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Did ferber method not work for anyone?

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DS has been getting up every hour at night for the past 1 1/2 weeks. He's never STTN so I don't expect that. He's never been a good sleeper/napper but this is beyond exhaustion that I can't even think straight. Nothing we do will settle him...we've changed diapers, rocked/sing/walked, put him in our bed, white noise..you name it. Sometimes he would settle when we put him in the swing but he's going to outgrow that thing very soon.  We took him to the pedi but he's not teething and doesn't have an ear infection.  Basically the pedi just told us that it's just the way our baby is...which means we have a fussy baby...which doesn't make it any better.  We're going to start sleep training when DS gets to 6 months so I'm starting to read to prepare. I have the Ferber book and the No Cry Sleep Solution. I gave up on reading Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child b/c that book is difficult to read in my sleep deprived mental state. Did anyone try CIO and it did not work for their baby? I'm reading NCSS but only on chapter 2. Sorry for such a long rambling post. I'm just so exhausted (as every parent is) and just want to make sure we're going to do the right thing for DS. If you've made it to the end of this post, thanks for reading/listening.

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Re: Did ferber method not work for anyone?

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    For No Cry Sleep Solution, skim the book until you get to the problem you are having.   It's an interesting book to read, but it's organized so you can get right to the point that you need.  

    Unlike Healthy Sleep Habits, Healthy Child which, I agree, is just a nightmare to try to read.  I got my best sleep tip out of it: that babies need to nap no less frequently than every two hours.  But, the rest of the book is repetitive and wordy and ugh.

     I wish I had advice for you on Ferber.  We haven't done it.  I did try a modified CIO on the lines of HSHHC's "extinction" method about a week ago.  It was a total failure.  She screamed for an hour with no sign of stopping and I went in picked her up and never tried that again.   I read about some babies who stop crying and put themselves to sleep after two or three "10 minute checks" and I just think "That is not my baby."  She does have a fussy cry from which she can soothe herself.  But once she gets full out crying, she just gets more and more wound up.  I'm glad we tried it because I just know that is not for us.  But, that's just the way DD is wired.  

    I really like No Cry Sleep Solution.   One point she makes about frequent waking is that babies reach the end of a sleep cycle at around 30-45 minutes.   As adults, we'd just kind of readjust position and go back to sleep and not think about that.  But for babies, they sometimes really wake up.   DD would do that with her first sleep stretch at night.  So, for a few nights, I've been following the NCSS advice and going in just BEFORE she usually wakes so I can replace the pacifier or just rub her tummy when she FIRST starts to stir.  That seems to keep her from coming out of her sleep.  I can't imagine that you'd want to do that every hour overnight, but maybe for the first few wakings just to teach her what to do?

    Sorry, now I'm rambling, but I just wanted to give you some additional thoughts. 

     

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