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Why does this make me so sad???

s_angels_angel
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backstory - I used to be engaged to an ex before I met DH.....amazing guy but not mr. right. We had a hard break up and never really spoke again. However, my mom remains friends with his mom and sister.

He got married a few years ago and I was so happy for him. Today my mom told me that she was speaking to his sister and they have decided not to have children. She (the wife) originally wanted them and now doesn't. I know he wanted to be a dad (of course it was something we discussed). Apparently they are very happy together but it just makes me sad that he will never be a dad. Was it a mutual decision? all her? perhaps they can't have children? I know it is none of my business. She is 30 and he is 39. If they are able to have children perhaps she will change her mind. I really hpoe so.

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Re: Why does this make me so sad???

  • rumpunch21rumpunch21

    I can't really say I know what you are feeling, but I sort of do. My brother ALWAYS wanted kids. He married a woman who absolutely does not. They discussed it prior to getting married - and he was still holding out hope she'd change her mind. She always said "I'm not saying never, but definitely not now, and I don't know if I ever will." Anyway, now that we have 2 kids, and they see how "hard" it is, she definitely isn't having them. I see that he gets sad sometimes, but he loves her sooo much that I think he's at peace with it.

     I guess you just never know what goes on between two people. But it makes me sad to think my brother will never be a dad also....

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