The whole dentist thing....

Jodi&Joe · December 2009

I would NEVER leave my child in a room with an adult that I see once every 6 months.

And actually, assuming it's the first visit, you've never even met this person before. NO WAY NO WAY NO WAY!

I have brought Joey to the pedi about 15 times since he has been born (I'm guessing) and I still would not leave him in the room alone with his doctors. And I LOVE his doctors. And I trust them, medically speaking. Aside from that, call me paranoid, but I don't know a damn lick about them.

BubblyToes · December 2009

There is no way I could do that with my child. He would freak out and would not cooperate in any way, shape, or form.

There is a dentist that works downstairs from me that I wouldn't mind spending some alone time with...But that's another story. LOL

stacynikki · December 2009

I'm with you. I love DS's pedi and have seen him a million times but if he ever said he needed to see DS alone I would be out of there in a heartbeat!

gracendantho26 · December 2009

There is a dentist that works downstairs from me that I wouldn't mind spending some alone time with...But that's another story. LOL

This seriously made me LOL and I rarely ever actually laugh out loud reading posts.

I think it's crazy to expect a parent to leave their kid in that situation.

Kapalua · December 2009

I don't think it would be about trust for me...I just couldn't do that to my kid! I can't imagine how scary it would be for him!

What's with all the hotness at work, Bubbly? You've mentioned it before...I think I wanna come visit!

JOEBunny · December 2009

My DD's dentist does not allow parents back. He is never alone with the kids. They are all in one room with 3 hygentist, but I am in the waiting room until they are done and DD is done and he talks to me.

He is the best pediatric dentist around, everyone I know takes their kids there and you cannot get an appointment if you wait more than a month from the last appointment to make one.

BubblyToes · December 2009

Kap, I swear I am surrounded by man candy. Everywhere I look there's hotness.

Have I mentioned how much I love my job?

Andrewsgal · December 2009

I love our pedi dentist because we don't have to make this choice all kids under the age of 10 are seen in a HUGE room in view of the waiting room. There are like 8 chairs lined up and TV's for the kids to watch.

Kapalua · December 2009

BubblyToes:
Kap, I swear I am surrounded by man candy. Everywhere I look there's hotness.
Have I mentioned how much I love my job?

no wonder!

Zenya · December 2009

no effing way. it's very factory and (mostly) god complex-y to me. Just rubs me the wrong way.

Zenya · December 2009

Andrewsgal:
I love our pedi dentist because we don't have to make this choice all kids under the age of 10 are seen in a HUGE room in view of the waiting room. There are like 8 chairs lined up and TV's for the kids to watch.

See - I hated the communal room thing. It's the main reason I'm switching DS this time around. It just seemed so 3rd world/cheap/factory/assembly line to me.

Heidisean · December 2009

My mother is in the dental business and my dd's pedi dentist is highly recommended in our area. The dentist is female and lets you come back the 1st visit and then you have to wait in the waiting room and she calls you back to discuss the appt. ALL other pedi dentists in our area NEVER let you back. That was a question I asked when calling around because there were 3 local pedi dentists that were on my mother's list to me. It is protocol in case your child needs extensive work.

goodheartedmommy · December 2009

My dentist is awesome--Both did great the first time. The second visit, Bella cried and didn't want her teeth cleaned. They didn't push the issue, but had me hold her so they could check her teeth. She had a small cavity, which we had to have filled. DH and I were there holding her hands, with her head on my arm while they did it. They were so sweet to all of us. I can't imagine making my child go through that without me there. No way.

butterbeansmama · December 2009

BubblyToes:

There is a dentist that works downstairs from me that I wouldn't mind spending some alone time with...But that's another story. LOL

I have a hottie for a dentist too. :-)

Andrewsgal · December 2009

Zenya:

Andrewsgal:
I love our pedi dentist because we don't have to make this choice all kids under the age of 10 are seen in a HUGE room in view of the waiting room. There are like 8 chairs lined up and TV's for the kids to watch.

See - I hated the communal room thing. It's the main reason I'm switching DS this time around. It just seemed so 3rd world/cheap/factory/assembly line to me.

Funny never thought of it that way. Maybe if the room looked medical and factory type to me it would seem that way. Each chair is a different type of locomotion (E choose a rocket to sit in), and each has their own TV and toys. I just never thought of it like that and it does not bother me at all, now I would never see an adult dentist like that but I understand why the ped is like that.

butterbeansmama · December 2009

JOEBunny:

My DD's dentist does not allow parents back. He is never alone with the kids. They are all in one room with 3 hygentist, but I am in the waiting room until they are done and DD is done and he talks to me.

He is the best pediatric dentist around, everyone I know takes their kids there and you cannot get an appointment if you wait more than a month from the last appointment to make one.

Our pediatric dentist is set up the same way. We could go back there if we wanted to, but ds is such an easy going kid, he probably assumes I don't...lol.

femmegem · December 2009

I obviously didn't see the OP, but that seems so weird to me that people would take their kids to any medical professional that wouldn't let them be in the room, too. I guess I just never even thought of such a thing.

DS's pedi dentist is AWESOME. We were both there with him the whole time. I don't think I'd go see a pediatric doctor of any sort who wouldn't allow me to stay with my child.

ilovemygirls · December 2009

Our pediatric dentist office is an open plan with all kids seen in a large room so there's a ton of people in there. There are no doors on anything- not even the xray room & everything is cute & kid sized. For the first visit, you go back with them, they let them play with & touch everything & take it at the child's pace. My DD had so much fun, when the next visit came 6mos later she was like "Seeya mom!" and took off w/the hygenist. She talks about going back all.the.time. The dentist meets with you after the appointment. I love this, because I'm a super paranoid mom as well re: people alone w/my kids.

ilovemygirls · December 2009

Just saw the OP. I think any dentist should be accommodating if there is a unique need, and if not she should find a new one. My bf's son is autistic & she goes to the same pedi dentist we use. He's really sensitive to new situations/sensation so she took him back multiple times just to get one full cleaning in & she came back with him every time because that's what he needed!

Chrisy-Wyobride · December 2009

Every dentist I've been to including my kids is one big room w/ dividers but no walls nor doors. And always assistants are helping--the Dentist never has any alone time w/ me nor my kids. I've been back w/ them & in the waiting room (which is only a divider away from my kids w/ a fish tank between so you can actually see through). I am not worried about my kid getting abused by the Dentist.

Bellisimo · December 2009

Chrisy-Wyobride:
Every dentist I've been to including my kids is one big room w/ dividers but no walls nor doors. And always assistants are helping--the Dentist never has any alone time w/ me nor my kids. I've been back w/ them & in the waiting room (which is only a divider away from my kids w/ a fish tank between so you can actually see through). I am not worried about my kid getting abused by the Dentist.

This.

It's so not a big deal. You can go back or stay in the waiting room which you could spit and hit the dentist in the face from if you tried. Nothing factoryish godcomplexyish thirdworldish or cheap about it or whatever else you might assume. I've done both...sat in the waiting room a few feet away AND gone back. Either way, the kid is NEVER ever alone with anyone. There are two or more hygienists per kid plus a dentist. She's awesome as is her staff. But I'm a way laid back person so maybe I think nothing of it.

hopefulmom · December 2009

I thought I read that the first appointment she COULD go back...but after that no. I'm sure if she explained the situation her DD has they will not make her adhere to the rule.

As for me going back with my kids...it depends. I've been back in the rooms and they have no doors. It's not like anything can happen since they are open to the hallway and anyone (patients, other parents, employees, etc) walk by all the time. That is why I say it depends. If they close the door...that is a red flag for me. My DS (all my kids) have never had a problem with the dentist or the doctor though.

PoundCake · December 2009

I was the OP. The first appt you would be allowed back, but for following appts, they would not let you back. Just the kid.

Using the hand mixer to make cookies makes her cover her ears and get upset with the noise. And I can't run more than one appliance at one time otherwise it affects her. I cannot imagine her alone back there having a cleaning or work done.

DandelionMom · December 2009

Totally agree with you Jodi! That was the first thing I asked when calling dentists. If I can't go back with my girls, then we're finding someone else.

AngelaSue · December 2009

I'm a dental assistant and at my office, typically our hygienists allow parents in the room w/ their kids, but most parents wait in the waiting room and the hygienists get them when the doctor comes in to do the exam. On our end when we're doing restorative work, extractions, orthodontics, etc, we prefer that the parents wait up front in the waiting room, typically kids do better without their parents in the room and there just isn't a lot of space in our rooms for the parents to be in there without being in the way. I don't know the back story, but this is what we do at my office and I've been doing it for 7-1/2 years. DD is seeing a pediatic dentist to have some fillings done and all the chairs at the pedo are in one room with half walls dividing the chairs and the reason for most pedo offices doing this isn't for the "assembly line/factory feel", it's so that the kids can find comfort in each other, they see other kids doing it and then they feel comfortable and know it's an okay place.

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