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Do your parents like your DH?
My mom doesn't like my DH, but acts like she does. She is always trying to point out things about him she doesn't approve of.
The reasoning behind this is because she is still in love with my ex-boyfriend, and wishes I married him. Even though he was lazy and didn't want to work (this is why I left him), she still talks about him constantly.
She even had the nerve to show DH photos of my ex from 8 Christmases ago. Thanks, mom.
My DH is very blunt and somewhat bull-headed, and so is my mother, so they just naturally clash.
Even though DH and I have been together for almost 6 years now, she doesn't care. She still brings up my ex constantly, and it really gets on my nerves.
What about your parents? Do they approve of your DH?
The reasoning behind this is because she is still in love with my ex-boyfriend, and wishes I married him. Even though he was lazy and didn't want to work (this is why I left him), she still talks about him constantly.
She even had the nerve to show DH photos of my ex from 8 Christmases ago. Thanks, mom.
My DH is very blunt and somewhat bull-headed, and so is my mother, so they just naturally clash.
Even though DH and I have been together for almost 6 years now, she doesn't care. She still brings up my ex constantly, and it really gets on my nerves.
What about your parents? Do they approve of your DH?
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Re: Do your parents like your DH?
They adore him. My father actively hated every BF I'd had, or guy I'd even dated, except the last one, and DH. My mother is a softie and tolerated everyone, but she truly loves DH, and my dad-- amazingly-- can't get enough of him! I consider myself lucky...
What happened?
My mom LOVES my husband. He's awesome.
NNO I don't know though, you've said some pretty sad things about your H on here. I only know what you've put out there. I assume your mom knows more, but I'd be ... not so impressed? either.
I think so. They don't understand him sometimes, but they like him.
My mom's mom hated my father and she let everyone know it. She would try and be nice to his face and around me, but you could still see the looks and hear her tone of voice. If either set of ILs acted that way towards DH or me, DS would not be around them very often.
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She wanted me to marry someone that made tons of money. She wanted me to be a SAHM, and since DH can't do that, that upsets her.
Even though my ex barely worked, and was trying to be a "rock star"
in his band, she loved him because he most closely resembled my stepdad (same personality, same build, etc), so that overruled the fact that he was not well off.
My mother doesn't know any drama we've had because we keep that all to ourselves.
She did say he was a great father to Quentin, but she said she wishes I married someone more "stable" so I didn't have to work.
She also likes someone that doesn't talk back. Matt will state his opinion, and isn't afraid to speak up.
My DH is the same way. He just doesn't like being in a huge social environment like that. He is very introverted.
they love him.
the conversations that go on bw my mom and DH would make pearl clutchers cringe (think, "hey baby, what are you wearing" and "pants are optional for dinner tonight") but they are hysterical!
and my dad used to be really quiet and reserved, and actually kind of scary and intimidating, but DH has totally brought him out of his shell. the other night we had dinner over at my parents and i turned around to see my dad standing at the sink doing the dishes, and DH hugging him from behind saying, "i love you big guy," totally trying to get on his nerves. my dad mumbled something about cracking him in the jaw, but he was laughing, and my dad very rarely laughs.
That's really awesome! It's always nice when a new family member can bring out the best in the rest of the family. : )
See-- my dad also loves my DH, it's just my mom who has an issue with him.
Same here. My parents love DH to death, but as for his parents and the rest of his family, they wouldn't care if they ever talked to them again.
My parents LOVE my DH and tolerate his mother.
I'm sorry your mom is doing this -- how awkward for all involved. Perhaps a very stern talking to is needed for your momr to understand that your choices are your choices and that although she may not like your DH that she still needs to respect your choices, your relationship as H and W, and the father of your child.
GL.
LOL!!
I just typed the whole story and DS turned the computer off on me!! Uggh - here we go again.
Background - DH likes to joke around a lot. He doesn't always have a filter and says the first thing that comes to mind- but he means well. He doesn't usually say things maliciously. Step-dad is also a big jokester.
Thanksgiving morning we stopped over to see my lil sis who was home from college. DH was holding DS and step-dad came over to DS and put his face inches away and started loudly talking to DS. DH then put his face close to step-dads and in a joking manner/voice said " you don't need to talk to him this closely he can hear and see you just fine" or something along the lines of that. Step-dad then said "Go F**k yourself to DH while he was still holding DS and stormed out of the room" We left shortly because we had to get ready for ILs who we were spending thanksgiving with.
A week or so lately I get an e-mail from step-dad (DH doesn't have e-mail). He said he tried stopping over several times but we weren't home so an e-mail was the next best thing. He apologized for his language but continued on about how DH does not respect his elders. He (step-dad) does not have any patience when DH is disrepectful to his family including me. I think there were a few other things in there complaining about DH but I don't remember and can't find the e-mail. We were in the middle of moving out of our house and closing on the house we are in now. We never responded to his e-mail and haven't talked about it since.
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This exactly. But then again, I don't particularly care for DH's family either.
My mom doesn't dislike him... but she isn't overly impressed with him either. My ex boyfriends all kissed up to her for some reason and DH doesn't. DH doesn't offer to fix things for her or bring her gifts.(she likes to act helpless) I think part of it is because DH and I dated in college so he never had to pick me up at the house when we were dating. She never saw the flowers he brought me etc. she's pretty old fashion.
My dad and stepmom love him.
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This is the same scenerio with my DH and mother. My mom is all about hearing words of praise, having people suck up to her, getting small gifts from people, etc.
DH just isn't like that. He hugs her when we leave her house, but that's about the extent of it.
Your step dad was being anass.
I agree. I don't think DH should have done what he did - but he didn't mean any harm in it. Apparently step-dads reaction came from all the pent up anger he has towards DH cause DH is disrespectful.
This is my situation almost exactly.
My parents adore DH.
In fact, I'm pretty sure they like him more than me.
I thought your Dh was funny! But maybe he needs to adjust his delivery with your step dad.
Yeah - DH is a funny guy - but I guess doesn't always come across that way. We've decided that when we're with my mom and step-dad that he is to say as little as possible. If they question him being quiet (because he's never quiet) I will say that DH doesn't want to say a joke and have it come across as him being disrespectful. They only live 10 min away but are too busy with their own lives to see us that often anyway...
Oh and I have to add that I'm very happy someone else feels the same way. I haven't told anyone the story and was starting to question it.
My Mom is so crazy and two-faced, it's really hard to know. My Dad probably likes MH, but we see my parents so rarely and they aren't really a part of our lives that it doesn't matter.
At first, my parents weren't crazy about DH because of the age difference. My mom was vocal about it, my dad never says anything to me about these things.
After a couple of family gatherings on holidays, my mom came around and said "I see what you see in him." They all get along.
Although the night before my wedding, when we walked out of the rehearsal dinner my mom said to me "its not too late to walk away"
But I think that was because she saw how DH was bending over backwards to keep MIL happy & she foresaw a high maintenance MIL in my future.
My dad and DH get along great. My mom doesn't like DH at all. She thinks he "stole" me from her and that he is the reason I never moved home after college. Sometimes she tries to hide her dislike for him and other times she is very obvious about it. One time she told me that DH doesn't have the capability to consider DS when he is planning something and that he can't consider DS as part of our family. Yeah, my mom's a peach. That's just the tip of the iceberg for reasons I stopped talking to her this fall.
I swear my mom likes DH more than she likes me sometimes. Needless to say my whole family loves DH.