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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
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Re: FFFC
I am going to Cancun for a week with my mom, leaving my kids and husband behind, and I couldn't be heappier about it : )
I have two:
1) I work overnights on the weekends. Anyway, on Sunday morning I climbed into bed around 7am. DS usually gets up at 8 or 9 but DH or I always hear him. Well, Sunday we didn't. DH got up and woke me up frantically. Turns out we slept in until almost 11. Luckily DS wasn't screaming his head off but we estimate he was in his crib awake for 2 hours or so. We felt like the worst parents in the world that day.
2) One of my old high school friends is a friend of mine on facebook. The other day she put up a tagged pic of an old pic from high school of her and a group of her friends. Well, in that picture and album it was from was what I would call my great high school crush.
Anyway, I spent probably more time than I should have just gazing at the pictures of him. Even though I of course love DH, I have been crushing on this guy for going on 16 years, (wow, that makes me feel old!) I know there's nothing wrong with looking, but it still felt a little weird.
This isn't a confession, just a funny story. I had a dream the other night that I went to the prom--I was the age I am now and pregnant and my boyfriend was a senior in high school. In the dream, I couldn't wait for Friday, because I finally had something good to confess. lol
How lame am I that this is what I dream about?
DD needs to have an X-ray on her hips to check how they have grown the last 6 months (she was footling breech at birth and they check them periodically to make sure they are growing correctly). Anyway, we had a pedi appointment on Dec 10 when they told me that I needed to have the X-ray scheduled. We left town a few days later for some Christmas related stuff and have been in and out of the house for the past month. I think I have literally been in my house for 6 days! We have another appointment today for her H1N1 booster and I know they are going to ask me about it.
Makes me feel like an awful mother that I haven't taken care of this. We have been so busy but I really should have found a way. Mommy guilt is awful!
m/c at 13 weeks - March 23, 2011
Ever since DS stopped BFing at 8 months, DH and I have been taking long weekend (3-4 night) trips without him every 4-ish months. When we leave, I have absoutely no guilt or sadness. I am excited and honestly, a little relieved that I have a few days to relax. I think about him and talk about him a ton while we are gone but I don't ever wish I was home instead or wish he was with us. I really, really love the time away with my DH. I feel like this is completey contrary to almost all the other moms I know who have so much guilt about leaving and are missing their kid a ton while they are gone. Sometimes I wonder if it makes me bad mom.
Additionally, I know when this new baby arrives, it will be at least 6-8 months before we can get away again and it's sort of disappointing. Don''t get me wrong, I am super excited for our son's arrival but I also am going to miss giving up a lot of the benefits of having a kid out of the infancy stage.
DATE?!?!! WoHooo!!!!!
We definitely want details...
Woo hoo for you!!!!
Oh no, you are not a bad mom for enjoying your time with DH away from DS! We haven't done any long weekends recently, but whenever my mom or MIL are watching Sasha, I don't feel guilty at all. In fact, we went to Mexico without her last summer and had a blast, I felt a little guilty in the beginning, but I know how much fun she has with her grandparents and they love her to pieces! My mom even said that we were doing her a favor by leaving the kiddo with them!
My confession is about leaving the kiddo for the weekend too. And it's lame and will probably make me sound like a 10-year-old, but here it goes. My MIL is very, how should I put it, whiny when it comes to Sasha. My parents live a lot closer to us than DH's parents. So my folks get to see her a lot more, including on the weekdays when we have something going on. We were planning on leaving DD with my parents overnight last weekend; when my MIL heard about it, she gave my DH the biggest guilt trip about how we never leave Sasha with them overnight and just made him feel very bad. The thing is she's done this before: when she found out we were leaving DD with my parents, she'd start complaining that we "don't trust her with DD". I feel like she's acting like a 5-year-old. Now we may be leaving DD with them next weekend to go help my sister move and I don't want to! Some of it is literally because I'm so annoyed with her behavior and whining and guilt-tripping us into having DD.
Flame away, I know it's stupid, but I needed to get it out, I can't exactly tell DH this...
Bubblegum Explosion
that's awesome. i'm totally jealous. lolll
mine- i called in sick to work yesterday. Liam had had a stomach bug earlier in the week, and I think I got a touch of it. I never puked or anything though, so I definitely could have been at work. Oh well. I hadn't called in sick in at least 3 years, if I'm remembering right. (Not even during pregnancy.) It was really wonderful to just have a day to rest (since I took DS to DC) and watch TV.
I don't think it's ever too early to teach your DC something if they show an interest. I hate hearing why are you pushing him or just let him be a baby b/c I teach him things.
If my kid has fun playing with flashcards and is learning at the same time, what's the problem? If DS is interested in clocks, and I point out what time it is, what's wrong with that? If he learns from that, great!
I hate feeling like I have to dumb my kid down when I talk about him so I don't get judged.
Probably more flameful, I could be seen jamming to We Like the Cars, the Cars That Go Boom on the way to work this morning.
holla!
This probably sounds bad, but I think I look great pregnant. I have always been a small, skinny person and when I was pg the first time, I finally felt comfortable in my own body for the first time in my life. I just recently started getting a belly again and I absolutely love it. Both times, I've gotten *** for being 'SO tiny' and it really pisses me off. My babies and I are perfectly healthy so leave me alone about being skinny already. Here's the flammable part: every time a person says something like that to me, about how they were SO much bigger than me (in a condescending tone), I SOO want to also remind them that they were also fat while pregnant and passing it off as baby. I know it's horrible and I would NEVER actually do it, but that's what comes to mind. One of these people is my sister who has always been bigger than me and has obviously gained a lot of weight already while I have not (we are due a few days apart).
Now I feel like a jackass for writing that out, but that's how I'm feeling right now. I wish people would just shut up and leave me alone.
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I agree 100%. DD is into having me write and read her words at the moment. I am not going to ignore that!
I totally agree with this.
And on a side note, your kid is cuuuute!
Who sings this? I can't for the life of me remember, but I do remember liking it when I was a kid. The group has eluded me for years, lol. I literally have been trying to figure it out since then.
As for a confession - I don't have one.
Thanks so much! I love the expression on your little guy in your siggy pic. Priceless.
I have a friend who hates that I post anything about DD on my FB. I could put DD Farted and she would then post something like I hate how people brag on their kids. If I want to share that DD is doing something I should be able to and not feel guilty about it.
I am proud of DD . Oh and if I want to post that my DH is an amazing husband... I should be able to as well. I get crap for that too.
If you are out there reading this.... "NONE of my statuses are posted to p!ss you off, to be honest. I dont even think of you before posting them!"
I have no idea, they soundled like 6 year old girls though. Definitely shouldn't be singing about cars that go boom. I'm off to Google it.
i think it's a terrible idea too. i would never want them to give away the dogs, they are like family, but i do not want them in my house. Heck i don't want anyone in my house, DH and i went through a very rough patch when we moved to TX and a lot of that had to do with the fact that a couple friend of ours moved in with us to help start up our company. It was beyond bad, plus DH and i are not/have not been doing well for the past few months (year?), this is certainly not going to help anything
ITA with you. I talk to my DS like he is an adult and so does DH and our family members.
i have two this morning
1) every single hateful person that has said or thought anything negative about haiti (i.e. pat robertson, rush limbaugh, that assshat on 6-12 UO) are horrible people. i will never understand how someone can lack so much compassion for another human being and in the same breath talk about being a good christian (this really only applies to some) - it's insanely hypocritical and i can only hope karma works fast.
2) i think most people rely too heavily on public schools to raise their children. my aunt is a retired elementary teach who subs in her old school every now and then. she has the craziest stories of parents making excuses for their kids not getting homework done or expecting her to teach them basic things like manners. not only that, but as parents aren't WE responsible to educate our children at home and use school as a place to formalize it? I don't get how anyone could send their kid to first grade without teaching them the alphabet and how to at least write their name. it's sad.
hopefully nothing juicy like i told you yesterday! hahahahaha
I agree with Tess. How long are they planning on staying with you? Did you and your DH discuss this before he invited them to stay?
I have 2.
#1- I think it's hilarious when people get so uptight about updating statuses on facebook. For crying out loud if you don't want to see my status updates about everything, freaking hide me! LOL! Nobody has ever told me IRL that they hate my updates, but I hear about how people here hate when people update a lot
So I can only assume they're talking about people like me! Haha
#2- Now that my gallbladder is out, I'm looking forward to a jump start in weight loss. Not that I'm going to use it to become anorexic or anything, but I am certainly looking at it as a silver lining, you know?
That is really annoying. She sounds like a good friend!
DH and I have been going through kind of a rough time lately. I am making him go to counseling. He doesn't want to go, he says our problems aren't "that serious". But I haven't been happy for a couple weeks now and that is serious enough for counseling to me.
Also, I am going to start going to church again with DD this Sunday. I asked DH to go with me but of course he said no, church is not for him. Now I am embarrassed because I am going to be an obviously pregnant mother going by myself. I just hate to think people will be judging me.
I totally could have written this post myself.
We took a 4 day trip by ourselves when DS was eight months old and have taken at least a night or weekend every few months since then. (We did this even though I was BFing -- I just pumped while we were gone.) When we do, I am so happy just to be with DH relaxing and having fun. We've never considered taking DS with us. DH and I are taking another trip in March and are going to ask our parents to keep DS, even though his parents just watched DS for New Year's Eve. But it's our last trip for a year probably, until this new baby is 8 months old or so! Sometimes I wonder if our parents and siblings think we are super selfish bad parents. And I do feel guilty when I read posts from people who are scandalized that we would spend nights away from DS.
I try to console myself with the fact that DH and I still love spending time together without kids, and those alone times are important to making us still feel like a couple instead of always "mommy and daddy."
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lol, Thank you! I remember it was our jam in 5th grade
I was really horrified by people who said that teaching their kids to say 'yes m'am' and 'yes sir' was ridiculous or only taught kids to fear adults (in the UO thread yesterday). Maybe it's the southerner in me, but I can't imagine NOT teaching my kid that ... and was kinda offended ... but we all know how that works around here.
I did not do my Wii Fit workout yesterday and feel awful about it. I also ate like 7 butter cookies INSTEAD of doing my work out, which doesn't help matters.
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