Can we talk sex drive

soontobemrsvega · January 2010

Cuz mine is GONE!! I thought it would be back by now but no luck! There are more times im not in the mood then there are I am! It seems to be getting less!! When we do get a little lovin and Im kinda into it everything is great and then DH touchs or kisses my belly and then GONE! I TRY not to think that its him touching/kissing the baby that he is touching/kissing me but I CANT!! Any one else get like this? Does it go away? What helped?? If DH had it his way we would be doing it every night like before. If Im not in the mood Im to tired but to keep him happy I go with it, but I would LOVE to enjoy sex with my husband again! Please tell me Im not alone!!

PurpleK26 · January 2010

I don't think mine came back till the beginning of 3rd Tri, and by that point, DH was freaked about it all and doesn't ever want to touch me! We were never an 'every night' kind of couple either... bravo to you for that!

Hope things improve for you soon!

norcaljuly08 · January 2010

Mine finally came back thank god! I was beginning to feel bad for DH. Just be patient

labbie1821 · January 2010

MIne waxed and waned all through this pregnancy, especially in the 2nd tri. Now that I am near the end it has actually come back again, but I'm secretly hoping that it helps naturally induce labor! Ha! I am so done with being pregnant that I can't wait to have this baby! DH used to be freaked out a bit about doing the deed when we were in the 2nd tri, he was just getting used to the belly. Now he doesn't mind so much and I think he wants Matthew here as bad as I do!

AmysMelody · January 2010

I don't offer much encouragement because mine is still gone - has been since about 12 weeks. I am dutiful, but I don't enjoy it and I never WANT it anymore. I wonder how this will translate once the LO is here. If it will get better or worse?

OregonPachey · January 2010

I have absolutely no drive. Probably because the last time we had sex, it wasn't pretty. If we had a better time of it, I might want to do it more often.

ladylaurali25 · January 2010

I was wondering the same thing....I have NONE what-so-ever! I am either so tired, have a headache or stomach ache.

soontobemrsvega · January 2010

PurpleK26:

I don't think mine came back till the beginning of 3rd Tri, and by that point, DH was freaked about it all and doesn't ever want to touch me! We were never an 'every night' kind of couple either... bravo to you for that!

Hope things improve for you soon!

DH is! I didnt mind before when I enjoyed myself Stick out tongue

I hope it gets better soon too!

soontobemrsvega · January 2010

norcaljuly08:
Mine finally came back thank god! I was beginning to feel bad for DH. Just be patient

At least DH is still enjoying himself! I guess ill just have to wait and see how long it takes for me to be able to again! Im not very good at being patient but I guess I have too Sad

soontobemrsvega · January 2010

labbie1821:
MIne waxed and waned all through this pregnancy, especially in the 2nd tri. Now that I am near the end it has actually come back again, but I'm secretly hoping that it helps naturally induce labor! Ha! I am so done with being pregnant that I can't wait to have this baby! DH used to be freaked out a bit about doing the deed when we were in the 2nd tri, he was just getting used to the belly. Now he doesn't mind so much and I think he wants Matthew here as bad as I do!

I wonder if DH even thinks about my belly.... Huh?

soontobemrsvega · January 2010

AmysMelody:
I don't offer much encouragement because mine is still gone - has been since about 12 weeks. I am dutiful, but I don't enjoy it and I never WANT it anymore. I wonder how this will translate once the LO is here. If it will get better or worse?

Man I hope it gets better!! I know there wont be any sex the first 2 months the baby is here but after that I BETTER have some sex drive back or I just might cry!

soontobemrsvega · January 2010

ladylaurali25:
I was wondering the same thing....I have NONE what-so-ever! I am either so tired, have a headache or stomach ache.

Sex will make your headache go away but it might make your stomach hurt more....

nicobean1 · January 2010

What sex drive? I can count on one hand (less actually) how many times we've done it since our BFP. I can't seem to find a position that's comfortable for me, and I think subconsciouly I'm worried that the tensing up I need to do in that area to have an orgasm is going to bring on premature labor or break my water or something. DH has been a rockstar about it - no complaining, just a fact of life right now. But I'm definitely hoping it comes back and with a vengeance.

babydragonsister · January 2010

My sex drive has definitely gone up and down throughout. Right now I'm going through something weird, I really don't want to actually have sex, but making out and fooling around is really fun...DH doesn't mind, so it works out in the end...

soontobemrsvega · January 2010

nicobean1:
What sex drive? I can count on one hand (less actually) how many times we've done it since our BFP. I can't seem to find a position that's comfortable for me, and I think subconsciouly I'm worried that the tensing up I need to do in that area to have an orgasm is going to bring on premature labor or break my water or something. DH has been a rockstar about it - no complaining, just a fact of life right now. But I'm definitely hoping it comes back and with a vengeance.

Mine is a cry baby! Less then twice a week and he acts like its been a year! lol

soontobemrsvega · January 2010

babydragonsister:

My sex drive has definitely gone up and down throughout. Right now I'm going through something weird, I really don't want to actually have sex, but making out and fooling around is really fun...DH doesn't mind, so it works out in the end...

I wish that would happen to me!!

Eviebee · January 2010

Mine's barely there, which is better than it was when I was pg with DD at least. I just feel like a giant stretched out whale, just not sexy at all. Luckily DH isn't complaining even tho we were a once a day couple too, now lucky if it's once a week. My first pg he was too freaked out to touch me so I think over the 9 months it was maybe 10 times.

surfergirl28 · January 2010

Hmm, my sex drive has actually increased quite a bit. I'd love it every night, BUT then I remember the belly. It sucks wanting sex this much but not feeling sexy. Very odd combination.

MrsGhappilyeverafter · January 2010

surfergirl28:
Hmm, my sex drive has actually increased quite a bit. I'd love it every night, BUT then I remember the belly. It sucks wanting sex this much but not feeling sexy. Very odd combination.

This for me too. I want to have sex, but I do not feel sexy at all with this huge belly.

clooney81 · January 2010

Mine is gone too but I blame the prog suppositories because they make me feel DISGUSTING! I feel so bad for my husband.

jen-dale · January 2010

Not to freak you out, but I haven't really had any desire. Maybe once a month I will "think" about it but not enough to actually want to do it. We weren't an every day couple either. Hoping you have improvement soon!