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Anyone having DH issues?

ravensekhmetravensekhmet
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My DH has been horrible the past month. Iv been on and off contracting the past week and overall feel like crap since Im pregnant :P well all he does is complain that I whine to much..lay down to much, and overall dont make him feel good Indifferent If he does anything nice ::ex:: he went to zales yesterday to get me a labor present..he demands affection and if I dont feel like it says Im being horrible to him and never do anything.

He is also blaming my moods on hormones which I know there not I cry alot because he is upsetting me not hormones and he isnt getting it. Iv tried many ways to get this across to him and nothing. I even dread asking for things like a pedi or manicure since he will make it into a argument. Any advice?

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  • bmstee03bmstee03 member
    Mine has sucked at life for about 6 months. He needs to stop REAL soon.
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  • poison489poison489
    My husband has bouts of crankiness that I have been able to tie to our lack of sex life right now.  He is just frustrated and lets it get the best of him.  Luckily he is usually able to talk himself down and change his mood by telling himself how uncomfortable I am and how I wouldn't be enjoying it as much if we did have some sexy time.  I do what I can, but I know he wants some crazy pre-pregnancy sex.
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  • newmommyhayleynewmommyhayley
    Mine has been pretty horrible for a long time now as well... He is going to have to get over whatever it is real soon!
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  • kieransgirl09kieransgirl09
    i understand totally...read my post earlier! DH and i are at each other's throats! we have fought everynight for a week. its exausting and emotional. I don't have much advice other than i don't think there is anyway to make it known to them how we feel. Its so hard to be pregnant especially this last month. Just try to stay calm and not yell and just look to other's for support (a sister , your mom, a friend?) who understands what you are going though. I know i am taking all of my fear frustration and anxiety out on Dh and im going to try to just think before i flip out and just cool my jets. Just try to keep to yourself, get your mani/pedi (if your like me im sure you cant see your feet) and don't ask just go. You deserve it your growing a baby and you need to put yourself first. DH's i think have a funny way of trying to make pregnancy about them, which of course they are involved and are the daddy' but ultimatly were carrying the babies, were pregnant, and we have to give birth, and im sorry but for the 9 months the focus should be on us!.just know when you both see your baby none of the pregnancy fighting will matter and it will all be forgoten! i hope you feel better mama!!
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  • partyg1rlpartyg1rl

    My DH has been terrible lately, I totally understand what you are going through. I actually just posted a long rant about him yesterday! Things haven't gotten any better either, so I'm still in your boat! Hopefully things will get better for you.

     I totally agree that for some reason they try to make the pregnancy about them...I don't know what that is all about but it's getting really old!

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  • Lance&BeccaLance&Becca
    Remind him when you're stressed it's not good for the baby. Then tell him exactly what he needs to stop doing to keep you from having extra stress or anxiety.
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  • madeleines_mommymadeleines_mommy member
    Men need to get the F over it.. how would they like to get fat and miserable for almost a year?? It is a small portion of life, we are growing their child, and they need to suck it up and get over not getting laid for a bit.
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  • kimberleigh30kimberleigh30 member

    It took DH to finally feel for me and what I was going though.  It didn't start until I was almost 8 months.

    Some men/people just don't realize what pregnant woman to go though.  But for your DH to demand affection, is a little strange. 

     

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  • pakiprn@yahoo.compakiprn@yahoo.com
    mine has been a pain since he got laid off a few weeks ago! he gets mad at the littlest thing, and i have to remind him i am the pregnant one! i say go get your mani/pedi on your own, maybe go with a friend and make a day of it. maybe some time apart will help. at least you are nearing the end and it will all be over and once baby is here his tune will change. men are such babies!! ugh, there have been a few times lately i have visualized throwing something at him or walking out. too bad we can't drink and make it better!
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  • sramasundersramasunder
    mostly DH is great and sweet but yesterday I opened the fridge and his f*n egg drop soup came flying out and landed all over the floor and my pants.  All I wanted was some friggin' water and it was 1am.  I cleaned it all up and mopped the floor but left the napkins and soup container in the sink bc we leave our garbage pail in the garage (cuz of our nutty dog) and no way was I going out there to get it at friggin' 1 am after spending 20 mintues on my hands and knees to clean up his ill-placed soup.  When he woke up today and saw it all in the sink he got on me about what a mess i have been lately and how i need to clean up my act!  WTF???  I just said "nope."  He was stunned!  I reminded him that not only to i work 65 hrs a week, but that my 2nd FT job is carrying his child 24/7, so back the f* off!
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