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How would you handle this? Shower related.

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I don't have a ton of friend my age back home, maybe 3.  One of my best friends (A) is there and she wants to throw me a shower.  I don't know who to tell her to invite because it would be so few people our age, then if I start getting into the ladies that are my friends parents/close church friends, it would explode and be too many people.  So, I don't know what to tell her... I know she REALLY wants to do something for me so I feel bad telling her NO.

Two of my friends here have offered to throw me a shower... this is where the majority of my friends are now. 

I've come up with two options that arent telling her not to do something for me.

1. Suggest that A talk to a mutual friend of ours who goes to my church and I am very close with (second grandparent kind of person) to see if this lady and maybe a couple of others from the church would want to help so it could be just a general "back home" shower, not just my friends my age.  But I feel weird telling A to ask someone that hasnt offered to help you know? 

2. Suggest that my friends here contact A (or A contact them) about helping with the shower here and maybe I could convince A to come here for the weekend as I've been trying to get her to do since I moved here.  If she can't come, she'd really just be helping financially but she'd still be able to "help".

Thoughts?  Should I just tell her I don't think I have enough people to invite (and who could come) to a shower back home?

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  • CareBear01CareBear01
    I would just tell her straight up "Thank you so much for the offer, but I wouldn't know who to invite.  I can think of [insert 3 ppl here], but otherwise, everyone else will be attending my showers here.  Would you like to help in the planning of those?"  Something of that nature. 
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  • fay07fay07

    I had a similar dilemma when I had my showers, my close girlfriends my age, just ended up just doing a brunch/lunch thing for us girls that was more of just getting together to hang out and they all brought gifts for me, it was kind of unspoken that it was in honor of me, but it wasn't a formal type event, i.e., no invitations, decorations, etc. 

    Just suggest to A that maybe y'all do something like that next time you go home and she can just invite your other friends like a girl's day out type of thing? Just an idea.

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  • cali_girl92504cali_girl92504

    imageCareBear01:
    I would just tell her straight up "Thank you so much for the offer, but I wouldn't know who to invite.  I can think of [insert 3 ppl here], but otherwise, everyone else will be attending my showers here.  Would you like to help in the planning of those?"  Something of that nature. 

    Ditto this. And if you are planning on going back home suggest a small brunch with the 4 of you instead. I like the idea of inviting your friends to the shower here if they can make it.

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  • CareBear01CareBear01
    Ohhhh...I do like the brunch idea.  Even if they don't bring gifts, it would be fun just to catch up, and then no one has to worry about decorations, etc.
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