Hello Auntie & Merry Christmas!
I wanted to ask you, if you could describe your boy to me at about 3years old so I can try to make a comparison.... My best friend has a 3 year old...and my spidey sense is telling me he could possibly be an Aspie. He's different from my son (surprise!...no 2 ASD kids are alike, right?)...but a lot of his behavior seems off. And now when I read a thread below where you guys discussed potty-problems...it gave me another hint that something is off with him. Among other things...he also refuses to poop on the toilet, only in a diaper or in his underwear....yells at his mother to go away and nobody can make eye-contact with him as he's doing it. He has no problem to go pee.
The other things that are making me wonder are: tip-toeing (all.the.time.... and very very high on his tippy-toes...like a ballerina), extreme shyness...doesn't want to make eye-contact with other people besides parents, has trouble connecting with children, although when they don't approach him or crowd his space, you can sometimes see him watching them. Also, his speech is great, actually ahead of his age...almost sophisticated. He's VERY interested in trolley-cars (rides on them daily...this trait he shares with my son who is also obsessed with trolley-cars) and he is also obsessed with vacuum cleaner hoses or just hoses....he shakes them very often as if it's a snake...? The hose obsession has been going on for over a year. You can't miss this one....when they would come over to my mom's, he doesn't care about anything/anyone...runs straight to our garden hose and shakes it, announces to his mom he found a hose, and that's the end of it, nothing else matters to him, he can stay occupied by it majority of the time he's at our house...and he seems super happy as he's playing with it.
He does have pretend play,btw.
Do you think it could be something?
My friend has been wondering from time to time, but hasn't done anything because since his speech is so good, it seems to be pacifying her that everything should work itself out. I don't know. She asked me what I think (she knows about my son)....but I can't seem to tell her one way or the other.
They don't have EI like we do here (she's in Europe), so that's not an option for her anyway.