What possesses people to give real food to babies?

CareBear01 · December 2009

My mom was trying to feed DS pancakes when he was probably 5 months old (I hadn't even started him on solids, yet). She kept trying to sneak it in - and I told her I would prefer her not to feed him food - but if she felt that she must, then to avoid the allergens (I was trying to "pick my battles").

Then last night, sMIL started feeding DS chocolate pie and whipped cream!? I mean, really? Even FIL was telling her that she shouldn't be doing it. I was biting my tongue (again - picking my battles).

It's not even the actual food that's the problem. I know that it won't "hurt" him, so I'm not necessarily being anal about that part - but it's like they are purposely trying to "break the rules". Maybe it's a grandparent thing. Sigh - I guess it's just beginning! lol.

dlphnlvr_25 · December 2009

I don't know what it is with them either, my mom is ALWAYS trying to feed Claire stuff. Now she is at least eating solids so it's not as bad. but when she was like 1 1/2 months or something they fed her mashed potatoes, she spit most of it out, then get the whole speil (sp?) that I was fed solids at 4 weeks old and I am fine etc etc. But still it's the reasoning behind it, I don't get it, just respect our wishes, we are the moms this time, not yoU!

JamicanBride · December 2009

I totally get that. Both my parents and FIL, who watched DS on occasion will do something similar. My parents are constantly giving DS juice which I give him sparingly, and then I've got FIL filling him up with fruit which I give him often enough but by the time I go pick up DS his poor little system is over burdend and he ends up with wicked diaper rash.....ugh....so frustrating.

KelleyA · December 2009

They do it because they did it when we were babies and they think that what was ok back then is fine since we turned out alright. I think our moms' generation is a bit stuck for the most part in what happened back when and I'm certain we'll likely be the same when our children have children. I am thankful that research has been done, that studies have shown that breastfeeding, introducing solids at "x" age, that eating certain things or avoiding certain things during pregnancy, etc all help with bonding, development, nutrition, etc.. They didn't know those things back then. I am grateful that all of that research has been done and that we know better...who knows what our kids will know that's better than what we know now.

Grrrr on your sMIL offering pie, that's crazy!

TexasPaige · December 2009

My mother-in-law decided one day that he needed to try a pickle (he was around 7 months old and had only had cereal, avocado, and banana at that point). She just kept giving it to him to suck on, and anytime he would fuss for two seconds, she would say, "Oh, he must want the pickle" and would force it on him again. Drove me crazy, but I too didn't want to pick that battle.

melrrr · December 2009

"but she really liked it!" (the whipped cream off of some tres leches)

Well duh, who doesn't like whipped cream, but does she really need it??

ugh

CindyandScott · December 2009

Oh yea, my mom always swore that if I would put a little butter and salt on Reagan's veggies when she was little that she would eat them. Um, no, not necessary.

Nanner · December 2009

TexasPaige:
My mother-in-law decided one day that he needed to try a pickle (he was around 7 months old and had only had cereal, avocado, and banana at that point). She just kept giving it to him to suck on, and anytime he would fuss for two seconds, she would say, "Oh, he must want the pickle" and would force it on him again. Drove me crazy, but I too didn't want to pick that battle.

Our favorite restaurant in Houston always gives a bowl of pickles for the table, and we used to give one to Sam for him to gnaw on when he was about 10 months old. He LOVED them! It was so funny to watch.

(I'm not saying you should have let him have it--it just reminded me of that.)

april16 · December 2009

My aunt and dad put a bit of gumbo on T's lips at Thankgiving. Our gumbo is pretty mild so it did not bother me much.

He actually liked it alot which is good b/c we are cajun and it is a staple every year during the holidays.

I do agree though that the chocolate pie and whipped cream is a bit much. I would worry about the sugar intake.

duchessII81 · December 2009

Just reading the post title made me tense about the ugly showdown that I know is looming. My dad gives Dr. Pepper to babies. J already has voiced concerns over Cupcake spending any unsupervised time with my parents because of my dad's inability to follow my sister or brother's directions/wishes when it comes to my nieces and nephews. Gah.

Britters85 · December 2009

I completely know how you feel. My mother fees my son anything and everything. At one year she was giving him sips of mtn dew and chocolate candy. It really does seem as if she goes out of her way to disregard my wishes. I wish I could say that I have found a solution but haven't found anything that really works yet. When my son stays with her, I send an approved food list. I know she will still probably give him something bad but I think if she sees the list it may discourage it some. All I can say is thank goodness we don't live in the same state. Just stay strong and stick to your ideals. After all it is your child and your turn to be mommy! Smile

God Bless!

thumpofmyheart · December 2009

My mom gave my baby coke right in front of me as I was telling her not to. I don't even want to know what she feeds her when I'm NOT around

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