so I wrote my husband a letter.

kittybits21 · December 2009

he was nice as pie when he came home yesterday from being away 4 days, and we only had about 2 hrs before he went to bed (had to work today), so I didn't feel like giving him the letter then, I just told him about it this morning, and that it was on the sideboard in the hall at home. now he's asking what it's about and why I didn't give it to him sooner.

I wrote the letter while he was away - it's about everything I've been feeling lately that I couldn't really say to his face. I didn't want him to take that to work or anything, or get into a big discussion last night... this is going to be interesting.

robinsokj · December 2009

Ive had to do that before...It actually worked really well. I knew if I just tried saying those things to him it would have come out as a very heated discussion but the letter got the point across in a very level way.

Mrs.EliK · December 2009

Good luck! I hope everything goes well for you. It's good that you took the time while he was away to get some of your feeings down to let him know.

Dee1028 · December 2009

fredalina:
i think i missed the back story. Sometimes writing a letter can really help. Hope this is one of those times!

exactly this.

nikisnow · December 2009

I hope it helps and you guys can work things out.

XXXXX222 · December 2009

*hugs*

jCamsquared · December 2009

robinsokj:
Ive had to do that before...It actually worked really well. I knew if I just tried saying those things to him it would have come out as a very heated discussion but the letter got the point across in a very level way.

Ditto, letters have helped both of us to be able to say everything we need to without the other blowing up halfway through. I hope it works for you guys too!

capinjen152 · December 2009

I like the idea of a letter. There is only one downside for me. Its permanent. You can always look back and reread things and look into them more than maybe you would in a conversation. I wrote DH a letter once in our relationship when we were still just dating and I wish I hadn't. I said some things I wish I could erase, which wouldn't have stuck so long if only said and not written.

kittybits21 · December 2009

thanks girls, I've always avoided writing letters because I make them huge and go into way too much detail, but I think this is one of those times when it will really help.

backstory is in the everything else blog ? ...

oh and if Victoria of comment history is around, I can't respond to your last comment at work (firewall, lame) but I will when I get home, sorry! I know it's been a couple days.

kittybits21 · December 2009

capinjen152:
I like the idea of a letter. There is only one downside for me. Its permanent. You can always look back and reread things and look into them more than maybe you would in a conversation. I wrote DH a letter once in our relationship when we were still just dating and I wish I hadn't. I said some things I wish I could erase, which wouldn't have stuck so long if only said and not written.

I've actually said more things I regret during an argument, so I thought it might be easier to write it out instead. I've written letters before where that happened though - that was prior to DH, so hopefully this one will turn out better!

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