anyone not want to tell people your due date?

scooter999 · December 2009

I have a friend who I just found out was PG and knew she was due in May. i asked her when in May she was due and she told me that they weren't telling anyone the date because they dont want to be overwhelmed with people and things when the baby arrives.

I kinda thought this to be strange....but I guess I can be open minded. Anyone else ever think this way or know someone else?

knelli · December 2009

It sounds like a good idea but I doubt I could go through with that through the whole pg. Never telling family "I am X weeks" or anything like that seems odd

KateAndMark · December 2009

To me I would think that's worse. If people know when you are due they can narrow down the time they bug you, if you tell them the month of May, then they will be asking you all month.

MrsDCruz · December 2009

thats just weird if you ask me.

ILoveErich · December 2009

That reason makes little sense to me. When people ask when I'm due, I say "mid-January" so that they can interpret it a bit loosely. Not because I don't want them to know, but so I can try to minimize the "haven't you had that baby yet?" questions. If they ask the exact date, I call it my guess date.

knelli · December 2009

KateAndMark:
To me I would think that's worse. If people know when you are due they can narrow down the time they bug you, if you tell them the month of May, then they will be asking you all month.

Oh VERY true!!

scooter999 · December 2009

KateAndMark:
To me I would think that's worse. If people know when you are due they can narrow down the time they bug you, if you tell them the month of May, then they will be asking you all month.

This is what I was thinking. i got her to tell me Mid-may....I dont know what her train of thought is. I actually thought she may be hiding the fact that she was pg at this wedding we were all at and she was trashed...she wouldnt have known at the time...but when I do the math she was def PG.

WearingRed · December 2009

Well you can tell your friend that baby's pick their due dates not Doctors or ovulation, LMP days. NOT telling someone the EDD will not keep well wishers ways. THEY know its in MAY and will be calling daily to see if he/she has been born yet.

I guess my point is you might as well tell and try to keep the calls down. If you have people who want to be around you after the baby's born they will find a way to be there one way or the other. The best thing to do is to tell everyone the truth that you would like some time after the baby's born to get to know him/her without having to be a hostess and being overwhelmed by people and things.

Or at least this is what I would do!

someflower6 · December 2009

the only reason i'm hesitant to tell people my edd is because i think sometimes TOO much emphasis can be placed on it. yes, my EDD is july 3rd, but i am well aware of the fact that my little one is going to show up whenever s/he feels like it. so although i have told people our edd, in my head i like to think of baby's estimated arrival as "early july."

ibis · December 2009

I have heard of people lying about their due dates by a week so they won't be driven crazy at the end.

PurpleK26 · December 2009

While I see it as a benefit at the end, that's a long time to not tell anyone how far along you are etc.

myafoo · December 2009

ILoveErich:
That reason makes little sense to me. When people ask when I'm due, I say "mid-January" so that they can interpret it a bit loosely. Not because I don't want them to know, but so I can try to minimize the "haven't you had that baby yet?" questions. If they ask the exact date, I call it my guess date.

This exactly! I say the middle or end of March.

WearingRed · December 2009

scooter999:
This is what I was thinking. i got her to tell me Mid-may....I dont know what her train of thought is. I actually thought she may be hiding the fact that she was pg at this wedding we were all at and she was trashed...she wouldnt have known at the time...but when I do the math she was def PG.

OR that might be the case.

Eviebee · December 2009

That just seems odd. People are going to know when you have the baby no matter what (I hope). What difference does that really make? Unless you're due in the first week and by not telling anyone when they are hoping ppl won't start asking is the baby here yet until after it is. That still seems odd.

Mrs0815 · December 2009

for the love. People need to chill out. I'm so tired of peoplle trying to pull off all sorts of Shenanigans when they're pregnant. Here's a spoiler: nobody cares as much as you do so simmer. I had a friend of a friend once who was pregnant and we asked her when she was due and she said they're keeping it a surprise. Umm...wanna see how much I cared? I remembered her 7 months later and the kid was 3 months already. The public is not on the edge of their seats J Lo, just calm down.

WearingRed · December 2009

Mrs0815:
for the love. People need to chill out. I'm so tired of peoplle trying to pull off all sorts of Shenanigans when they're pregnant. Here's a spoiler: nobody cares as much as you do so simmer. I had a friend of a friend once who was pregnant and we asked her when she was due and she said they're keeping it a surprise. Umm...wanna see how much I cared? I remembered her 7 months later and the kid was 3 months already. The public is not on the edge of their seats J Lo, just calm down.

hahahaha I am go glad you are over here now Mrs! I am going to go laugh so hard I cry now!

LC0479 · December 2009

CruzMommyG:
thats just weird if you ask me.

Agreed.

Kel&Jay · December 2009

someflower6:
the only reason i'm hesitant to tell people my edd is because i think sometimes TOO much emphasis can be placed on it. yes, my EDD is july 3rd, but i am well aware of the fact that my little one is going to show up whenever s/he feels like it. so although i have told people our edd, in my head i like to think of baby's estimated arrival as "early july."

This. I've just been telling people "early June"

GTBrideKC · December 2009

Mrs0815:
for the love. People need to chill out. I'm so tired of peoplle trying to pull off all sorts of Shenanigans when they're pregnant. Here's a spoiler: nobody cares as much as you do so simmer. I had a friend of a friend once who was pregnant and we asked her when she was due and she said they're keeping it a surprise. Umm...wanna see how much I cared? I remembered her 7 months later and the kid was 3 months already. The public is not on the edge of their seats J Lo, just calm down.

Couldn't agree more. It's pretty arrogant of people to just assume everyone is on the edge of their seats about your news. I expect that my immediate family might be, but that's it. And if you are afraid of getting bugged by phone calls for weeks, just get over it it. There are far worse things to deal with.

My SIL wanted everyone to guess their 2nd child's birthday. Cute for the 1st when the EDD is not known, not cute for the 2nd when you are having a scheduled c-section and you refuse to tell the date b/c you want people to "guess". Then it's just annoying, especially for the grandparents who are going to watch the 1st child during the delivery and hospital stay.

epona3 · December 2009

myafoo:

ILoveErich:
That reason makes little sense to me. When people ask when I'm due, I say "mid-January" so that they can interpret it a bit loosely. Not because I don't want them to know, but so I can try to minimize the "haven't you had that baby yet?" questions. If they ask the exact date, I call it my guess date.

This exactly! I say the middle or end of March.

I'm in this category, too. I don't keep the EDD a secret, but I know it's just an ESTIMATED due date, I usually tell people mid-May.

Danielleee · December 2009

I may want to take this back in a couple of weeks, but really how much of a big deal is it for people to call and ask if the baby has arrived yet? I think it's nice that people care and are eager to share in the joy. I know I have been guilty of it in the past before I was pg and didn't know better. I think people need to lighten up a little

soontobemrsvega · December 2009

That's weird I'm telling friends and family the actual date but people who just ask I say beginning of June.

wannabmommy · December 2009

I just usually say mid-late April and leave it at that. Not because I don't want to tell people, but I might have to have a scheduled c-section and that might change things. Also, at work, a co-worker just had a baby and they wrote her due date on a master calendar and everyone kept reminding her X # of days left and then X # of days she went over her due date and I just felt horrible for her because she was getting really annoyed. So I'll tell people if they ask but really most people just ask to be polite and don't remember so if I say mid April they are fine with that response.

erinkate23 · December 2009

I wish I had kept it a secret for all those reasons... but I'm due on my birthday and everyone knows!! I've taken to telling people at work simply that I'm due in March.

I also don't want to make my own due date a big deal - babies come when they're ready, not when a timer goes off. I don't want to be disappointed if 3/23 comes and goes without him!

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