2nd Trimester

Who will be in delivery room??

My step-mom asked me if she could be in the delivery room with us the other day. I told her no but I'm curious, is this normal? I thought it was only supposed to be me and DH. I don't think I'd feel very comfortable with a ton of people being in there and seeing all of me lol.

Related question: Do you have a back-up coach in case DH faints or can't handle it etc? I've heard that you should have someone in mind as a back-up.?

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Re: Who will be in delivery room??

  • DH ofcourse, and I just recently asked my mother if she'd join us. But that is it!!
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  • Ours is a very small room and we decided it would just be us, the midwife and the nurse. I also hope to go home a few hours after delivering.
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  • Just DH and I. I wouldn't even consider anyone else.
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  • Just DH and myself. My mom and MIL havent said a word about wanting to be in the delivery room....I think its odd, and rude actually, to ask if you can be there. This seems like an "invitation only" kind of event. I actually asked my mom the other day if she had wanted to be there, b/c it was only going to be DH and I, and she gave me this look like why on earth would she want to be in there? haha

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  • imageBelhurstBride:
    Just DH and I. I wouldn't even consider anyone else.

     

    Ditto.

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  • imageLouRN09:
    Just DH and myself. My mom and MIL havent said a word about wanting to be in the delivery room....I think its odd, and rude actually, to ask if you can be there. This seems like an "invitation only" kind of event. I actually asked my mom the other day if she had wanted to be there, b/c it was only going to be DH and I, and she gave me this look like why on earth would she want to be in there? haha

    I asked my friend if I can skype into her delivery. She said it's a "game time decision"

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  • Just my husband.

    He wasn't here the first time (deployment). My mom and best friend were with me.

    I don't have a back up plan. If he passes out, he can lay on the floor until I deliver, then I'll throat punch him!

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  • Ive only ever heard of 1 or 2 people in with you.i only want DH but if he cant take it then my mom will be the only other one i would want in with me. 
  • It's not "supposed" to be anyone in particular, I don't think... for us it'll just be DH and me.  I doubt we'll need a backup because he works in the OR and sees a lot of nasty stuff every day.
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  • It should be whoever your comfortable with. I had my mother and DH with my first son and will do the same for this coming baby boy.
  • It's normal to have whatever you want. Whether it's just DH or some close family too. However, it's not right for someone to invite themselves... that's pretty rude. I plan on having my mom in there assuming she makes it in time, but that was mine and DH's decision. She would never ask.

    As far as coaches, I have no concerns that DH can't handle it. I wouldn't worry too much about it. If that happens it probably wouldn't be until the last second and you'll be in good hands with the doctor and nurses.





  • Me and DH.  That's what we did the first time, and he/we handled it just fine Smile.

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  • Just DH. My crotch is not a free show for all the family to see. As for "coaching"...I don't think DH will really be coaching me but holding my hand while I scream in pain, and no I don't have a back up.
  • Just me & SO.  No family members.

  • it might seem strange to many but I had about ten people in my room some sat behind a curtain( the men) and the women helped coach and make things a little more relaxing for me beause I am usally around alot of people anyway, But this time I think I won't be doing that and I am older now I won't have the dh with me because he will be in Iraq so I don't know if I will have any support this time I moved away from home so Hope u find who around your life makes u comfortable so you will be able to relax in intenss inviornment.
  • With my DD my dad drove DH from work to the hospital and so dad was their but not during the actual pushing or checks.  My mom and older sister came up to keep DH company.  During the acutal delivery it was only my DH and a whole lot of nurses and doctors in the room.  My mom and dad came in once the rushed DD off the NICU because DH went with her.  Then I remember my sister coming in and saying how pale I was.  The next thing i knew I was being wheeled away they kicked my family out of the room Dh was somewhere but I couldn't see him.  My family was great support for DH while I had surgery.  I am so glad they were there.

    This time around I asked my older sister who was there with DD and my younger sister to be at the hospital with DH and I.  My parents will be watching DD.

  • It's DH and I only....no matter what my mother wants or thinks. I've told my OB who I plan on having and I'll have it written in my birth plan.
  • Just my DH...my SIL is a nurse at the hospital where I will be delivering so I have to make sure I put it in my birth plan that ONLY DH should be there in case she wants to stop in and "see how things are going"...thank you but NO thank you!

  • DH and my mom during delivery. Thats ALL!

     

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  • imageBelhurstBride:
    Just DH and I. I wouldn't even consider anyone else.

     

    agree

  • Just DH.  As a backup, I may ask one of my sisters, or even let them decide amongst themselves.  My mom isn't that kind of person and although she would do it if I asked her to, I don't think she would really want to do it.  MIL may want to be there, but I can't deal with her in general, so that is out of the question.

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  • Just me, DH and the medical staff. 
  • Just DH.  To me, the birth of our child is a very special moment that I only want shared between us and our new baby. 

     I know DH can handle it because he did it last year :)

  • Other than medical personnel, the only people there for the delivery are those that were there for the conception. It's a very special moment and I really want it to be just DH and I. My mom hasn't asked (and I highly doubt my MIL will) but I'm prepared to tell them no.

    No, I'm not planning to have a backup coach. DH is a wildlife biologist, grew up on a farm, and sees crazy stuff every day. The only person who I'm worried about fainting is me ;)

  • Just DH....when baby is ready to come out....the whole room fills up with nurses, nurse for the baby, nurse for me, nurse to help my doc and the nurse who was holding one leg....that is enough people for me! 

    Going home a few hours after giving birth!!!!  Yikes!  I cannot even imagine doing that!  I couldn't even walk for hours and I collapsed when they made me try or pee for 2 days!   There is no way I'd want to go through that and figure out a new baby by myself at home!

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  • My husband and my mom will most likely be there with me. That is who was with me for my first. If the hospital would let me, I would have my dad, inlaws and sister there too-although I would like them standing at my head. It is a special moment, but that is why I would like to share it.

    I was there with my sister when she gave birth and it was an amazing experience to share with her.

  • I completely agree that its kinda rude to invite yourself to something like this. I'm still deciding who will be there...
  • My husband and I will be there.  My MIL asked pretty quickly if she could be there and I said no. 
  • I think it's rude for someone to invite themselves--if you don't ask, you obviously don't want anyone else in the room with you.  For my delivery, it's going to be DH, and the only other person I would even consider is my sister.  She's a respiratory therapist at a neighboring hospital and she's involved in c-sections on a daily basis, and I know she'd be a good one to catch any information that DH and I might miss or space out on.  Anyone else can come and visit after the delivery and clean up.
  • I am only allowing DH in during the actual delivery...possibly my mom...but that's still undecided. Mom can stress me out, and that's the last thing I want during delivery. Everyone else will have to wait outside...or preferably at home so I don't have to think about them being there waiting.

    I am a really private person, and would actually prefer that people not come to visit while I am in the hospital, but wait until I get home (won't be there very long anyway). The only people who can come to the hospital are immediate family, and that's about it. 

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  • Just my SO and I.  My parents will be in the waiting room.  That's it...keeping it simple!
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