Anyone else not trust other people?

i*heart*him · December 2009

I NEVER thought I would be like this, but I am....When I bring LO to my MIL or parents or even with my husband I find myself getting frustrated because they are not taking care of LO like I do. Like they don't know the little tricks to make him happy and they don't seem to care. For instance, we went to visit my MIL today and he usually eats at 11, well because his mouth was open at 10:30 my MIL demanded that he eat. I felt like I could not tell her that he probably just wants his paci or is upset he was woken up by her so I let her feed him.

Or my dad was watching him and holding him and I said "dad I think he wants his swing, or to just be left alone, he is tired" And my dad said "Oh he's fine" and continuted to dance around with him while LO is screaming bloody murder.

I am worried when I go back to work I will feel sick all day with worry about how he is doing and if he is being taken care of okay.

wnk1029 · December 2009

I don't know that I'd say I don't trust others, but I do get kind of annoyed when people throw off our routine or assume that they know what he's going to like just b/c they were a mom (or dad, or grandma, or whatever) once.

Shanbo22 · December 2009

::raises hand:: I DO NOT want to leave my LO with anyone! Not even my DH:( He doesnt do it like I do and that annoyes me also. I am worried about the first time DH is going to want to go out together, I am so not comfortable leaving my LO with his mom and I know this is going to be an argument.

i*heart*him · December 2009

wnk1029:
I don't know that I'd say I don't trust others, but I do get kind of annoyed when people throw off our routine or assume that they know what he's going to like just b/c they were a mom (or dad, or grandma, or whatever) once.

I guess that's what I should have said instead of not trusting. Like my MIL was watching him while I went the store last week right after he ate and when I came back he was sucking on an empty bottle because MIL said he wanted too. She will be watching him on Fridays when I go back to work and I told my DH he better make it very clear that his routine better be kept.

HLF2005 · December 2009

I totally thought I would feel like this, but I don't, and that sometimes scares me/makes me feel bad : ) I am sure it will get better for you! Don't feel bad for feeling that way, you just love your little guy and there isn't anything wrong with that!

bobbydsgirl · December 2009

yes. i am getting my hair done on sat and with the drive will be gone at least 3 hrs - longest ever and i am worried about dh being able to keep him to his routine and calm him effectively and not get frustrated.

i*heart*him · December 2009

bobbydsgirl:
yes. i am getting my hair done on sat and with the drive will be gone at least 3 hrs - longest ever and i am worried about dh being able to keep him to his routine and calm him effectively and not get frustrated.

We both have a Jack : ) YEs I don't like leaving Dh with him either, even though he is very loving and great with him, he just does things differently. ANd he always puts him in the swing!!!

Tonya_G · December 2009

No, not really. Everyone does things differently- I guess I figure that my mom and MIL managed to raise 7 kids between the two of them, that they'll be ok and LO will be better off for it in the end. I was the same way with DS- I was reliant on them to care for him while I worked, so didn't really have much choice. I had to decide what fundamental battles I really wanted to pick and made sure those got followed, and outside of that, tried not to worry. Things being done differently, if they're "little things" are not going to harm your child at the end of the day.

OCMom2be · December 2009

Shanbo22:
::raises hand:: I DO NOT want to leave my LO with anyone! Not even my DH:( He doesnt do it like I do and that annoyes me also. I am worried about the first time DH is going to want to go out together, I am so not comfortable leaving my LO with his mom and I know this is going to be an argument.

Oh my gosh, you don't even trust your DH?! YIKES! He has to be able to create his own "care taking" skills. After all, it's his LO too! Yes, my DH doesn't do stuff like I do, but he is perfectly capable of taking care of our daughter w/o me around. As a matter of fact, his first alone day was Tuesday, he admitted it was weird not having me there but he did a great job on his own. No diaper disasters, feeding frenzy or consoling issues. The MIL could be a different story, they're old school and that can be scary, but they have done it before and more than likely a little better than we do. My MIL is fantastic with our DD. She doesn't ever seem to put her down, which is fine by me!

novemberchange · December 2009

I feel the EXACT same way. And it annoys me that no one can comfort her like I can and when she starts getting upset in someone elses' arms it makes me really annoyed that they wont give her to me to fix it. LOL.

julesverne · December 2009

wnk1029:
I don't know that I'd say I don't trust others, but I do get kind of annoyed when people throw off our routine or assume that they know what he's going to like just b/c they were a mom (or dad, or grandma, or whatever) once.

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Jessalicious01 · December 2009

same here.

Alot of times DD wants her paci to go to sleep with and so she will try to suck on anything near her mouth when she is tired. DH and MIL always think she is hungry again and stick a bottle in her mouth. Then she gets a stomachache because she ate too much and it's ME who has to deal with it!

or they don't put vaseline on her when they changer her diaper (I do it with every diaper change even if she's not red)

They never put a burp cloth under her when she eats so formula gets everywhere. Now, I make sure she has a bib on when anyone else will be feeding her.

Last night I went downstairs to find DD in the swing with the blanket over her face and DH sleeping on the couch. I just about lost it!!

i*heart*him · December 2009

Jessalicious01:

same here.

Alot of times DD wants her paci to go to sleep with and so she will try to suck on anything near her mouth when she is tired. DH and MIL always think she is hungry again and stick a bottle in her mouth. Then she gets a stomachache because she ate too much and it's ME who has to deal with it!

or they don't put vaseline on her when they changer her diaper (I do it with every diaper change even if she's not red)

They never put a burp cloth under her when she eats so formula gets everywhere. Now, I make sure she has a bib on when anyone else will be feeding her.

Last night I went downstairs to find DD in the swing with the blanket over her face and DH sleeping on the couch. I just about lost it!!

I am glad I am not the only one. DH wraps LO with like 10 layers at night because it's cold out. I wake up to feed him and he is so sweaty...yet DH won't stop doing it!!!

just_peachy · December 2009

I think it's a CONTROL issue and I know I have it.

I want to be in control of everything...have control over this and that and when I give my son to someone else, I'm relinquishing all control to someone else.

Very hard to do...especially when you are a first time nervous mom and don't even know your OWN instincts yet.

It will get better.

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