Pedi thinks DD is fat

Mama2S-K-M · December 2009

I took DD to the pedi today and she basicly told me to put my kid on a diet. Cut out all juice cause she doesn't need the "empty calories" and give her Skim Milk. She said chubby babies are ok, but she doesn't want her to be a fat kid.

Ummm, 1st of all, she is perfectly proportional. She is off the chart for height, weight and head. She eats a variety of healthy foods. Her "juice" is maybe 2 oz of juice with 6-7 oz of water in her sippy straw cup. She drinks 16 oz a day of Milk at the most.

I am a little irritated about this. If she was in the 25th %ile for height and the 95th %ile for weight, then I could see there being a concern. And last time I checked 15 mos is still a baby!! She made it sound like my kid is obese!

ETA her stats!

31 lbs, 33 1/8 inches long and 50 cm head!

mama_k · December 2009

Whoa! She is a big girl!

Maybe your pedi meant it as more of a preventative step, because of her size? To avoid a future weight issue? I wouldn't necessarily consider cutting out juice and giving lower fat milk to be a diet.

punkfiction_v.3 · December 2009

mama_k:
Whoa! She is a big girl!
Maybe your pedi meant it as more of a preventative step, because of her size? To avoid a future weight issue? I wouldn't necessarily consider cutting out juice and giving lower fat milk to be a diet.

i agree with this.

just bc she's "off the chart" for all doesn't = proportional either

tanny05 · December 2009

She is tall for 15 months! I would take what the pedi said with a grain of salt. She honestly sounds fine to me. My DS is about 29 lbs and 34". Maybe reduce the amount of juice and any other less healthy snacks but if it were me I wouldn't switch to skim milk, not at this age. But I also don't listen to everything my pedi says.......

carolinag · December 2009

if her height & weight are proportional then i wouldn't worry about it too much. however i do think it's good that the doctor is diligent about weight. childhood obesity is such a problem these days, so it's good that docs want to prevent it. i wouldn't worry unless her height percentile drops below weight. then i'd potentially switch to 2%. i wouldn't do skim, but that's just me. sorry you felt insulted. that sucks.

estherandgeoff2 · December 2009

I would take what your pedi says about nutrition with a grain of salt. It sounds like your DD eats pretty healthy but I can see keeping an eye on it. At 15 months our DD was 34" and weighed 25 lbs, so your DD is definitely chunkier than ours. But that's not necessary a dietary thing. We don't give her juice but she does get whole milk at least 2x a day in addition to solid foods.

wifeandmama · December 2009

Eh, childhood obesity IS a big problem in our country and new studies show that children can be obese as early as age 2! I think your doctor is just taking preventative measures and helping establish healthy eating/drinking habits for your daughter now vs. if it became an issue down the line. My son was about 35-36 inches and 21 lb at that age, so I don't know much about restricting a diet for a toddler... lol, he's a stringbean!

Skipperg82 · December 2009

i didn't want to respond at first because I don't want it to be taken the wrong way, but that is big! My guy is the same length and weighs about 23 lbs!

I think the best you can do is just continue to give her healthy food (lots of fresh fruit, veggies, limiting the juice and processed snacks) then you are fine. I agree that the pedi probably just wants to make sure that she is that size because that's what her body naturally is, rather than her being bigger because she's being given unhealthy food to eat, kwim?

Laroogirl · December 2009

wifeandmama:
Eh, childhood obesity IS a big problem in our country and new studies show that children can be obese as early as age 2! I think your doctor is just taking preventative measures and helping establish healthy eating/drinking habits for your daughter now vs. if it became an issue down the line. My son was about 35-36 inches and 21 lb at that age, so I don't know much about restricting a diet for a toddler... lol, he's a stringbean!

This is what I am thinking too. My BIL's stepson-to-be was put on a diet at 2 years because he was way off the charts. His high weight could have been prevented if his previous pedi would have recommended lower fat and low sugar foods. My SIL to be had no idea that too much sugar could cause unhealthy weight gain. He is now back at a healthier weight for his height. Healthy diets and eating habits have to start young.

crazytmogirl · December 2009

She is bigger than my DD was, but I'd never call a baby fat.

My dd was 34" at 18 months and weighs 25.5 lbs.

caeliesmom · December 2009

If you really aren't comfortable with your pedi's advice you should get a 2nd opinion. You could also see if your insurance would cover a nutritionist, since pedi's don't always give the best advice regarding nutrition.

LilMissLadybug · December 2009

Was she born big? I don't know if I would give my child skim milk at that age because they do need the fat, but maybe consider 1 or 2%. Juice is empty calories, but I would also be a little offended too. DS was gaining too fast once he finally started gaining, and his DR said she was getting concerned about it, so I cut back on his bottles and offered a bigger variety of healthy foods.

jenifairies · December 2009

As long as you are feeding her healthy foods, I wouldn't sweat it. If she's still on that sort of track at 2 yo and you KNOW it's not what she's eating, I would ask if there's any medical condition. My old neighbors had a HUGE DD. She was like 1.5 and almost as wide as tall. She had some sort of metabolic disorder that caused the gain, not her diet.

FWIW, DD is 34 in and 25 lbs right now. At her 1 year appt her dr told me she needed to gain weight. :shrug: everyone has their own opinion.

goodtobethelarkster · December 2009

mama_k:

Whoa! She is a big girl!

Maybe your pedi meant it as more of a preventative step, because of her size? To avoid a future weight issue? I wouldn't necessarily consider cutting out juice and giving lower fat milk to be a diet.

I agree. Cutting out juice and moving to lower fat milk =/= diet.

elevendiamonds · December 2009

What's the point in going to the doctor if you are going to ignore their recommendations?

If you are thinking your doc is wrong, get a second opinion. A medical opinion.

Giving up juice and turning from homo milk to 2% or skim is hardly a diet.

RobynandJason05/06 · December 2009

Well i guess my kid is freaking OBESE then because i just posted this a few ago but hes huge seriously the size of 3 year old no exaggeration. 37 lbs and 37 1/2 inches at your LOs age he 35/35. My pedi never once said he was fat its genetics. My husbands whole entire family accept for his mother is in the high 6's. I agree healthy eating blah blah blah but if her kid has always been proportional height/weight how is she fat?

wifeandmama · December 2009

RobynandJason05/06:
Well i guess my kid is freaking OBESE then because i just posted this a few ago but hes huge seriously the size of 3 year old no exaggeration. 37 lbs and 37 1/2 inches at your LOs age he 35/35. My pedi never once said he was fat its genetics. My husbands whole entire family accept for his mother is in the high 6's. I agree healthy eating blah blah blah but if her kid has always been proportional height/weight how is she fat?

Maybe the OP's daughter is disproportionate or just had some rapid weight gain? I know from your posts that Justin has ALWAYS been big but proportionate.

caymanbride · December 2009

My son at his 15 month appt. was 29.2 pounds and 33 inches, so very close to your DD. My pedi never said a word -- DS has always been in the 95th %. I think your pedi is being a bit extreme, IMO.

mrsmatto · December 2009

mama_k:

Whoa! She is a big girl!

Maybe your pedi meant it as more of a preventative step, because of her size? To avoid a future weight issue? I wouldn't necessarily consider cutting out juice and giving lower fat milk to be a diet.

This. DD was only 22lbs @ 15mo. I don't think there is anything wrong with eliminating the fruit juice and high fat milk from her diet either. Prevent obesity now rather than worry about it later!

goodtobethelarkster · December 2009

I wanted to add that I don't think the doc's recommendation reflects poorly on you or your DD in anyway. I can totally understand how you'd see the "cut out juice and high fat milk" as a criticism like "WTH are you doing giving those to your kid." But I don't think it was meant like that.

Most people on this board give the occasional sippy of juice and full fat milk. If you are / were in anyway bad for doing that then we all are.

Everyone says, "Every kid is different" about when they start walking, talking, etc. But I think it applies to stuff like this too.

CrazeyJaneyR · December 2009

I'd be annoyed too. Did you ask for this advice or did she dish it? Did you say you were concerned about her size at all?

elevendiamonds · December 2009

CrazeyJaneyR:
I'd be annoyed too. Did you ask for this advice or did she dish it? Did you say you were concerned about her size at all?

WHAT? It's the doctor's JOB to point out things like this. It's not a "if you ask me a question" situation. What the hell....

CrazeyJaneyR · December 2009

elevendiamonds:
CrazeyJaneyR:
I'd be annoyed too. Did you ask for this advice or did she dish it? Did you say you were concerned about her size at all?
WHAT? It's the doctor's JOB to point out things like this. It's not a "if you ask me a question" situation. What the hell....

?

I'm not saying the Dr. shouldn't have said it, they should. But I would still be annoyed. The truth hurts sometimes. My point is, if she expressed concern, she shouldn't be upset for getting the answer.?

carolinag · December 2009

CrazeyJaneyR:
I'd be annoyed too. Did you ask for this advice or did she dish it? Did you say you were concerned about her size at all?

she was at the doctor!!! are they supposed to ask permission to give us their medical opinions and guidance? b/c if i'm going to a doctor who is waiting for me to ask, then that is a shiity doctor.

elevendiamonds · December 2009

CrazeyJaneyR:
elevendiamonds:
CrazeyJaneyR:
I'd be annoyed too. Did you ask for this advice or did she dish it? Did you say you were concerned about her size at all?
WHAT? It's the doctor's JOB to point out things like this. It's not a "if you ask me a question" situation. What the hell....

I'm not saying the Dr. shouldn't have said it, they should. But I would still be annoyed. The truth hurts sometimes. My point is, if she expressed concern, she shouldn't be upset for getting the answer.

Read what you wrote and tell me how I misinterpreted.

goodtobethelarkster · December 2009

elevendiamonds:

CrazeyJaneyR:
I'd be annoyed too. Did you ask for this advice or did she dish it? Did you say you were concerned about her size at all?

WHAT? It's the doctor's JOB to point out things like this. It's not a "if you ask me a question" situation. What the hell....

Yeah. I'm sure some pedis are weight obsessed weirdos who give inappropriate advice. But your pedi needs to be able to comment on your kid's growth and health.

If my doctor didn't weigh me or my kid's doctor didn't weigh my kid and comment if they felt the weight was potentially problematic or we could be making better health decisions then that's an issue.

mrsmatto · December 2009

CrazeyJaneyR:
I'd be annoyed too. Did you ask for this advice or did she dish it? Did you say you were concerned about her size at all?

Indifferent

CrazeyJaneyR · December 2009

elevendiamonds:
CrazeyJaneyR:
elevendiamonds:
CrazeyJaneyR:
I'd be annoyed too. Did you ask for this advice or did she dish it? Did you say you were concerned about her size at all?
WHAT? It's the doctor's JOB to point out things like this. It's not a "if you ask me a question" situation. What the hell....
?
I'm not saying the Dr. shouldn't have said it, they should. But I would still be annoyed. The truth hurts sometimes. My point is, if she expressed concern, she shouldn't be upset for getting the answer.?
Read what you wrote and tell me how I misinterpreted.?

?

What, are you bored and feel like picking a fight? Lol. *yawn*?

goodtobethelarkster · December 2009

CrazeyJaneyR:
elevendiamonds:
CrazeyJaneyR:
elevendiamonds:

CrazeyJaneyR:
I'd be annoyed too. Did you ask for this advice or did she dish it? Did you say you were concerned about her size at all?

WHAT? It's the doctor's JOB to point out things like this. It's not a "if you ask me a question" situation. What the hell....

I'm not saying the Dr. shouldn't have said it, they should. But I would still be annoyed. The truth hurts sometimes. My point is, if she expressed concern, she shouldn't be upset for getting the answer.

Read what you wrote and tell me how I misinterpreted.

What, are you bored and feel like picking a fight? Lol. *yawn*

Are you saying that the doc shouldn't have commented if she had a weight concern about the child? I'm confused.

Mama2S-K-M · December 2009

Maybe I should clear a few things up

Both my DD and DS are off the charts for height and weight. DS is expected to be 6'6" full grown height. They are not proportional because everything is off the charts, they are proportional because they are at the exact same spot off the charts for height and weight.

I guess I am more upset at the way she was looking at my child like she was a freak or something. This was the partner of my normal pedi. I told her that I thought she was actually slimming down because she just started walking and she laughed in my face!

My daughter's diet is no different than any other child I know her age. She does not eat high fat and high sugar foods. I know what to feed her.

Maybe I am just sensitive, cause some of the replies on her sounded just was bitchy as the pedi.

elevendiamonds · December 2009

CrazeyJaneyR:
elevendiamonds:
CrazeyJaneyR:
elevendiamonds:
CrazeyJaneyR:
I'd be annoyed too. Did you ask for this advice or did she dish it? Did you say you were concerned about her size at all?
WHAT? It's the doctor's JOB to point out things like this. It's not a "if you ask me a question" situation. What the hell....

I'm not saying the Dr. shouldn't have said it, they should. But I would still be annoyed. The truth hurts sometimes. My point is, if she expressed concern, she shouldn't be upset for getting the answer.
Read what you wrote and tell me how I misinterpreted.

What, are you bored and feel like picking a fight? Lol. *yawn*

Not at all. I want you to reread it so you can get a grip on what you wrote and how many of us read it.

elevendiamonds · December 2009

Mama2S-K-M:
Maybe I should clear a few things up

Both my DD and DS are off the charts for height and weight. DS is expected to be 6'6" full grown height. They are not proportional because everything is off the charts, they are proportional because they are at the exact same spot off the charts for height and weight.

I guess I am more upset at the way she was looking at my child like she was a freak or something. This was the partner of my normal pedi. I told her that I thought she was actually slimming down because she just started walking and she laughed in my face!

My daughter's diet is no different than any other child I know her age. She does not eat high fat and high sugar foods. I know what to feed her.

Maybe I am just sensitive, cause some of the replies on her sounded just was bitchy as the pedi.

The thing that stands out the most to me here is that this was the partner of the pedi, not the pedi you normally see. Before making any changes, talk to YOUR pedi, the one that knows your child. If you feel like the partner and the pedi are both wrong, then go see a third opinion.

But then take the recommendations.

I think you are being sensitive, but I'm not sure why. Only you know your child. I think you should be more sensitive to what the doctors say than what strangers on the internet say. And by sensitive, I mean take action to.

Mama2S-K-M · December 2009

Here is a pic from Monday of my DD. Honestly, I don't see anything wrong with her. I was planning to switch her to a lower fat milk at 18 mos like I did with DS, but I certainly don't think my DD has a weight issue.

caymanbride · December 2009

She's beautiful and looks perfect to me!

elevendiamonds · December 2009

Mama2S-K-M:
Here is a pic from Monday of my DD. Honestly, I don't see anything wrong with her. I was planning to switch her to a lower fat milk at 18 mos like I did with DS, but I certainly don't think my DD has a weight issue.

OMG she is adorable.

I don't think she looks overweight at all, myself. Like I said, talk to your regular Pedi to clear it up and for now, don't worry what the alternate said.

CrazeyJaneyR · December 2009

goodtobethelarkster:
CrazeyJaneyR:
elevendiamonds:
CrazeyJaneyR:
elevendiamonds:

CrazeyJaneyR:
I'd be annoyed too. Did you ask for this advice or did she dish it? Did you say you were concerned about her size at all?
WHAT? It's the doctor's JOB to point out things like this. It's not a "if you ask me a question" situation. What the hell....
?
I'm not saying the Dr. shouldn't have said it, they should. But I would still be annoyed. The truth hurts sometimes. My point is, if she expressed concern, she shouldn't be upset for getting the answer.?
Read what you wrote and tell me how I misinterpreted.?
?
What, are you bored and feel like picking a fight? Lol. *yawn*?
Are you saying that the doc shouldn't have commented if she had a weight concern about the child?? I'm confused.

I just answered that above.?

CrazeyJaneyR · December 2009

Mama2S-K-M:
Here is a pic from Monday of my DD.? Honestly, I don't see anything wrong with her.? I was planning to switch her to a lower fat milk at 18 mos like I did with DS, but I certainly don't think my DD has a weight issue.
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She looks perfect! : )?

Mama2S-K-M · December 2009

Thank you

I look at her and see a normal perfectly healthy baby, not a huge fatty! lol

Also, she has been >95th% since about 1 mo old, this isn't exactly a new development either! lol

ameliahedlund · December 2009

What a perfect little girl.

I too have a very "tall" little girl. at her 15 month she was 32 1/2 inches and 28 lbs. Not too far off from your DD.

I would be very sensitive about the recommendation too. Next time just be sure not to see that Dr.!

again, she is beautiful-does not look over weight at all.

Mrs.Hizzo · December 2009

I think the misunderstanding stems from your assumption that since she's off the charts in both height and weight, she must be proportional. But if you look at the growth charts for a 21 month old, your daughter's height is in the 50th percentile while her weight is still off the charts. I imagine that's what the pedi was seeing and concerned about, even if she didn't explain it well.

LucyPevensie · December 2009

She doesn't look "fat" at all - seriously. Not even overly chubby. She looks perfect. I think pedi partner might be koo koo.

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