really, but I would like to. And probably should!
Everyone has a freaking opinion when it comes to pregnancy. DH keeps saying that unless these people plan on helping raise our kids, then its none of their business whether we can handle it, can afford it, etc. I think I will start telling them that when I get their comments!
I had a number of family members, including my great aunt
question my birth control methods. I'm freaking 29 years old, I think I know how birth control works. Since no one has said anything directly to me - I hear everything second hand - I just tell the messenger that my sex life is none of their business and they can pass that along to anyone who has anything to say about it.
I would LOVE for someone to say something directly to me so I can over-share and make them really uncomfortable.
I had several comments of:
"you are crazy having them so close together"
I would always say, 'honestly, I think its crazy to have them spaced further apart. I can't imagine getting through diapers and having an independent child and then starting all over with a newborn. If it had been in our control they would have been even closer together!" That way I let them know that it defintely was planned so they didn't have to ask or wonder.
Well I'm totally overwhelmed by the idea myself, so I pretty much say "Yeah, I know-- surprise!" But since we went through so much with DD, everyone has been happy we don't have to go through IVF again.
I also say-- "Well, it will be harder at first, but they'll both have a live-in playmate"
I say "we wanted them to be two years apart, and that's what were getting! We're really excited."
Not that it's any of their business, but I feel like if I make it a point to say that we were TRYING for this (even though were weren't exactly) then it shuts them up a little bit.
This exactly. And I really DO think it would be harder to get completely out of the baby phase and then start all over again!
"After all we went through trying to have our first child, it was a real blessing for us that we didn't have to go through that a second time."
Plus, I do think it's easier to still be in "baby mode" when the second comes along; I can't imagine having an older child and then going back to the sleepless nights and such.
yeah - i think im learning its best to nip the negativity in the butt right off the bat with confident words. and then evil looks if they continue on.
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