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worried about DH

He has been very depressed lately and I don't know how to help. He takes every little setback so hard. He is usually such a positive person so it kills me to see him like this. He has been to the doc and is taking herbal supplements but I don't know if they're working. I just needed to get that out, I know there's not much anyone can say...
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Re: worried about DH

  • No advice... just wanted you to know you're not alone. My DH does the same thing... he stresses out very easily... and since LO has arrived, he feels like he's not doing well enough to provide for our family... so he's in a perpetual state of being down, bordering on depression. He does get depressed very quickly. So.. I feel your pain.

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  • I'm very sorry. What kind of a doc? Does he maybe need something more than herbal supplements for the time being, like a prescription treatment? Has he considered counseling?

    Hang in there.

  • Ugh, that's hard.  My DH takes an anti-depressant (but I think he needs a higher dose!  He is one moody SOB - ha!)  It's very hard to deal with someone else's depression and mood issues.  Make sure you're taking care of yourself - and encourage him to head back to the doc and or therapist if things don't get better.  Hang in there. 
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  • I'm so sorry. I hope he feels better. 
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  • I'm sorry. I am in your DH's shoes - and it's hard to be that person too. Can he take a prescription? I hate it but it keeps me sane. Encourage him and give him hugs - those little things go a long way.
  • ((( Hugs )))

    If he doesn't want to take an Rx, maybe a UV lamp & some extra exercise would help. I get SAD pretty badly & the UV lamp really helped.  

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  • He wanted a prescription, but the Dr. wanted to try natural remedies first. If they dont work he'll go back.
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    He wanted a prescription, but the Dr. wanted to try natural remedies first. If they dont work he'll go back.

    Again, what kind of doctor was this? I find this odd. I would also have him seek a different doctor. I don't discount natural remedies. But for a man to be depressed enough to seek out medical help, be interested in prescription medication, and have his wife post about his depression as well - well, seems to me like prescription medication could help. And/or counseling. I am no doctor of course; it's just my uninformed gut feeling.

    What is the herbal supplement he's on? St. John's wort?

    What about St. John's wort?

    The extract from St. John's wort (Hypericum perforatum), a bushy, wild-growing plant with yellow flowers, has been used for centuries in many folk and herbal remedies. Today in Europe, it is used extensively to treat mild to moderate depression. In the United States, it is one of the top-selling botanical products.

    To address increasing American interests in St. John's wort, the National Institutes of Health conducted a clinical trial to determine the effectiveness of the herb in treating adults who have major depression. Involving 340 patients diagnosed with major depression, the eight-week trial randomly assigned one-third of them to a uniform dose of St. John's wort, one-third to a commonly prescribed SSRI, and one-third to a placebo. The trial found that St. John's wort was no more effective than the placebo in treating major depression. Another study is looking at the effectiveness of St. John's wort for treating mild or minor depression.

    Other research has shown that St. John's wort can interact unfavorably with other medications, including those used to control HIV infection. On February 10, 2000, the FDA issued a Public Health Advisory letter stating that the herb appears to interfere with certain medications used to treat heart disease, depression, seizures, certain cancers, and organ transplant rejection. The herb also may interfere with the effectiveness of oral contraceptives. Because of these potential interactions, patients should always consult with their doctors before taking any herbal supplement.

    https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/depression/complete-index.shtml#pub10

  • Have they checked his Vitamin D levels?  If his Vitamin D is low (and living where you do I wouldn't be surprised if his is) then taking a supplement might really help him.  This is the brand that I am ordering for us.  It came very highly recommended.
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  • Yes, it's St. Johns Wort *sigh* I really don't know why she wouldn't prescribe anything real for him. . .She seems to be of the school that believes its best not to be on medication for depression, she has talked to me about reducing my dosage as well, even though it's working for me and I have no desire to do so. She's very crunchy, which usually works in our favour, but not in this case. She said something about how its hard to find one thats effective, it can get worse before it gets better and she didnt want to make things worse at such a high pressure time in his life unless necessary. . .
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  • Do some research on Niacin (Vitamin B3) therapy.  It's worked wonders for my DH, he no longer needs his antidepressants.  There is a normal "flush" associated with use, but it's completely safe, just makes you feel warm and toasty for a while.  :)
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    Do some research on Niacin (Vitamin B3) therapy.  It's worked wonders for my DH, he no longer needs his antidepressants.  There is a normal "flush" associated with use, but it's completely safe, just makes you feel warm and toasty for a while.  :)

    I'll mention this to my DH.

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