told daycare we're leaving them... and they're not happy.

njkitty · December 2009

so we had "the talk" this morning and my husband was very diplomatic about the whole thing... "looking for a change" "we know better now what to look for" blah blah blah. well the owner got all "well, i know what's out there and they may be nice now, but once you enroll him, he won't be a child, he'll only be money." and then the education director called me and said how they are "concerned" for us since we're leaving, and how DS has "made progress in areas of development they were concerned about."

Um, they have NEVER told us they were concerned about anything (including his rock hard poop that I was unaware of until I happened to ask one day). Oh, and they want to talk to me again this afternoon when I pick DS up. And they "require" 30 days notice.

I really was hoping that it wouldn't go down like this. It's like a bad break up. Only I have to trust them with DS. And I have to pay them. This blows.

What do I do? I really don't want to tell them all the little things that bug me there if DS has to stay there any longer. But they keep hounding me telling me we're being vague about why we're leaving. Grrrrrrrrrrrr.

BitterOldHag · December 2009

A: Because we are his parents and pulling him out.

That's all you need to tell them. You don't owe them any explanations but you will owe 30 days (paid) notice if that's what's in the contract you signed.

fluffer.nutter · December 2009

I feel for you. I would also be uncomfortable leaving DS there after giving them notice, especially since it sounds like you're switching because they are not meeting your expectations to begin with. When can you get DS into the new place? If you're able to do so, I think I would just eat this month's fee and transfer him asap.

If not, could you make something up that would be out of their control? like you want to find a center closer to your office so you can stop in for lunch because you miss him, or something like that?

AdamsGirl81305 · December 2009

I feel your pain. On Friday we are telling our daycare that we are "breaking up" with her. Feel bad about the time of the year, btu have to do what is right for our girls.

Pumpkin111 · December 2009

FYI... never sign future daycare that requires 30 days notice.. 2 weeks is sufficient.

As much as I hated and still hate my first daycare they actually send me my money back for the week we didn't use because they could not care for her properly. While they weren't good for my daughter, they still made attempts to be fair with me..

If I were you, I'd sit down with the director tomorrow and just explain that you found something that fits better for your son and your style.

yo.mama · December 2009

Did you sign anything that requires 30 day notice? ugh, I would not feel comfortable bringing him back, seeing as they are taking it pretty hard. Do you have any other options? If so, I would pull him out and tell them exactly why you are unhappy.

njkitty · December 2009

I'm getting really irked and thinking I may tell them that they are making me uncomfortable with leaving him there and that it is unreasonable for them to make me pay 30 days and make me feel guilty for wanting something better for my child. i'm am this close to making friday his last day ever.

sunnyday016 · December 2009

If you signed the contract stating you'd give 30 day notice, then you owe them the money for those days. But you do NOT need to take your DS there if you don't want to.

christina-marie · December 2009

Truly, we went through something similar and the instant they got that way with me ( I actually had 3 employees corner me and snap at me) DH drove straight there after work ( they snapped on me when I picked DS up for the day) and told them exactly what he thought. Since the director wasn't there at the time, he sent her an extremely strongly worded email, brutal if we're being honest, and we traded vacation days until we found alternate care. We decided that we'd never leave DS in the care if anybody we didn't feel 100% comfortable with and the fact that they're questioning your child's development and insinuating that they are the best medicine for this "delayed development" would be enough to throw up huge red flags. IMHO, today should be your LO's last day, I realize that may not be exactly easy and it may not seem like a possibility, but is there any way possible to pull your child today?

Symharmony · December 2009

I think your daycare is acting weird, what are they worried about? Are they hiding something or feeling guilty about something? Seems very fishy that they would give you such a hard time about taking your LO elsewhere.