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MIL Rant...am I wrong?(NBR)

alexis0812alexis0812
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So at Christmas my MIL gives DH & I a gift and the tag reads to Mayita or Arnoldito...we are latin and have decided that if it's a girl, she will be called Maya...we still havent decided on a boy's name and they know this.

Me being my filterless self that I seem to be lately, told his sister, oh no! make sure you break your mom out of that habit, she cannot give Maya a nickname like Mayita! In spanish Mayita sounds the same as the word "screen", I'm NOT having that! And Arnold happens to be DH's middle name which I happen to really hate! so, that's not working either.

Well, DH said I could have been less abrupt and they are excited about the baby and I should just let it go...I think that's rude that they are nicknaming a kid that's not even here!!! and I felt that they should have consulted me on what I want her/him to be called...

Am I wrong?  Am I blowing this out of proportion???

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  • smssy2005smssy2005
    No, I don't think you are wrong at all. We are leaning toward naming our son Eastin David. My MIL says she is going to call him "ED" b/c of his name? WTF?! Not in my lifetime! 
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  • jknigh8jknigh8 member

    haha you are totally over reacting and will laugh about this later. DH's little sister (she's 15) gave us all baby presents addressed to "Nikki jr." which of course is SIL's name. It was just cute and funny. I think your in-laws are just excited and you should give them a little slack. They will call the baby by it's name when you pick one.

    Also, is it that bad for a grand-parent to have their own nick name for their grandbaby? I would think that was so cute if my daughter had a special connection with any of her grandparents that way.

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  • FutureMrsDavidsonFutureMrsDavidson
    Honestly I think your blowing it out of proportion. You and DH get to name your child no one else. Once you pick a name they will have a name to go by and once LO is here and if you run into that problem of her not using the correct name then you can correct her. Until then just relax she has no say in the name of your child. She can suggest all the names she wants but its you and DH who make the final decision so no reason for you to get upset.
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  • skiwic8skiwic8
    I totally understand your annoyance.  And I don't think you made it a big deal by commenting to his sister.  However, you said yourself "they are nicknaming a kid that's not even here", so why get all worked up now?  You don't even know if it's a boy or girl and you don't even have a boy name picked out yet anyway.  And, you really are not going to have any control over what nicknames people give your baby, annoying nicknames or not. 
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  • sturgejesturgeje
    since you haven't decided on a boy's name yet, i think you are blowing it a bit out of proportion.  it more than likely wasn't meant to make you mad.  they honestly are probably just excited about the baby and wanted to write something cute on the tag.  i would just drop it and go on.
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  • lmpdjclmpdjc member
    Chill.  The baby isn't here yet, you don't even know the sex,or have a boy name picked out and it's just a tag on a gift.  I assume it's all ready found it's way into the trash.
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  • rlscheckrlscheck member
    Eh, it's annoying, but I don't think it's anything to be upset about.  I think they just wanted to put a name on the tag, and since you don't have a boy's name picked out they just threw something on there that has some significance. 
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  • erbearerbear member

    You're overreacting. Who cares what your ILs call your (unborn) child. Sounds like you're gearing up for a fight over nothing. If this bothers you this much, I shudder to think how you'll react when MIL does something you don't like once the baby is born.

    You cannot mandate what other people do...kiddo's going to get nicknames and you can fuss and cry all you want, but it's going to happen. Call your baby whatever you want and move on.

    fwiw, Mayita is really a cute nickname, particularly if you're Latina.

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  • alexis0812alexis0812
    Thank you all for your responses :)
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  • DaisyFullDaisyFull member
    Over-reacting. You gotta pick your battles, and what your in-laws write on a gift is pretty insignificant. Like most others have said, they'll address the baby by name when you know what it is. And if they don't, I'm sure the child will not be permanently scarred.
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  • BelhurstBrideBelhurstBride member
    Completely overreacting. You can't control the nicknames people give your kids.
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  • SoldiersGreenBeanSoldiersGreenBean
    Overreaction.
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  • KLA_07KLA_07
    I totally understand your frustration.  That said, it's probably something you'll laugh about many years from now when you have named your child something else.  However, I have resigned myself to the fact that no matter what I name LO, he/she will almost definitely have a nickname at some point--especially a boy.  In fact, my dad has already decided that our son should be called "Spook" because his initials will be CIA, and that's a nickname for a spy...BTW, we don't know yet if it's a boy or a girl.  It's just my dad's way of showing his excitement over having a grandbaby!
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