2nd Trimester

Im not telling anyone im going Natural again.(Vent)

Okay, you had a rough delivery,  so? doesn't mean i will. ugh. this girl i work with just came in here and gave me a play by play of how her delivery was horrible, and she was in so much pain, and blah blah blah, and she was like "You should def. get the pain killers. you wont make it. and you will look like crap after."

wow. seriously? i am all for anyone going through labor how they want to. you want drugs? awesome. you don't? awesome. i don't, that is just me. i don't need to hear about how i am going to look after i give birth. which is one of the greatest things in life.

i don't know why i let this bug me so much, but it is like, eating away at me. grrrr

 

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Re: Im not telling anyone im going Natural again.(Vent)

  • more power to you, that is my attitude, I'm a pansy I know natural isn't for me but I don't have an opinion on what other people do!

    I hate labor horror stories I think I just want to discover it for myself I don't need to hear about it from other people!!!

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  • I went natural with #1 and when I tell people I plan on doing it again they always have an opinion (even though I've ALREADY DONE IT) so I just usually don't talk about it.

    I think it's a good idea to keep your plans to yourself because honestly, until you are in the situation, you have no idea what is going to happen.  There is nothing worse than people who talk on and on and on about their natural childbirth plans then end up having to have a csection for some reason beyond their control.

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  • P.S. It's true, you will look like crap afterwards :)  I looked like I ran a marathon in the rain compared to my friends who had epidurals.

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  • I told someone that I wanted to try natural and she said, "Why? What are you trying to prove?"  Uhhh...nothing; it's a decision I've made.  I learned quickly to shut up.  It's your baby, your nerves, your hoo ha, do what you darn well please! 
  • Kudos to you!!

    I think the most anoying is unsolicited / unwanted advice in every single topic.. c'mon people.. I've made a decision and that's it.. I'm not requesting for your particular experience, I just don't care!!!

    totally understandable.. now

    deeep breath....

    relax...

    smile!!! Wink

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  • I completely understand. People just have strong opinions about things surrounding children and childbirth. It never ends from here on out (from what I hear). Before kids, people don't give you opinions, but as soon as you concieve, it's blah blah blah blah!!!

    I finally told my MIL to stop telling me about how my husband was 10 lbs with a giant head and "omg, I can't believe you really think you're gonna be able to do it without drugs." She got the hint.

    You have a great outlook on the birth and you'll do great! Stay tough. :)

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  • My delivery was the worst but I still say, if you can do it then DO IT!  I wish I had been able to!

  • The less you share with people the less they have to comment on.
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  • You may look like crap afterwards you may look great.  I had two natural deliveries and looked like a#$ after the first and seriously looked awesome after the second.  It is possible to go natural and look great afterwards, although that didnt really matter to me...just makes for better pics.
  • I am with you! I have had one person (aside from DH) tell me I can do it and think it's great. Everyone I have mentioned it too give me the same thing, a play by play of their delivery and have I can't do it with out meds or they say I'm stupid. Being told I can't just pisses me off and makes me more determined to do it and prove them all wrong. It's not like I am stupid and don't think it's going to hurt at all but it's what my body was made to do and it's an amazing beautiful thing that I want to experience. And who care what you LOOK like afterwards, I'm going to be to busy staring at my little man and making sure he's perfect and healthy to care if my make up is right or my hair is just looks good.

     I say MORE POWER TO  YOU!  YOU CAN DO IT!

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  • Good for you!For thousands of years women had to deliver without epidurals, you'll be fine. My boss didnt get drugs for all three of her kids and neither did my friends mom. Our bodies are built to do this.

    That being said Im a wuss and will get drugs stat!

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  • I mentioned going natural to a friend of mine and she freaked out and told me I was nuts. Then I said we were going to use clothe diapers and again she thought we were insane. Hello...my baby, my choice, bite me!!
  • I tell people "I'd like to do natural and I'll try my best, but I'll get an epidural if I feel I need one" and the response is always "yeah right.  I'll bet you $100 you get an epidural".  So annoying..like everyone is sitting around waiting to say "I told you so" after I deliver?  Um, you didn't tell me so.  I told you that the epidural is a possibility, but I am going to try to avoid it as best I can.
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  • i'm so sorry...and you CAN do it!!  i'm just going to tell people 'we'll see what happens, i have to be open to the different options at the time b/c things are going to happen however they happen'....vague!  that'll keep 'em off your back.

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  • Yeah, I share your vent for sure!  I HATE when my family asks if we are going to get pain meds, because when I tell them no, they think it's a open call for their terrible birth stories. I think the ONLY reason they ask is to have a reason to tell their story.

     That's nice that you screamed the whole time with an epidural, called your boyfriend / husband / one night stand a mother f*****, and yelled at every nurse that tried to help you because you were in so much pain. I dont want to hear about it.

     I just dont think labor has to be that way. It's going to be a lot of pain, but how you choose to handle that pain is your choice.

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