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PurpleK26
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Apparently a hospital birth means you're a bad parent...
PurpleK26
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This was my friends FB status tonight:
finally was able to really have a good conversation with E*** about her birth. J***and I were able to apologize for what happened and really pour on the love! What a difference it is already making. Birth is part of all of us and it is one of the first acts of parenting we do. Be wary of the convience and comfort track...you are a parent first.
She thinks that her 5 year old remembers being born in a hospital under bright lights... and apparently that has scarred her for life!
and I guess delivering with the convienence of a hospital makes you not a parent first....
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Re: Apparently a hospital birth means you're a bad parent...
Nutjob. Next she'll be doing a "re-birthing."
Umm . . . okay. Wow. I'm not going to apologize to my son for having him in a hospital anymore than I'm going to apologize for restraining him in a car seat.
Shorty... LOVE your second ticker!!!
Well at least on the side of the road wouldn't be as traumatizing as a hospital!
Unless it was at night with all the bright headlights shining on LO.
Thanks!
She's also a Doula!!!
Maybe ask your hospital to dim the lights.. this may help
ditto.
I used to say to each his own when it came to home births.
However, someone on here had a hospital birth in the last month and had some sort of condition with her cervix and her placenta that caused serious bleeding. The problem was not able to be diagnosed via u/s and her OB told her that if she had done a home birth both her the baby would have died.
Thanks, but no thanks. My child can deal with the bright lights. I'm the mom. I'm in charge.
Does she have one of those kids that she tries to let control everything for the good of the child and so the child is a terror?
big brothers 12.2009 and 02.2012
I have no problem with home births... I think they are risky, but if you've had a few easy deliveries, you'll probably do fine...
Honestly, the only time I ever met her 5 year old was when she was about a month old, so I couldn't tell you... I can tell you that my friend is one of those people who gets a ideal 'way of anything' in her mind and just assumes that everything will go that way... ie. birth is natural, she wants it to be easy and peaceful, therefor anyone who doesn't have it easy and peaceful is doing something wrong to cause it to be that way...
ugh... according to my friend... your mother allowed the dr.s to rip you away from her... and you just didn't know if you'd be reconnected to her... it was a very scary time for you!!!
Wow, yes, yes that is what a c-section is, my exact thoughts! Of course birth itself is the forced removal from the womb by the womb itself. Ah all the Freudian angles you can play from that sort of logic...
What is her opinion of medically necessary C-Sections? Like a full placenta previa? This sounds like she's a FB Friend and not a really close friend, am I right?
For medically necessary ones, she feels that the cause justify the means... however, she does thing that 90% of c/s are un necessary and just performed because the mom isn't progressing enough (which is TOTALLY because of the stress of being in a hospital) or because the dr. just wants to get home to dinner.
She was actually a very close friend, we were even roommates for a while. It was after she became a Doula that she started acting like this!
I am planning on going natural in a free standing birthing center and I do believe it can be peaceful way of bringing a child into the world. HOWEVER, I don't feel my choice is better than anyone's nor do I feel it has any impact on my child in the long term. Birth is unpredictable - anything can happen at any time and you can't spend your life dwelling on it one way or the other.
I find it super bizarre that she posted it on facebook of all places...
That posting was almost as good as this: https://www.dolphinessence.com/dolphin-assisted-therapy.html
YES. Dolphin assisted births!
I know a girl like that. She believes that her first pregnancy ended in early m/c because she went in for regular "Western medicine" prenatal care instead of just trusting God, so when she got pregnant again with her son she hired a pretty out-there, unaccredited midwife for an under-the-radar, illegal home birth (in our state doctors/midwives can only deliver a baby in a hospital or birthing center unless it's an emergency). She never had an anatomy scan, a GD test, or any bloodwork done. Her son was overdue by almost 4 weeks and weighed over 12 pounds. Luckily everyone came out of it relatively healthy, thank goodness. She's also very anti-vaccine and her baby has not seen a pediatrician yet.
I would never knock anyone's religious or personal beliefs (and I understand the need to search for a 'reason' for a loss, because I certainly did after mine), but I think that utilizing the medical safety measures we're blessed to have access to is not a bad thing.