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f/u to How to Tell DH
I have often wondered about this, and if I offend anyone I apologize....but do you think your DH would really care if you told him you were pg in a cute or clever way? This just doesn't strike me as something that would mean a lot to a guy. I could just be being my usual cynical self, but honestly, I think if I gave my husband a onesie wrapped up in a stocking he would just say, why the hell are you giving me this. Seems to me like coming up with a way to tell your husband is more something for the mother-to-be than the husband. Just saying "i'm pregnant" would work fine for most guys.
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Mine couldn't care less. An "I'm pregnant" will work just fine for him.
ETA - I'm not into all the cutesie stuff either.
2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14
I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929
I agree, my H wouldn't get it unless I just said I am pregnant so thats what I plan to do.
Maybe if I got KU on the first try or something I would have been more creative but now that this has gone on for 8 months, we will both just be relieved when it happens
*disclaimer: 8 months isn't that long in the scheme of things, but it has been a while*
When I found out I was pregnant with DD I came out of the bathroom holding the digital HPT that said "pregnant".
We hugged each other and kissed and that was that.
I totally agree with you. I never understood this, but to each his own.
After 2 years of TTC, I'm going to blurt it out and that will be that.
Yeah definitely wouldnt care about how I told him. However I do, I defintely want to do more then just "Im pregnant"
To each his own
Exactly this. We would both be there for the POAS anyway.
Oh noes! I got one-starred. Sorry if I think giving your husband a onesie is stupid.
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DH wants to know immediately -- however, I want a cute thing to do.
He didn't just toss me a ring and say, "Um, so, you wanna?" when he proposed, so it's my chance to do something grand for this next big life step.
(yet I just shoved the pee stick under his nose when 2 lines showed up ... then I went and grabbed the onesie)
I don't think it's the question that erks, just the driveby nature of the last post.
If I had gotten pregnant faster, I think I would have taken the time to plan something cute. Since we're both beginning to get frustrated, I think it's better to just tell him as soon as I know. We'll do something cute when we tell his parents.
LO#1 - 19 cycles, 3 IUIs, 1 m/c, gonal-f, ganirelix, ovidrel, progesterone
Totally worth the wait!
Getting ready for #2
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I see your point and tend to agree.
For us, DH is always out of town. I asked him ages ago if he wanted me to wait to test until he was in town. He said he'd rather I test without him and tell him in a meaningful way if he can't be home for a few days.
Love, luck, and prayers to my BFPB Dr. SnowflakeBride
One-starred my a$$! This gets 5 from me.
Thanks - that means a lot coming from a hot chick.
I think it depends on the relationship. Some people make a big deal out of anniversaries and Valentine's Day, but to some it's no big deal.
I tested when DH wasn't around and when I got home we had houseguests, so I had to wait until they left. I grabbed the cats and told him that we needed to sit them down and talk to them about how they'd feel about becoming big brothers. It was very "us."
Next time? I'll probably test at home, freak out, and cry. He'll probably be able to tell by my erratic behavior. I'll probably just wave the test and ask him if he's ready for Round 2.
I gave 5.
Love, luck, and prayers to my BFPB Dr. SnowflakeBride
IVF#3 brought us our miracle baby girl on June 26, 2012
Thank you, dear heart!
I didn't do it in a special way. I suppose ideally, I would have wanted him to see it first and tell me if there were two lines, but when I got to that third cycle, peeing on a stick was getting old. When two lines appeared, I just stood there in shock. I opened the bathroom door and said, "Babe?" (waited for him to wake up) "Babe, I'm pregnant."
I couldn't imagine I could've waited another moment longer.
I expected a bigger reaction from him, but I have realized that to guys, it isn't as real to them yet. I am not sure it will be real for him until the ultrasound or even the birth.
Now, if we had been trying for a really long time, I think I would have made a HUGE deal out of it. I once saw a YouTube video of a woman who had been trying for a really long time tell her husband and it was very emotional for the both of them. I am tearing up just thinking about that video. He was obviously feeling it.
This is so us - we are completely not sentimental about stuff like that.
Me either, and I'm also not into big to-dos about things. I didn't go to either of my college graduations, and we didn't have a wedding. Us getting married consisted of -
DH: I found a house I want to buy
Me: If we are going to buy a house, we have to get married
DH: Oh, okay
this.
This. I think he would want me to call him if he wasn't at home and immediatly run and tell him if he is.
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Me= 37 and DH = 41
Dx: DOR, Endo, APA+ (really high beta 2 glycoprotein antibody and high everything else tested), heterozygous MTHFR mutation, positive for lupus anticoagulant, high FSH, low AMH and both tubes blocked (per HSG on 3/8/11)
IVF #1 - long lupron (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 4 retrieved, 3 fertilized; ET 2 blasts and 1 frozen = BFN
IVF #2 - a version of antagonist with EPP (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 6 retrieved, 4 mature, 3 fertilized, 2 blasts and 1 frozen blast transferred on day 5 = BFN.
IVF #3 April was postponed to May, May was canceled. June/July was canceled. Had a cyst aspiration and then began IVF #3 in August. ER on 8/22; ET on 8/24 with AH. +HPT on 9/5. Beta #1 (11dpo) = 3; Beta #2 (15dpo) = 29; Beta #3 (17dpo) = 60; Beta #4 (19 dpo) = 118. Heartbeat at 6 weeks 6 days =132. Lil is here!
TTC#2: Trigger + TI = BFN; Clomid + Trigger + IUI = BFN.
IVF #4: BCP + MDLF + Lovenox = 7R, 1F = Transferred 1 6-cell embryo on day 3 = BFN
IVF #5: MDLF + Lovenox = 4R, 1F = Transferred 1 10-cell compacting embryo on day 3 = BFN
IVF #6: (New RE): Long Antagonist November 2014 (transferred two 8 cell grade 1 embryos and froze one blast) = BFN
FET#1: BFN
With our bfp in August, it was on a Sunday am, so I woke him up to tell him, and he smiled at me, gave me a kiss, and then rolled over and went back to sleep. I imagine the next bfp will be similar.
But then my husband isn't all that demonstrative, and he really doesn't like suprises all that much.
This will be me too!