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Baby shower drama already

robinsokjrobinsokj member
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My mom and MIL are throwing a coed shower for us Jan 16th.  The invites are going out on Mon.  MIL finally got her list to my mom so she could address them.  She compiled a list of 40 addresses.  Half of them are waaaaaaay out of town and 90 yrs old, or DH and I have never even heard of them.  Sure, so and so Ive never met, let me greedily take this present off your hands for you.  Um, no.  Id rather not have a bunch of people I dont know at this baby shower.  DH thinks she just sent my mom their Christmas card list.

On top of that she didnt even invite her own sisters.  

I told my mom to email me her list because I was afraid that something like this would happen, and sure enough it did.  I am editing as we speak. 

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  • N&G 5_26_07N&G 5_26_07 member

    Wow. I think thats ballsy of you. If someone is throwing you a shower I don't think you should dictate and edit their guest list. While I think it would be nice if they request your input, they are the hosts.

    If you really think its a mistake and the Christmas card list, perhaps you should point out her mistake. 

    I was just grateful to get a shower. 

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  • TheMrs923TheMrs923 member
    I agree with N&G.  If you think you have drama now, wait until your MIL finds out the people on her list never got invitations.
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  • thequeeenbeethequeeenbee member

    I know how it works with DH's family, and if one person gets an invite, they tell someone else, who tells someone else, and before we know it the people that are related to us, the we don't really know and we know aren't going to come are offended that they didn't get an invite. Maybe thats what your MIL was doing. You should talk to her before you go editing the list.

    As for not inviting her sisters, that is kind of strange. You should ask about it. If there are people who are important to you (close family members or friends) I don't think theres anything wrong with telling the hosts that you really would like them to get an invite. I don't see that as dictating the invites.

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    I agree with N&G.  If you think you have drama now, wait until your MIL finds out the people on her list never got invitations.

    This.  She's throwing the shower for you, so IMO there is very little you can politely dictate.  I wouldn't worry about her friends thinking you're being gift-grabby.  Where I'm from at least, that's just how showers work.  My godmother threw my wedding shower and she asked  me, my mom, and my MIL for a guest list.

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  • robinsokjrobinsokj member
    We contacted DH's father and he said feel free to edit.  She is very much about appearances and always makes family events into "look at me" parties.  Shes been in a fight with her one sister for the last 4 years and has recently thrown the other one in there.  Some of these "invites" were flat out ridiculous and FIL is fully aware of that.  I know its usually tacky to edit this kind of thing, but much of the invites are just to start drama to begin with. 
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