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Is it wrong that I want to smack my MIL?

npaulsellnpaulsell
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So, MIL called here asking about a gift to get DH for his bday. When we were getting off the phone she said "I love you" and I replied "You too."
For one, I have no clue why she said it...and two...It really made me feel awkward, bc I am not comfortable saying that to her. As I have posted numerous, numerous times, we do not get along....at all!! This is the same woman that ran into some friends of ours the night DD was born and sat there and talked bad about me.

Anyhow......less than 5 mins after we get off the phone FIL calls and asks why I was so mean to MIL on the phone. I was told it was very rude of me to say "you too" instead of "I love you too."

Why should I be forced to love a person? We truthfully do NOT get a long...period. DH and my Dad are very close, and I would never expect DH to tell him he loves my Dad.

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Re: Is it wrong that I want to smack my MIL?

  • sablojasabloja
    only if I can smack mine Wink
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  • star173star173 member
    Hmm to your MIL
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  • JulyFiveBrideJulyFiveBride member
    That's really weird... what did you tell your FIL? lol, "Uhm, I don't love her, so it was awkward?"
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  • LondonBridgesLondonBridges

    Oh my...she needs to get a grip! It's silly that the comment even bothered her, but for her to have FIL call you on it is unfuckingbelievable!   I don't know that I would've been able to keep my calm on the phone with him.

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  • exhausted_brideexhausted_bride

    Yeah, IL's say "i love you" and it does make me uncomfortable, but it is sweet that they care so much and feel comfortable sayingit  to me. So when I can't say it back, I kind of view it as my problem, not theirs. I always say "we love you, too.." somehow that seems less akward??

    FIL should not have called you back. No good can come of that. That's just stirring the pot. I totally would have said "I'm sorry, but it makes me uncomfotable.." just be honest...

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  • npaulsellnpaulsell
    imageLondonBridges:

    Oh my...she needs to get a grip! It's silly that the comment even bothered her, but for her to have FIL call you on it is unfuckingbelievable!   I don't know that I would've been able to keep my calm on the phone with him.

    It is like H.S. with them two. MIL works for DH (which is another p.i.t.a!!) If they ever get in to work debate..at work mind you...MIL goes home and tells FIL that Dh was so mean to her. And you bet your bottom dollar FIL is calling telling DH he needs to apologize. Don't they make a little blue pill or something that MIL can take!!! lol

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  • MaestraMamaMaestraMama
    What a wacko.  Sounds like she's fishing for something to use against you.  I can't believe your FIL called.  OMG!
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  • kgb1411kgb1411 member
    wow.  she really has your FIL under her thumb, doesn't she?  Of course it isn't rude to say "you too." 
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  • Lucky_DragonflyLucky_Dragonfly member
    My MIL will say that to me as well but I can;t say it back. I can;t say it to someone that I don;t feel that way about. I care verymuch for her and if something ever happened I woudl be very upset, but I can;t say that I love her. I only say it if I mean it.
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  • lpennie16lpennie16 member
    ugh  you poor thing
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  • sarahintx05sarahintx05
    Wow, I can't believe you FIL called you about it!  I would totally want to smack both of them.  My MIL said I love you to me once and I smiled and said thanks...super uncomfortable.  I think your response was more appropriate than mine.  :)
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  • Mrs.McLovinMrs.McLovin member
    I think your FIL deserves a smack before your MIL.
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