NTR: Do you think marriage is hard?

dupe · January 2010

Depends on the marriage and the people in the marriage. I luckly have a wonderful DH who bend s over backwards for our family. A friend's dh doesnt even do anything social with her or the kids. Hasnt been to one dance class. I was told by some that marriage is a job and its work to stay together. I havent found mariage hard or anything. We're doing great.

femmeftle9 · January 2010

Ehh, it's a gray area. I think it's hard work

I don't think it's hard as in it's hard for me to stay with my DH, I'm not tempted to cheat or leave him. We have our weak areas, like we can communicate better but at the same time I think that most of our core values and beliefs are in alignment. I don't know if I believe in the term "soulmate." But I'm a realist & I hardly believe in "happily ever afters."

rach312 · January 2010

I don't necessarily think it is hard - but I do think it is work. Sometimes it can be frustrating but most of the time I think I married the man of my dreams. I've noticed more flaws in him as time goes by - but we keep working at it.

mommy1014 · January 2010

AudreyGolightly:

I always thought marriage would be easy b/c you'd marry your best friend/soul mate, everything would click, you're so happy together, it's just a bonus to be married and live together and have kids. It would be a lifetime party.

Damn was I wrong. Marriage is HARRRRRRRRDDDDD! I don't know if it's b/c I married the wrong person or if that's just the way it is but I do believe now that for any 2 people living a life together it is not going to be easy.

Exactly how I feel...

felt_tip_pen · January 2010

I think it *can* be hard, even with the right person. We had a really easy relationship until a couple months after our wedding, when our entire financial life fell to ruin. In the midst of that we got oops!pregnant. The stress of money woes plus the stress of being first-time parents made things really, really difficult. We fought a LOT and we learned some interesting things about each other.

Our life is just now starting to really settle down, and although the last three years haven't always been the most pleasant, it's good to know that we can stick together, even when things really, really suck.

We still snipe at each other occasionally (and still more than before we had a kid (we used to have maybe two arguments in a year)--there's just more to fight about!), so it's still hard sometimes, but we love each other.

Although I will say sometimes it's circumstances, sometimes it's incompatibility, and sometimes it's making your own trouble. Regardless of how angry I was at the hubs, I would NEVER post something serious about him to FB.

crzygirl · January 2010

The last 2 years have been the hardest of my life. So yes marriage is hard. But I do remember the 8 easy years before that last 2 hard ones. I am praying 2010 gets better.

J&A2008 · January 2010

Absolutely. It is a lot of work.

We both have serious relationships behind us, so we know what we're looking for, but it's still a lot of work.

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