TTC After a Loss

Cried after being with husband for 1st time after D&C

Ok I felt like such a basketcase last night... We found out we m/c a month ago today and I had my D&C that monday.  We just got "together" last night and although it was amazing I fell apart afterwards.... Did anyoue else experience this? 

My doctor told us to "becareful" until i get AF but we didn't use protection so I hope we are careful enough.  Does anyone know when I could expect AF (I am usually a long cycle girls so I am hoping for 1/14 but probably won't happen until Feburary). Then let the ovulation pee sticks start!!!!

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Re: Cried after being with husband for 1st time after D&C

  • I'm sorry! I have heard a lot of girls say that this was their experience too, so you are not alone.  It will get better.

    They say it usually takes 4-6 weeks for AF.  For me it was 7, so everyone is difference.  My doctor said to see her after 8 weeks.

    Good luck!

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  • I was a complete basket case the first time....and the second and third time.  I am much better now...I actually enjoy it.  We were not able to be "together" during my pregnancy because I was high risk so the fact that it should have been quite awhile until we would be able to again also added to that.

    As for AF and Oing...it is tough...each persons' body reacts differently after a D&C.  With mine...my body was right back on track within 4 weeks.  So AF came almost 4 weeks to the day with my D&C.  Hope this helps.

     

  • I am so sorry... It was hard for me too.
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  • ::hugs::

     

    It was hard for me too.

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  • This was similar to my experience too.  I couldn't even say that it was amazing the first time - to me, it just felt wrong.  I cried afterwards and freaked out DH.  It definitely got better with time, although our sex life is not what it was prior to TTC.  I blame the stress.

    (((HUGS))) and it will get better.

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  • I am so sorry. COMPLETELY NORMAL.

    I have done this after both d&c's. The first time I was just so sad and heartbroken, this last time I was more just happy to be getting back to normal but I still cried.

    You are so emotional and out of whack right now, and intimacy can just bring that to the surface.

    It gets easier, I promise.

  • I did not experience that after my first night with DH and I'm sorry it's been so hard on you. 

    AF is different for everyone.  They say to expect AF after 4-6 weeks.  Mine was 4.  

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  • That intimacy is always emotional after going through so much together.  You are not alone in feeling that way, it's tough for us women because it's our bodies that have gone through all the changes so our husbands don't always quite understand.  Allow yourself to cry and grieve. 

    As for when to expect AF, it took me 37 long days.  I've heard some ladies on here say it was much longer for them, so it's just kind of a guessing game.  You'll probably never pray so hard for AF to appear than in the next few weeks.  Good luck!

    Married 8/23/09 Dx: Endometriosis mc 2003, mc 2005, mc Oct. 2009 and ectopic pg Feb. 2010 Baby Girl Gracie Mae born 5 weeks early on 7/6/11. Baby boy JT born full term on 7/5/12. We are blessed!
  • I cried the first time after both miscarriages.  It's a very emotional thing.  

    It took 31 and 33 days for me to get af.  Although, I have heard of it taking 40 days or so.  Best of luck to you.  

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