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Anyone else have a MIL...
that does not want to be left wtih LO? I guess I am not at all surprised that its that way. I was just hoping having a baby would kinda soften her up.
Am I the only one who drew the short straw here?
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Re: Anyone else have a MIL...
I'm sorry Mari. I hope G softens her up.
I'm really lucky, my MIL is awesome with M.
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Wow. If she's that adverse then maybe it's a blessing in disguise?Still, bummer for you and sad for irresistable little G.
Pretty much everyone in our family can't wait to get their hands on Ada!
When my MIL visited she didn't want to hold Matt much either. I would ask her and she would say something like "if you need me to..."
yes, but I think it has more to do with age than anything else. My MIL is 83 and she does not feel very "comfortable" being left alone with N or even holding him. It's really a shame as she's perfectly capable of doing it, but she prefers not to....hmmmm, unless she doesn't and won't say. **pondering**
See my situation is opposite, my MIL wants to be left alone with H but I won't leave him with her. I know that sounds nasty but the reality is she does everything her way and only her way. She has total disregard for how DH and I parent and everything we do is wrong. DOn't get me wrong I love my MIL but she dismisses everything I say when it comes to H. On Christmas Day she (A) insisted that H needs more formula after he finished a full bottle and I told her he will not take it, he didn't. (B) Told DH that the bottles aren't warm enough and warm it more, (C) kept telling me there is nothing wrong with H when I would mention the goo that is coming out of his eyes (H has a nasty cold) and how if its still bad on Monday I may take him to the Dr.blah, blah, blah. I could go on. But the #1 reason, because I know what I mentioned above is little, she likes her wine. Alot of it.
Now my step MIL...anyday, anytime she wants. She lives in Chicago though.
I do not have inlaws, but my own mother isn't all that interested in the actual "baby." She LOVES to shop for him and spend money on him, but when it comes to actually holding him, she gets bored and usually hands him off right away.
But in hindsight, she was never the "motherly" type with me or my sister, either. Or with her other grandkids.
Sigh.. it is what it is.
That describes my mother. No motherly instinct or interest.
Big - 1 year old
Bigger - 6 years old
Biggest - 13 years old
My MIL has an intense fear of flying battling with the need to see her first grandchild. I think she will love hanging with Margaux once she has the chance.
My mom was afraid of being alone with the baby when she was here, but it's not because she didn't want to, but because she's 83 and has narcolepsy.
Little G still might soften her up, as they get to know each other. I hope so!